Ex full service prostitute AMA

[Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter]

I did it for around 5 years

More kudos from me, and thank you.

Not sure if I’ve seen this asked - did your “boyfriend” (pimp) at the time get any sexual pleasure from knowing you were having sex with other men for money? Did he get off on it?

And I assume he still expected sex from you?

@Howbizarre22 I have reported your post as victim blaming and misogynistic. OP is a victim of abuse. Blame for using prostitutes lies with the man and the man alone. No-one forces the men to do it. Many however force the women into it.

If you're still around @Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter how do you physically have sex comfortably if you are not genuinely aroused?

Is it a case of lube and more lube?

Also, did you have to fake orgasm- do men expect that?

I don't have a question OP but I've read all of your posts and I'm in awe at how brave you are. Well done for getting out and I wish you the best for the future.

That’s a wonderful thing to offer to do OP. You sound like a lovely person.

Well done OP on setting yourself free away from that monster!!!

Did any of the regular men develop feelings for you?

How has it affected your attitude to sex now?

Do you feel social media’s lax attitude towards the sex industry has fuelled a different type of attitude towards women and sex? I have read online accounts from prostitutes who have been in the job a long time and say things have shifted since the rise and apparent acceptance of online sex work and sites such as Onlyfans.

The reason I ask is because I have a dd16 and she and her peers all seem to think the sex industry, not so much prostitution but the likes of Onlyfans etc is cool and an easy way to make lots of money. I am obviously going out of my way to educate my daughter that this is far from the way forward in life . Luckily she and I have a close relationship and she takes onboard what we discuss but I worry about the more vulnerable young females in our society. The boys in dd year are obsessed with sex and appear to have have very derogatory attitudes towards girls and sex. I am sure sm and online porn etc has fuelled this. One of dd and her friend’s favourite brands is called Named Collective, the hoodies have images of lap dancers all over them. I fear sex work is glamourised these days and the cold hard truth is completely different but once sucked in it’s so difficult to leave.

I wish you nothing but happiness in your future, I hope you do well in life.

Wishing you nothing but happiness OP!

Thank you. I haven’t read it but sounds like something I might like to read so thank you for the suggestion too

Your pain is obviously very deep and raw but this post is awful.

Men should never, ever, buy a woman's body. It's heartbreaking for you that your ex did that, and in doing so destroyed your trust in him, but HE is solely to blame.

You are a victim of him, but so is the living human being that he purchased, used and discarded.

Thank you so much. That’s really sad to hear

The police officers that I worked with on occasion were absolutely fantastic, only good things to say about them but I don’t feel they could have persuaded me otherwise to be honest. I really feel that they saw the situation for what it was. They did provide lots of support and signposting to other organisations

Youre more than welcome and thank you so much. I could only guess. I would say the majority were from mid 20s-late 60s. Much older than me for the most part

How did it affect your attitude to men?

Thank you so much. I do know a couple of women that are still working. It’s hard because whilst I want to encourage them to leave, I’m always really careful to not be over bearing which could cause them to isolate. Sadly, I think it’s one of them things you have to do in your own time. I do struggle with this to be honest.

I think I’d go with decriminalised for the prostitutes only but honestly, I’m not as well read on the subject as I’d like to be before forming an opinion

You sound amazing, Op.

I just asked you about this, I should have scrolled down and read a lot more of the thread. I am very wary of men due to abuse and being a victim of sexual violence, always try to avoid being seen by male doctors and this was why I asked my question. I hope you are having a much better life now and have some peace and happiness

Do you favour decriminalisation simply because it would do away with the women facing a criminal record, fines etc or do you think it might in some way reduce pimping, coercion and exploitation?

ETA: Can I add to the paying respect to you for escaping and also for being so brave to do this AMA. Even though it's anonymous I can only imagine how hard it might be to talk about. I hope doing so supports your emotional recovery.

From what you've been able to safely share on this thread, it sounds like a clear-cut case of the loverboy method, and I suspect he saw you as a source of income from the beginning; he just waited until you were living together to act on that.

Have you thought of anything that someone could have said to you in the first few weeks, that would have given you the perspective to see him for the pimp he was?

What would you say to a young woman today, if you discovered she was slowly stepping into the sex trade in order to please a boyfriend?

Did you ever 'help' anyone with a disability or other problem that may restrict their sex lives? My brother has a disability and made use of a prostitute service once, as he is single but has the needs of any other man/woman.

Did you have only male clients or some female?

Like others, I'm glad you're in a happy relationship now, OP. Thank you for being so open.

@Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter Great AMA and well dont for surviving those years and being in a position to talk about it!

You mention that your BF doesnt know about your past.....How do you think he would react if he did find out and do you think he has a right to know?

So, did you have many regulars and if so did that lead to a more personal relationship? I don't mean feelings for them but a different tone to the encounter. I'm not sure I fully understand what the'girlfriend experience' implies, can you explain?

Also, well done on turning your life around.