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I am a celebrity nanny… AMA

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VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 12:15

Name changed for obvious reasons but I know I would have been curious about my job if I wasn’t doing it, so I figured I would help answer some questions people might have about what it’s like to nanny for rich/well-known families.

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BiscuitLover3678 · 06/04/2022 17:56

Do you find the children are less close to their parents? I don’t mean to insult nannies btw I actually had one! But my parents were very full on at night and at weekends.

JudyGemstone · 06/04/2022 17:57

My daughter wants to do this, would you recommend it or not?

How much are you paid?

BiscuitLover3678 · 06/04/2022 17:59

Is there a network where celebrity nannies can hang out with each other?

Has it re-evaluated if you want kids or not?

What are your hours?

VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 18:16

@chisanunian no I haven’t, but it’s true that some people do call the paparazzi on themselves.

@abbey44 it varies, I sometimes do just the first 3 months, sometimes I do up to the first year and half. It would be rare that I stay up to the second year unless a new baby was on the way or something usually I do 3 months to 18 months max more or less. I can also be asked for very short term if say a family comes to holiday in Europe or something and need a temporary nanny to join them for few weeks while they holiday!

@crazeekat, I haven’t done reality TV families so far (not sure I would want to!) I have done families related to sports, movies and politics for the most part.

@BiscuitLover3678

Some mums breastfeed others don’t or some do mixed feeding. If a mother breastfeed, I either wake her up when baby is awake and bring her the baby or she might come to the room, or she might sleep with baby for the first chunk of the night. Call me when baby is awake and then I have baby for the other chunk or the night and bring him back for his next feed so mum can go straight back to sleep. It depends on what the mother feels most comfortable with.

@JudyGemstone

I would say it depends what her motivation behind doing it is. If she loves kids then yes, if she just doesn’t know what to do and hanging out with celebrities sound good then no. It’s really hard work both physically and emotionally, you don’t have much of a life, and what you do outside of work might impact your work so you feel under scrutiny a lot. I think it only fit people who have a genuine love for children and don’t mind “serving others” and bitting their tongue a lot and not having much of a life and working long-hours.

I am paid around £1700net/week right now but the average tend to be £1000-1200 per week depending on location. And unfortunately due to Brexit U.K. nannies are having a much harder time getting jobs outside of the U.K. (outside of the U.K tend to pay better than in the U.K.)

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isthismylifenow · 06/04/2022 18:21

Great thread OP.

TheSpottedZebra · 06/04/2022 18:29

Which families or people have - on the nanny grapevine- such awful reputations that they struggle to find household staff? I don't mean ones you've worked with!

Are some areas of celebitchy seen as better or worse than other celebrities?

JudgeRindersMinder · 06/04/2022 18:40

Really interesting insight into your world….how did you make the jump from nannying for joe bloggs ,to your first celeb family?

VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 18:40

@BiscuitLover3678

We have our own Facebook groups and we also meet each other through play dates usually so then keep in touch and might meet on our free time but it’s quite rare that we actually have meet ups, we mostly chat online.

And yes the more I look after kids especially doing 24/6 the less I want them. It’s been 10 years of me looking after kids and so it’s hard to want to leave this world to go on to have my own. I am very conscious of all the positives of having children but also how life changing it is and how much it changes your day to day and I am at this stage where I am not sure if I would actually be keen to make that type of lifelong commitment knowing it all, I do quite like my day off and my breaks!

And my hours depends but currently I am on call 24 hours, 6 days a week. In reality what it means is that I have to be available 24 hours 6 days a week but I usually have a couple hours break a day, especially if there is only one baby. Like for example right now I am on a break as they took the baby with them to a dinner without me. I’ll be working again when they come back until tomorrow where I usually have a break around 10am until 12pm and then if I am lucky have one more break at dinner time. Sometimes I have longer breaks, sometimes I have less/no breaks. Depend on the day and the schedule of the family and if they go out with the baby or not.

Most of my breaks are when the baby naps or sleep.

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WindowWanker · 06/04/2022 18:51

Do the parents chat to you or have interest in your life outside being their nanny?

McFuckSake · 06/04/2022 18:56

I misunderstood a thought the OP meant she was like Jo Frost or something. Pleased I read the other comments before I made a tit of myself.

Emelene · 06/04/2022 19:11

If you are doing the majority of the baby’s cate, have you noticed a difficulty bonding/attachment with the parents and the baby?
How do you cope with moving on from a family? Do you love/miss the baby? How old are they typically when the family doesn’t want a newborn-experienced nanny? X

VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 19:30

@TheSpottedZebra

I wouldn’t be able to say names obviously and if I haven’t worked for the family it’s all hear-say in some way anyway, but it’s usually very easy to know which families are really hard to work with as they go through agencies and if you keep seeing the same ads every few weeks, there is a good chance that they either have terrible luck or can’t keep staff because of how they (or their kids) treat the staff. So if I see an ad popping up for the same family again and again, I don’t even consider it!

@JudgeRindersMinder

It was actually not very hard. It started as a bit of a bait to myself. I had been doing my job for years and nannying isn’t well paid, and there isn’t much progression so I thought “I wonder if I could be a nanny for rich people” I signed up to a couple agencies with high paying jobs and my first gig and interview from one of those agencies was for a well-known family and I got the job, and then once you have worked for one and have a good reference, it’s very easy to work for more the same way we talk amongst ourselves and recommend families and nannies to the families, they also can recommend us to their friends etc… so once you are in it’s easier to stay in (if you are good at your job) but it also isn’t that hard surprisingly to make the jump.

