My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

[tummyduck]

Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

How many boys at the school would qualify for free school meals?

She has said her dh is in the armed forces. She is a military wife trailing around after her dh, leaving her kids in the UK whilst paying peanuts in fees due to military subsidy.

As I say nothing to crow about and I'd suggest the op actually shush about it, it's a bit cringeworthy. I'm not a big boarding fan but if fully funded? Their choice I suppose.

Not worth handing over parenting duties for a military base social life though imo .

The ones I have come across do know, but thanks to rock solid self assurance bred into them from day one....they simply dont care.

Apparently “girls have different learning needs” but we are yet to learn what this means…

You just don't parent..

How does the school make a huge deal about their responsibilities? What do they do to make their students socially aware?

Yes @Victoria39 , you seem to be under the impression OP is wealthy. Is paying for this education.
She is not. She likes to think she is though.

Classic example of "old money whispers". She is indeed crowing away. No whispering.

They go to get contacts in the way it's always been so they get to enjoy privileges that others, probably more deserving don't. Not fair at all. Hope they are good and kind people, but nurturing isn't left to those you don't trust.

My DH & a my cousin went to prestigious boarding schools in late 1950's-1960's. Both were sexually abused.

I went to a prestigious boarding school that specialised in ballet, At the age of 12 I was told that I was fat & put on a strict diet so that I would lose 1/2 a stone in 2 weeks - we're talking banana for breakfast, banana & small green salad for lunch & the same for dinner, very little protein, no carbohydrates (necessary when doing 5 hours of active dance classes a day, plus the 2 mile runs). Looking a photos of me at the time I can see that I wasn't fat, they just wanted us to be unhealthily thin. They used to admire & promote the girls who's ribs & hip bones showed through their leotards, who had pronounced clavicle bones etc. This taught how to have an eating disorder which I've struggled with ever since.

DH & me have educated our children in state schools & all have done very well.

Is it Eton?

I said I was disappointed your answers didn’t really give any info, @tummyduck. Why do you think that’s pushy?

You seem very defensive.

What does the school to to prevent drug problems?

How much research into child development did you do before committing to your children being raised in an (albeit very well provisioned) institution?

I'm really trying not to judge because I think the majority of parents make decisions based on what they think is best for their children. But it's difficult to understand why anyone would choose to travel with their adult partner, rather than be physically present for their children, especially whilst they are still so young.

She's said she's a military wife and that the military pay (or subsidise?) the school fees in a previous post.

You see, I asked about this too. No response.

It’s really clear the OP has no interest in engaging. A shame.

Do we give a fuck what school?

Honestly - so PP has enough money to send their child to a posh boarding school. Why are they boasting about it when so many MNers are struggling to buy school uniforms for their children's state school? Would rather educate my children in state schools where they're safe & give my excess money to a deserving charily.

I don’t think the military fully fund, OP will still be paying something however I’m still laughing into my teacup that she said 25% come in on assisted places and my fees pay for them and I am happy about that If that isn’t a definition of privilege being blind I don’t know what is! Think the tax payer needs some thanks here!

I feel the same! Dd1 was in that year, set to do really well but the school (comp) massively downgraded them for fear of repercussions (and also because they basically insisted on giving them their November mocks grades as that was the only evidence they had. I mean wtf?!?? That’s when they START revising!)

Anyway, I was working for a private school at the time and the results were an absolute piss take. For example, every single child was marked 7 or above in all science and modern languages!

unsurprisingly, the A level grades were a much better leveller - at both schools.

They are probably with the nanny during the day.

I imagine OP's DH is an officer. Many officers are children of fathers who were also officers in the military. It seems that there is quite a lot of bashing of sending children to boarding school but in some ways, it's fairer on the child. The funding is given (I think circa £11k per term, with parents needing to contribute at least 10%) for continuity of education - otherwise, children may need to change schools every year. I wouldn't send my DS personally but I do see the benefits and obviously private schools have far more opportunities than state.

Nothing to brag about if so, when you look at some of the atrocious individuals who've come out of it!

Education allowances per term from 1 August 2025
CEA Board – Junior: £8,918
CEA Board – Senior: £11,130

Surely this must be most of the fees even for a “prestigious boarding school”?

What are you and school doing to ensure your boys grow up able to build positive, respectful relationships with girls, especially if they are heterosexual?

@LostThePlotEncore it would take you three seconds to google Eton - and discover that boys start there at 13.

Nolonger. Eton, Winchester et al now ask £60,000 for full boarding so with two, you'd have to fine c.£60,000.