Ex full service prostitute AMA

[Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter]

I did it for around 5 years

Thank you so much for sharing your story, OP. I’m so glad you’re in a good place now.

You mentioned you were advertised as 18 - what was the age range of your clients?

I think getting away from that life and away from sex work is incredibly courageous. Glad to hear you've moved on with your life and are able to feel comfortable in a relationship. I think its absolutely understandable that those experiences have left you feeling wary of men. If you've seen men at their worst exploiting women then completely understandable that you would look at men differently and it's sickening to think of the way that some men treat vulnerable women who in some cases are being forced into sex work against their will. Can I ask are you in contact with other women still doing sex work and do you use your experience of being able to get out of that life to help those women get away from sex work too. It's OK if you don't want to answer this and i don't want to pry if you aren't comfortable talking about this.

When you say it should be legal, do you mean like the Nordic Model where the punters are criminalised but not the prostitutes? Or decriminalised for both?

Where did you see clients?

I'm guessing that you weren't streetwalking at £200/hour.

I'm glad you're out.

OP, I am full of admiration for you. And full of questions!

• How long did you do it for?
• How long ago did you stop? Do you ever worry you might be tempted to slip back into it if times got hard financially?
• How did you manage to leave? Did something specific happen to trigger it?
• How did your "boyfriend" react when you said you wanted to stop? What happened to him? Is there a danger he might ever try to get back into your life?
• Would you say your experience was a typical one?
• Looking back, do you feel you understand what led from the gas bill to selling dirty knickers to working from a flat all day long, and then eventually leaving? Or does it all seem like a (bad?) dream?

I hope it is OK to ask all these questions and that none of them have been offensive. I've never seen a more fascinating AMA. I wish you the very best in your future, OP.

@Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter I'm so sorry that you were so abused.
Your ex was vile to suggest that you do sex work- I bet if you asked him to be a rent boy , he wouldn't.

I hope you can heal from this. No one goes into sex work because they 'like'' it, surely.

You have done well not to become addicted to the more nasty drugs.

Well done for going a week without weed! {That's not especially easy, either.}
🍀Good luck moving on.

hi @Pleasetellmeitgetsbetter Thank you so much for starting this thread and answerig questions. like many others, i am very impressed by how hard you must have worked to get to this stage and i know it will have taken alot.

im not sure what your name relates to but i really do hope life continues to get better for you and whatever work / career you are now in.

i have worked with women who were selling sex and they had to be incredibly resilient and resourceful with complex coping strategies to get through every day.

i hope it is ok to ask a couple of things?

i dont want you to reveal too much but were you able to screen men before you saw them?
did you ever read your own reviews on punternet or adultworks and what do you think of that review system?

You used vivastreet and adultworks for advertising.
i have supported women who were trafficked and some of them were advertised on those 2 sites, as well as other ones. do you think they do enough to protect women and deal with traffickers?

thank you and i hope you are finding this thread a positive and heartening experience. 😊

Where did you see clients

I'm guessing that you weren't streetwalking at £200/hour.

Sorry, just clocked the bit about having a working flat in your earlier answer.

How did you manage to escape your partner and leave that profession behind?
Would there have been any indicators friends or family members may have picked up on as to what was going on in terms of your profession? (I’m excluding the obvious of having money here as it sounds like your partner at the time took it all).

Our GP was sent to jail for using sex workers...or rather... they found out he was a GP and blackmailed him for Dipipanone. {A powerful opioid drug}

It all came to light, and he was jailed.

Daft man.
He had a wife and young children.

Probably not online, as pre net era.

Ever worry you’ll bump into clients?

Have you ever considered reporting your ex to the police for what he did?

I'm sorry you had to go through this, and I'm glad you're now free of it.

Do you ever bump into former clients?

me too. I wish you well OP.

Sorry you had to go through that op, so glad you’re in a better place. Did you ever have men complain about using condoms?

Nothing to ask but I'm glad you are safe. I'm sure it had to be scary at times.

You are so strong and so brave.
I have dealt with many sex workers as a health care professional… I can’t think of one who didn’t have a history of trauma or neglect of abusive relationships.
In my country we decriminalised prostitution and I wasn’t a fan of that … there was a very strong push from liberal feminists to do that.
I thought it would be letter to decriminalise prostitution but criminalise buying of sex ( usually blokes)
What do you think?

Late to the thread OP, but thank you for posting. Echoing everyone else in wishing you all the very best for your future and well done for getting out.

My question...you said earlier in the thread that you were slightly worried about the reception that you would get on this thread. Is that because you think that most women ( not in the business) look down on prostitutes?

It is very far from the case in my experience x

Another one who thinks you must have been very strong to have got through this. Reading your descriptions, I think I would have been destroyed. Thank you for your AMA and best wishes for your new journey.

Glad your in a better place now.
Have you bumped into your ex since you got away?
Did he find you and try to lure you back?

Congratulations on on breaking free, OP.

Did you hate/resent the men, pity them, or something else?

Do you know anybody who was working as a prostitute who managed to hold on to the money and "retired" with a nest egg? Glad you managed to get out.

@Howbizarre22. I am so sorry for what happened but I think it is unfair to blame the prostitutes involved. They have no idea of your existence. Your ex wasn't lured in by some women's wiles in a moment of weakness - that was just the sort of man he was. The man you thought he was never actually existed.

Did you find there was any kind of support for getting out, or did you have to do it all yourself? I’m so glad you’ve escaped, OP. It’s an enormous thing to pull yourself out of that, reinvent yourself and create a stable life.