Ex full service prostitute AMA

[Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter]

I did it for around 5 years

Did you ever have someone arrive as a client and it turned out you already knew each other somehow? If so, how did you deal with it?

Perhaps we might stop asking so many, chav-like intrusive questions .... not an amusement show or catholic confessional

OH - SORRY SORRY ... silly me . . . . . . Mumsnet could be renamed chavSnet in memory of our favourite programme Jeremy Kyle .

I suggest you read the Ops posts again. She was a vulnerable young woman who was manipulated, conned and abused by a pimp who groomed her by pretending to be her boyfriend.

She is a victim just as much as you are. You need to be angry with your BF , the pimp, the whole sex industry and the people who promote it and benefit from it.

I understand you are hurt but you are attacking the wrong person. Please get some counselling to help you deal with this.

Thank you so much and I’m more than happy to answer.
I did it for around five years, I don’t remember exactly.
I have been out for a few years now and I can’t imagine a scenario in which I’d want to go back. I feel really lucky to have got out/not got stuck.
Something happened, I can’t say exactly what as it would be outting but my boyfriend committed a violent act against me. I left him at the same time I stopped so I have no idea how he reacted but I can’t imagine it would’ve been good. He used to occasionally attempt to harass me but thankfully, I haven’t heard anything from him for a while now.
I’m honestly not sure whether it was typical or not but I don’t believe I’m the first or last to find themselves in such a situation.
I think I understand how it happened, I wasn’t educated in healthy relationships and I was quite naive. I often wish I could go back in time and give myself a shake… but that’s probably a little harsh on my past self.

Thank you so much, I appreciate it. I don’t believe it’s ever fully a choice either. I believe it’s a matter of survival no matter how much money is on the table

Who organized the 'clients' OP? Your boyfriend? Did you just wait at the flat for your next customer, and did you have any idea who and what time they were going to show up? Or did you do it mostly on your own?

What happened to the money? Did you just give it all to your boyfriend at the end of the day?

You really are an inspiration OP. In your experience/opinion what do you think charities/orgs/gov need to do or provide to create a successful exit strategy for prostituted women?

Thank you so much! My name relates to quitting weed which is one of the hardest things I have ever done. I’m getting there though.
I screened men to the best of my ability but with the benefit of hindsight, it was far from fool proof.
I did used to read my own reviews and it used to turn my stomach. UKpunting was an especially weird experience that I wouldn’t wish to repeat. Used to make me feel like I was in a cattle market or similar.
Unless something has drastically changed which I doubt then I don’t believe the main websites (or any at all) do enough (or anything…) to combat abuse and exploitation.

Needs? Was it oxygen, food, water or shelter that the prostitute provided? Or was it another human's body that he purchased for his own sexual gratification?

Do you find it’s women of all shapes and ethnicities working OP? I know of course in other countries it will be women of their ethnicity. But I was interested in the ethnic make up of the women you met. Also did ‘looks’ matter so much? Did body shape matter?

I guess I’m trying to get into the psyche of men who do this.

I’m sorry you’re hurting, maybe you should seek out some counselling or similar. I do have sympathy with you but I’m afraid you aren’t going to like my answer… I didn’t consider you, you didn’t cross my mind at any point, before or after… I didn’t have the brain capacity to worry about individuals that I wasn’t even aware existed when I was struggling to keep my own head above water.

He committed a violent act against me and I ran away. I immediately began working a legitimate job to have some money behind me and I suppose things fell into place from there. To be honest, I was quite isolated, probably more so than I had been previously so maybe that was an indicator

Not anymore but I used to

No. I’m not sure I’d be strong enough to get myself through the process to be honest

Thank you so much. Thankfully, no I don’t. I’m in a different area now which helps

Thank you so much

Thank you. Yes, I definitely did. I had plenty that would offer more (sometimes a lot) money but this isn’t something I ever did, too risky

Thank you so much

Did any of the men ever make any kind of effort to find out if you were trafficked or coerced?

Well done on getting out OP, and for quitting the weed. I hope your life only gets better from here. X

Thank you so much, I appreciate that. I think I’d agree you. I believe criminalising prostitutes themselves will force it underground and make it more difficult to escape due to potential criminal records etc

Thank you so much. I have been a Mumsnet lurker for years but never dared to post about anything. You guys have a reputation for being vipers, lol. Anyway clearly my actual posting experience couldn’t be anywhere further from the truth. Really enjoyed answering the questions and I have been made to feel so welcome ☺️ I’ll probably join in more now going forward!

You’re more than welcome and thank you

Extraordinary thread. Congratulations on getting out. I wasn't going to post anything until you explained your username: "My name relates to quitting weed which is one of the hardest things I have ever done. I’m getting there though."

It absolutely does get better. I suddenly stopped nearly 20 years ago and have never looked back, even when in the company of other people having a spliff. Just remember that you gave up for a reason. All the best for the future.

Just wanted to add my own wishes for a better and brighter future for you xx