other woman AMA

[jennyOW]

Have NC for this as obviously there will be backlash.

I am the 'other woman' - I have been sleeping with a married man for around 6 months. We do not date or go out anywhere, just sex and we text all day/night.

Thought people may have questions about this so go for it - Ask Me Anything!

Do you feel guilty?

What is the point of this? Some kind of self punishment for your behaviour?
You must know how this is gonna go, why do it?

Nope. I don't know his wife, know a few basic things about her and their family life because him and I speak most of the day but I don't know her personally. I see that as his business, not mine so no guilt.

Aw not at all. No punishment needed?!
I just like reading the AMA threads so thought I'd start one about something in my life x

Hope you are prepared for the backlash on here.

What happened to your self respect for you to end up here?

Well done you!!!
You're helping a man be unfaithful to his wife, lie to her, be an absolute piece of shit and one day break her heart.
Bravo! Fuck the sisterhood!!!
Let's hope one day someone does it to you.

If you’re texting all day every day how comes you haven’t been caught yet?

No desire to ask you anything. Because I would have zero respect for any of your opinions.
Get some counselling.
Stop treating other people like shit.

I still have my self respect.
It suits me to be honest, casual which I wanted (but without going through OLD to find that).

Honestly, like this is something to be proud of? Guess your bored and looking for entertainment.
Let me guess, he's in a sexless marriage, his wife doesn't understand him/doesn't have time for him?
Seriously nothing but disgust for you. People like you tear families apart.

Who are you spending Christmas with?

Do you and he work together?

Do you want him to leave her?

Wow. You're grim.

Isn't an AMA usually about interesting stuff?

FWIW I do agree no punishment needed, its not you that's cheating.

Do you have low self esteem? Or low morals? Or what?

I asked him this recently because was surprised to hear from him so often.. he's at work during the day and in the evenings he's in one room, wife is in another apparently

What do you want from him? Is it just sex, or do you think you'll want more if an actual relationship at some point?

Does he have kids?

Are you fearful of getting emotionally involved - and would you end your arrangement if that happened? You sound detached, which I imagine that you need to be.

Who am I spending Christmas with? My family!
We met through work but don't work together.
No I don't want him to leave her, as in I don't want him to leave her for me anyway.

Just sex for me. I quite like the casual chit chat during the day but it's a sex thing. No desire for a relationship and if I ever developed 'feelings' like that I would end it

If you aren't getting taken out anywhere, you are just a free hooker for him (sorry)
This won't be popular on here but if you are much younger than him and he is well off and taking you to places you might not normally go to, and then call it quits after a few months, fair enough, but what are you getting out of it that you couldn't get with a single man?

Yeah if I felt I was getting emotionally attached like that I would end it. I guess I'm detached from it in that sense, if feelings appeared I would have to stop

Have you been STI checked?
are you concerned you may not be the only other woman?
have you considered the impact it would have if his wife was to find out?

I just don't want a relationship so this works for me. I didn't go seeking a married man, I'd had a casual FWB but he wanted more so that ended... then this just happened and it kind of works for me in that sense

How would you feel if your future husband has an affair?