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other woman AMA

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jennyOW · 26/09/2022 14:55

Have NC for this as obviously there will be backlash.

I am the 'other woman' - I have been sleeping with a married man for around 6 months. We do not date or go out anywhere, just sex and we text all day/night.

Thought people may have questions about this so go for it - Ask Me Anything!

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WallaceinAnderland · 26/09/2022 15:33

Custard

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jennyOW · 26/09/2022 15:33

Tlolljs · 26/09/2022 15:21

What’s your end game? Marriage children one day? Can’t trust this one so you’d have to find someone else. Not sure if you could trust any one again when you see how easily this affair happened.

It has shocked me how easy it happened! So maybe in the future if I did want to settle down with someone I would be wary, hard to say.

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Madamecastafiore · 26/09/2022 15:33

Where does he say he is when he's with you?

I know you're not married and he's doing the cheating but do you not feel bad that you are hurting another human being?

Are you one of many? Is he a serial cheat who has done this before?

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jennyOW · 26/09/2022 15:33

Pinktoothbrushesarefab · 26/09/2022 15:24

We do not date or go out anywhere, just sex and we text all day/night.

So it seems you both have a job where you can spend all day texting. I hope it's not in the public sector where I'm paying for your 'hobby' ?

Lol no you're definitely not paying for me don't worry!

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jennyOW · 26/09/2022 15:34

sunlovingcriminal · 26/09/2022 15:23

Can I ask whether you have children of your own?

I do, I have one child

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DoingJustFine · 26/09/2022 15:36

When/where do you shag? Does he tell his wife he's going out? Is it every week?

DoubleBuggyDriver · 26/09/2022 15:38

People like you tear families apart.

Well no not really. It’s the people in relationships that are choosing to cheat. They’re the ones risking everything

Meseekslookatme · 26/09/2022 15:44

DoubleBuggyDriver · 26/09/2022 15:38

People like you tear families apart.

Well no not really. It’s the people in relationships that are choosing to cheat. They’re the ones risking everything

This.
I wish people would stop banging on about the "Sisterhood" too. It doesn't exist.

Clymene · 26/09/2022 15:44

Honestly who gives a shit?

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jennyOW · 26/09/2022 15:46

DoingJustFine · 26/09/2022 15:36

When/where do you shag? Does he tell his wife he's going out? Is it every week?

My house, usually once (sometimes twice) a week. I guess he just says to a friends house

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CovertImage · 26/09/2022 15:47

Stop asking it questions: it just wants attention

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jennyOW · 26/09/2022 15:47

Madamecastafiore · 26/09/2022 15:33

Where does he say he is when he's with you?

I know you're not married and he's doing the cheating but do you not feel bad that you are hurting another human being?

Are you one of many? Is he a serial cheat who has done this before?

I don't feel bad because I don't know her or anything much about her. I think he should feel bad of course and I personally wouldn't do what he is doing but she is none of my business. For all I know she could be doing the same?!

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sunlovingcriminal · 26/09/2022 15:47

Given that you have a child, I really hope that they're never cheated on by a partner. As I don't know how you'd be able to look them in the eyes and console them, given your involvement with a married man.

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jennyOW · 26/09/2022 15:49

WallaceinAnderland · 26/09/2022 15:18

Do you think you'll ever be able to trust a partner that you want to commit to or will this experience be damaging for you?

That's a good question! I guess I would maybe be wary. To be fair most posts I've read on Mumsnet make me wary anyway!!

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PinkButtercups · 26/09/2022 15:49

I call BS.

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jennyOW · 26/09/2022 15:50

sunlovingcriminal · 26/09/2022 15:47

Given that you have a child, I really hope that they're never cheated on by a partner. As I don't know how you'd be able to look them in the eyes and console them, given your involvement with a married man.

Totally appreciate your point. My daughter is severely disabled so tbh her relationship status is the least of my concerns about her future. Perhaps I would feel differently if she wasn't though.

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Suzi888 · 26/09/2022 15:52

What jobs do you both do that you can’t text all day?

mmmflakycrust81 · 26/09/2022 15:52

Do you judge him for cheating?

I am not sure I could enjoy sex with a man I thought so little of.

SavingsThreads · 26/09/2022 15:55

Paperthinspiders · 26/09/2022 15:12

If you aren't getting taken out anywhere, you are just a free hooker for him (sorry)
This won't be popular on here but if you are much younger than him and he is well off and taking you to places you might not normally go to, and then call it quits after a few months, fair enough, but what are you getting out of it that you couldn't get with a single man?

Why is she a free hooker to him and not the other way around?

Paperthinspiders · 26/09/2022 15:57

Good question@SavingsThreads best ask her though.

NC12345665 · 26/09/2022 16:06

What does "rhubarb" mean?

Where is your daughter when you're traipsing all your casual shags through the house, op?

Lakeyloo · 26/09/2022 16:15

jennyOW · 26/09/2022 15:47

I don't feel bad because I don't know her or anything much about her. I think he should feel bad of course and I personally wouldn't do what he is doing but she is none of my business. For all I know she could be doing the same?!

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You are doing exactly as he is doing..... It's not as if he's told you he's single when he isn't. You know he's married. What you are doing is no better than what he is doing. You're both as bad as each other.

Yeiscray · 26/09/2022 16:16

Have you ever been cheated on before?

Why do you only seek permanent FWB and not a close and meaningful relationship?

Do you think you might be sociopathic?

Thosefuckers · 26/09/2022 16:18

Never mind the bitter comments.
Which one of you initiated the affair and how? Has anyone in work picked up on it?

HuntingoftheSnark · 26/09/2022 16:20

You are doing exactly as he is doing..... It's not as if he's told you he's single when he isn't. You know he's married. What you are doing is no better than what he is doing. You're both as bad as each other.

I disagree - I'm not condoning it but the OP hasn't made or broken any vows to another person.

OP - is this as far as you are willing to commit yourself, as in sex and conversation, given your commitment to your daughter?