As the title says, I’m a white British lady who married a Muslim man, an Asian Muslim man no less. I realise it’s not that uncommon these days but whenever the topic comes up with new people I meet, say at work, or through friends etc people always seem to have a 10001 questions, some that they are quite timid to ask.
so it’s made me think that maybe people have questions on this sort of thing, and some they maybe don’t feel comfortable asking face to face to someone they ‘know’…. Enter MN
Ama and I’ll answer honestly, the good the bad and the ugly
AMA
I’m a white woman who married a Muslim man AMA?
Vielendanke · 02/09/2022 14:57
mrsrobin · 02/09/2022 20:40
I am on page 4 of this and can't believe how argumentative some of you folk are. I was genuinely interested to see what I might learn from the OP (thanks for the thread anyway) but am very surprised the way the thread went.
MistressIggi · 02/09/2022 20:35
I think some posters are very unfamiliar with the "Ask me anything" concept.
OP, you say you were a Muslim before you met your dh, can I ask what happened along the way that moved you from C of E to Islam?
mrsrobin · 02/09/2022 20:40
I am on page 4 of this and can't believe how argumentative some of you folk are. I was genuinely interested to see what I might learn from the OP (thanks for the thread anyway) but am very surprised the way the thread went.
Lazycatx · 02/09/2022 21:00
Do you live with your in laws? Are you expected to make Pakistani food?
Vielendanke · 02/09/2022 18:43
I think you’re getting a bit unduly triggered, I said my husbands community is insular, they are. That’s not the entire British Pakistani community, but his family and extended family are quite insular, keep themselves to themselves, and stick to their own in terms of not really socialising with any outsiders, just people from the village back home who have moved over here.
that’s obviously not representative of all Pakistanis or all of his caste or even people from his region back home, just his larger family network. It’s very different to my Other Pakistani friends and their families but it is what it is
Chaiandkaafee · 02/09/2022 18:39
an insular community? To suggest anything else is a lie?! Your experience as a white women with one family makes you an expert on Pakistani families does it?!
CPL593H · 02/09/2022 21:57
I know that is exists in Pakistan, but do you not think that caste is incompatible with Islam?
Vielendanke · 02/09/2022 18:43
I think you’re getting a bit unduly triggered, I said my husbands community is insular, they are. That’s not the entire British Pakistani community, but his family and extended family are quite insular, keep themselves to themselves, and stick to their own in terms of not really socialising with any outsiders, just people from the village back home who have moved over here.
that’s obviously not representative of all Pakistanis or all of his caste or even people from his region back home, just his larger family network. It’s very different to my Other Pakistani friends and their families but it is what it is
Chaiandkaafee · 02/09/2022 18:39
an insular community? To suggest anything else is a lie?! Your experience as a white women with one family makes you an expert on Pakistani families does it?!
mrsrobin · 02/09/2022 20:40
I am on page 4 of this and can't believe how argumentative some of you folk are. I was genuinely interested to see what I might learn from the OP (thanks for the thread anyway) but am very surprised the way the thread went.
Glitteratitar · 02/09/2022 23:10
My husband is white English. Imagine if I started a thread saying “I’m married to a European, ask me anything” and the questions were along the lines of:
Does he have a job or he is a benefit scrounger?
Is he racist?
Is he obese?
Are you expected to eat fish and chips?
Is he clean and has a good sense of personal hygiene?
OP started this thread in a way that threw all Muslims in together. Only when challenged has she confirmed she means her husband’s community. So why does it matter that her husband is a Muslim when it’s the practices of her husband’s community that fall into the media stereotype rather than it being a religious issue.
mrsrobin · 02/09/2022 20:40
I am on page 4 of this and can't believe how argumentative some of you folk are. I was genuinely interested to see what I might learn from the OP (thanks for the thread anyway) but am very surprised the way the thread went.
Glitteratitar · 02/09/2022 23:25
I assumed that no one would think my marriage is emblematic of one billion people across the globe and people wouldn’t think a Muslim from Pakistan is the same as someone from iran and the same as someone from Senegal and albania etc
Except that’s what you did by starting a thread that is headed “married to a Muslim man”. There is a massive problem of how the media and society portray Muslims. You helped group all Muslim men together and because of the cultural practices of your in laws, you’ve now let others think it’s normal of Islamic families and traditions.
strugglingmum82 · 03/09/2022 01:26
Why do some call it reverts?
Fififelix · 03/09/2022 01:13
How are you planning to raise your DD? What if she decided she wanted a boyfriend , to eat bacon etc.
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girlmom21 · 03/09/2022 06:58
I think you said you converted before you met him. Why did you do choose to do that? Were your family aware?
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