Ex full service prostitute AMA

[Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter]

I did it for around 5 years

But do you people ever stop to realise the hurt and pain you are complicit in in doing this? Again I’m trying my hardest here not to blame the prostitutes it’s of course my exs fault but I just wonder here reading all these gushy congratulatory posts of admiration if you ever think about the families of the men you’re fucking? Or is it never a consideration?

It sounds more like you are very angry still and projecting onto this particular OP, though. You tone is very angry. Not simply asking a question at all.

You have a right to be angry and hurt, but not to take it out on this OP. I'm sorry that happened to you. It was clearly devastating. I've been cheated on, but your ex takes the cake.

This must be a bloke.

Agreed @Mumtobabyhavoc the OP has clearly said she didn't ask any information of her clients so never knew their personal situations. Not fair to blame the prostitute at all.

How do you feel about people saying it should be legalised or that it’s empowering for women? Did you know other women doing the same work and were they all vulnerable too?

OP, I just wanted to say how brave, courageous and strong you are. I don’t know any women that would judge you.

I'm just wondering what response you thought you'd get from your AMA OP as you seem surprised how supportive people are of your journey out of prostitution.

What was it about your boyfriend that overcame your feelings about men in general?

Well I’m surprised how supportive the majority of comments have been ( not that Im the OP). There have been AMA’s from sex workers before and general posts that have attracted a very different response.

So sorry about this abusive man getting you into this.
How incredibly strong you are for getting out.

How did you get out of this situation?
Did you have to runaway?

Wishing you all the best OP.

Our family GP -as mentioned above- was addicted to having sex with sex workers.
{Married, young children}

Some men get off on the thrill of it -the forbidden, perhaps?

Maybe it's a power kick for the men?

There will always be sex workers to cater for men like this .

A family member used to travel, overseas with large well known companies , and the men on the plane would be sometimes be discussing the women they would be hiring for sex while away from their wives and children.

Your past is none of his business. Don’t ever feel you should disclose.

I genuinely believe this (except in the case of men who have used prostitutes they will forever be arseholes that thought it was ok to buy a woman’s body 🤣)

Big unmumsnetty hugs OP you sound amazingly strong - wishing you all the best for the future x

This was my first thought and I bet the answer is no.

Hi
I just wanted to know if your parents ever knew what you were doing or if you still visited them during this period?

Glad you got out of it now x

Why should she? She was being coerced herself. Your ex was the only one to blame for the situation, you should be thankful you found out and aren't living a lie. Get a grip.

Another one who has no questions, only congratulations. I'm in awe of you.

Did you actually read any of the OPs posts? The love of your life was a scumbag. If he wasn’t exploiting prostitutes he’d be cheating on you with someone else.

Your dreadful, shitty amoral ex ruined your life. I hope you have better boundaries and taste in men now.

OP what you’ve done and how you’ve turned your life around IS amazing and you should be so proud.

My question is have you been able to access any talking therapies or something similar. You speak from a place of great self knowledge. I wish you all the best life has to offer

First Rule of Misogyny: "Women are responsible for what men do.“

Don't blame the prostitute for your ex cheating. It's misogyny to do so.

But do you people ever stop to realise the hurt and pain you are complicit in in doing this?

I would imagine that the prostitute has bigger problems, like her own safety, making sure her client wears condoma, appeasing her pimp so he doesn't batter her again, etc to worry about.

"You people" is only ever used contemptuously as an othering tactic. (Hey, Aston data thieves, did I analyse the sentiment of those tokens correctly?)

Men are the reason prostitution exists. Blame the men. Men will always buy sex. Male & female prostitutes are coerced and exploited for men's pleasure.

OP, so glad you posted. I'm glad you got out ❤️

I have heard both males and females refer to tinder as a place to order a sex partner for the night like a free service.
They treat it like ordering a call girl / boy and I have seen friends hurt by this.
Do you think people who sleep with a date where they go to see a person at their home without even getting a meal or drink somewhere first realise this?

I’m sorry this happened to you OP. I’m in awe of what a strong person you must be to get through it all, to get out, and to give up drugs. I’m glad your life is better now, you deserve it.

My only questions are - what motivated you to do an AMA on here, and do you think it’s helping you?

OP well done on getting out and rebuilding your life. I hope you have managed to completely break contact with your ex.

My question is do you think you'd be able to prevent a young woman becoming a prostitute if you realised they were being coerced in that direction and how would you have reacted if someone had tried the same with you when you were 23?

Sorry if that's too hard and thank you for standing this thread you've been very open about a difficult part of your life - I'm sorry you were put through that

I did an AMA a few years ago saying I was paid for sex in my 20s.
People on mn were nice.
The Daily Mail picked it up and some of their comments were disparaging.
I was someone who did it through my own choice tho, so less clear cut than this one.

I have warned this op about the dailymail but she has been careful