other woman AMA

[jennyOW]

Have NC for this as obviously there will be backlash.

I am the 'other woman' - I have been sleeping with a married man for around 6 months. We do not date or go out anywhere, just sex and we text all day/night.

Thought people may have questions about this so go for it - Ask Me Anything!

I have a question. When he goes back and sleeps with his wife do you get irritated or jealous?
Maybe if it’s their anniversary or something and you know their going to have sex, how do you feel about that?

Also, do you have any feelings for him?

What's it feel like to be knowingly treating someone else like an absolute cunt? Why would you go out of your way to hurt someone so ridiculously when you could just find a cheap fuck who was single?

I have but I also make sure he wears a condom and I am on the pill.
I'd be surprised if he had the time for another woman but that would be up to him!
If his wife found out then again I feel like that's his mess, he knows he's in the wrong and that's a risk he has to take

Why him? If it's casual sex you're after you could find it anywhere. Why go with a married man and potentially cause untold hurt to his wife and kids?

Nope, no jealousy or anything like that. If I ever felt like that (or developed feelings) I would definitely stop!!

Get over yourself. It's nothing to be proud of. Reported for the sheer goadyness of it all.

I didn't seek out a married man, it just happened this way and the sex is good so until that changes (or feelings become involved) then I'll keep going with it

Would it bother you if you knew you were not the only one he was cheating with?
Do you always use protection and regular STDI tests?

Does it bother you that he is also having sex with his wife?

I do not find cowardice men attractive, is it purely a look thing for you ?
As I'm assuming it's nothing to do with his personality.

Do you think you'll ever be able to trust a partner that you want to commit to or will this experience be damaging for you?

What always baffles me is: how/why do you find him sexy knowing that he's breaking promises and treating like dirt someone he is supposed to love? And on the assumption he has children, knowing he cares more to get his end away with you than to protect their little hearts?

Even if he was the sexiest man alive, once I'd twigged he (effectively in my eyes) enjoyed kicking kittens and laughing at them I'd no longer find him attractive.

Yeah 0 interest in you; you sound incredibly vapid and dull. Tata!

Slow clap for you. You are essentially his unpaid prostitute.

What’s your end game? Marriage children one day? Can’t trust this one so you’d have to find someone else. Not sure if you could trust any one again when you see how easily this affair happened.

urgh, seriously? you're repulsive and don't deserve the time of day!!

All very sordid. I hope you and he are both having regular std checks. Really not something to be proud of.

I hope when he leaves his wife for you the next side chick breaks your heart

Can I ask whether you have children of your own?

Yup. Each to their own though eh

Why are people engaging? It’s obvious that the OP is getting off on the attention. Just ignore!

There are thousands of women that come to mumsnet seeking support for cheating husbands that totally rip their lives and childrens lives apart. This thread is totally distasteful. You're clearly getting some kind of kick from doing this here, go talk about your fetish on an appropriate site.

We do not date or go out anywhere, just sex and we text all day/night.

So it seems you both have a job where you can spend all day texting. I hope it's not in the public sector where I'm paying for your 'hobby' ?

If it’s just sex and doesn’t really mean anything to you, why not choose someone who isn’t in a relationship? Plenty of single people are just looking for sex with no strings attached. Why choose to be the other woman?

Rhubarb

Have you started this thread just to wind people up OP?

If this is the most interesting thing about you I think you need a hobby.