My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

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Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

Most expensive UK boarding school is Cheltenham ladies college at just shy of £23k per term.

Where this magic school?

Hogwarts

Yes so it’s being used for at least two causes it shouldn’t then…
Funding genocide doesn't make funding your kids’ “prestigious” education any more palatable.

@MasterBeth I,know a lot of 16 year olds yes ! My kid is not the only slightly uncommunicative 16 year old boy - regardless of his education

Uppingham School?

Teachers at £55,000-a-year boarding school are 'failing to look after pupils' physical, mental and emotional wellbeing': Inspectors issue stark warning and push for changes to stamp out poor behaviour | Daily Mail Online

@NoSoapJustUseShowerGel no just a strange thing to get in a lather about Soapy , when there is BIG stuff going on in this world. Being on a military posting is not a jolly.

@asadsorrytale I can guarantee one thing though, I teach my children to be kind and non judgemental

So did my two… one DS one DD. Very prestigious co-ed.
They’ve both grown into two amazing adults, well adjusted with good careers and partners.
They loved their school and despite only having them home every six weeks we are a close family and love each other to bits.
That’s it.
The End.

I went to boarding school and absolutely loved it ...from 11- 16, can completely see why you would send them. It was one of the best times of my life 😁

Interesting thread OP. Did learn a few things too so thanks for starting the debate.

Found this link interesting too. No one size fits all and lots of negatives as well as some positives with gaps in knowledge the broad conclusion so just like you said earlier. Guess we are all just doing what we think is best within our respective means:

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/bjp.12854

Op you say there's no plan b of they no longer wanted to board, but also that you don't think your daughter will want to board so surely there's a plan for her? How feasible is it long term for her to do her education between different countries or will you homeschool her for secondary education?

I think you're being naive to this. From someone who knows about boarding schools, there is alot of emotional issues due to the lack of attachment to parents. They go through so much in teenage years and staff are there but not really emotionally as they have to keep it professional still. Im assuming they have matrons but again cant replace parents.
I have no doubt though that they have received the best education and they will be independent but as I've said the emotional side may not be so great.

@TheOriginalFrench yes I am aware of the boarding school board. AMA is great though isn't it for finding out how people do life

@Donttellempike actually no. you have to be bright across the board at the school . if you arent you dont get in..also you son, he sounds a little unpleasant to be calling people thick?

Or is it Winchester?

Boarding school is a million miles from my experience and that of my children. I'm also pretty die-hard against private education. Yet I'm finding this thread, and the accusations being thrown at OP, pretty wild.

She IS parenting her dc and public school holidays are after all crazily long. She's probably with them almost as often as shes not - now, I still think teenagers need their mums but it clearly isn't fair to say she hardly ever sees them.

I have two questions, OP. First, what do you think it means to be humble and how do you teach it? Because IME privately educated people often know better than to bray loudly about oiks and behave as though they're in the Bullingdon club, but the underlying entitlement and superiority still remains. My teenage (state-educated) girls and their friends often talk about how the boys from the local posh schools try to get with them, because they see state school girls as 'easy' and also as a conduit to drugs.

My second question is about your job. It's interesting you describe yourself as a humanitarian, because IME this term is usually used by philanthropists rather than volunteers. Do you work with overseas aid charities, or another kind of organisation? Do you have a set of skills you offer in each country, or are you finding the best opportunities wherever you land? Is this work meaningful to you and to the host charity, given how much time you must spend going back to the UK? Is volunteering satisfying for you or has your career also been sacrificed to your dh's military service?

Thank you.

It can't be that prestigious if your children went at 11 — major public schools don't admit until 13.

yes it is , and yes they are happy

Uppingham is fully coed and has just opened a day house.

they can do what they want after school ! Happy to,support them in whatever they decide in life

@MaidOfSteel yes, and what are you doing to address this inequality?

I don't know~ will see what she wants tomdo and what she will be suited to a bit later

Why did you even feel the need to write this thread OP - seeking validation perhaps? Respectfully I don’t give a damn if your kids go to a posh public school and I have no questions - hope you’re enjoying paying the extra VAT.

Yes, it’s definitely Winchester.

Are you worried about your sons ending up as massive arrogant knobs? I've had three family members who went to top boarding schools, including Eton and King's Canterbury, and let's just say, they really do think they're the dog's bollocks. And I've worked with others, too. I've found them petty, ultra-competitive, EXTREMELY shallow, and, yes, arrogant. I've also had a flatmate and a husband who went to those sorts of schools, and they both lived similarly. You could tell that they had been brought up in institutions. They lived in pigsties, basically. The flatmate went to school with Camilla's daughter in the Nineties. Said she was very quiet.

But there's no doubt that the education is wonderful and the people who went there do have a wonderful sheen of confidence. And you get dreadful types at state schools, too. Sadly though, in my experience the public school label as being absolutely full of themselves and boastful, including as adults, is well-earned.

I went to a top state school and got better grades than most people I know who went to these top schools, which is how I have studied, worked, and lived among them!