I will say though that I have a profile that tend to attract families. By the time I started this I had lived and nannied in multiple countries already for families, had lots of good references from them, I also speak several languages and have a EU passport so can travel easily so in many way I already suited with their lifestyle as usually they look for nannies who have experiences abroad, or at least are keen to travel, speak another language on top of English or have specific skills (Piano/skiing/horse riding).

Maybe it would have been harder if I only spoke English or only worked in one country, I am not sure as British nannies are still very popular.

@WindowWanker (love the username!)

Most talk to me and take an interest in my life yes, I mean I spend A LOT of time with them, I see them in their most intimate moments and I look after their children so they will ask questions for sure, there is still a certain boundary, like I won’t tell them too many details but they usually bits and pieces about my family and we can have very casual and interesting conversation about current events, etc… I too ask questions. Nothing nosy but I ask them question like I would any other parent I don’t know much about or someone who has an interesting job and usually it’s all fairly casual overall.

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JudgeRindersMinder · 06/04/2022 19:43

@VIPNanny thanks for answering that, I have to say though that with your skill set you sound like a great catch for families-they’re lucky to have you!

BiscuitLover3678 · 06/04/2022 19:53

Do they husbands ever hit on you? (Such stereotypes I know).

What countries do you work in?

BiscuitLover3678 · 06/04/2022 19:54

Honestly it sounds so tough! You can’t really relax in the way you would with your own kids and you don’t get any childcare either as that’s you!

VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 20:20

@Emelene

Not really, I mean babies (especially young babies) usually love anyone who will love them back and I do tend to think that babies know who they moms are no matter what. So I don’t necessarily notice bonding issues from the baby but I definitely of course see some parents who struggle with parenting more than others.

I also feel like in many ways I do know the baby a bit more than mom at times, but that’s because I am the one spending 20+ hours with them so of course I have the time to find out what they are crying for or what calms them the quickest or what’s the way they prefer to be held.

It’s very hard to leave them, I mean I know those babies from birth so it’s very tough to go but in some ways it’s easier to leave when they are 3 months than when they are a year old. I usually stay in touch and visit as much as I can but I always carry them with me and I have tradition that with each baby I do something new (or like listen to a new song) and then carry it over to the next baby so the current baby for example have been exposed to songs or little ritual from all the former kids on top of having her own, which for me is a way to connect all of my kids and keep them close to me. (But I definitely do cry and have a rough time leaving any of them.)

Usually family move on to a daytime nanny at around 3-6 months. They usually wait until the baby is sleep trained but 3 to 6 months is usually the timeline as it’s quite a lot more expensive to have a 24 hours nanny for a newborn than one working 10 or 12 hours a day.

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MichaelAndEagle · 06/04/2022 20:24

And yes the more I look after kids especially doing 24/6 the less I want them. It’s been 10 years of me looking after kids and so it’s hard to want to leave this world to go on to have my own. I am very conscious of all the positives of having children but also how life changing it is and how much it changes your day to day and I am at this stage where I am not sure if I would actually be keen to make that type of lifelong commitment knowing it all, I do quite like my day off and my breaks!

Great thread OP! I'd say in response to your comment about having your own kids, you would probably find it easier!
I haven't been a nanny but have been a childminder and always held myself to much higher standards when being paid to look after someone else's children!
Also, you've been looking after babies and very young children for 10 years! Your own children would grow up, although different ages also have their challenges. Just my thoughts on that!

VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 20:28

@JudgeRindersMinder

Thank you!

@BiscuitLover3678

It happened in average families ironically but not so far with high-paying/ more well-known ones. I do think they know now that people will spill the bin and probably sue them for harassment and get a lot of money out of them if they do and plenty of women outside the house willing to throw themselves at them without taking the risk of hitting on the nanny I think. And because I am with the babies I have way more contact with moms in general, the dads are usually busy and not hyper involved in the care so my interactions with them are usually limited.

And yes like you say, what’s hard is that I can’t hire my own nanny. I do think having my own kid would be less hard as I would be able to do it my way but yes, that’s why I now exclusively do short term contracts or Rota whenever possible. It’s too hard to do full-time work all year long, though plenty of nanny do.

And I am currently based in Europe but I have worked almost every where. The only country I refuse that offer quite a lot to high paying job is Saudi Arabia, in general I do not want to work in the Middle East anymore. It just doesn’t suit me. (But that’s definitely where a lot of nanny go to make money).

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VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 20:36

@MichaelAndEagle

That’s what I think too but on the other end, I am soo trained with babies and toddlers that older kids terrify me. I have of course looked after some older kids before but honestly past the age of 5, I would have no idea how to entertain a child and I know I wouldn’t enjoy my job if I worked with older kids so I never take job with much older children (8+) unless I know there is a baby and he/she will be my sole or very much main focus but in reality reject 99% of the families who don’t have very young children.

So the idea that my own kid will grow up while nice for my back feel very daunting to me. I think I would be much more convinced if I could do the baby and toddler stage until they are about to turn 3 and then get them back when they are 15 or something (for some weird reasons I find teenagers way less daunting!) those 12 years in between terrify me and I am honestly not sure I have the skills.

(I know I could learn but I also see too many parents who had kids and clearly clearly don’t enjoy it and I am very scared that would be me as soon as my child would hit 3 and I would hate myself if that was the case!)

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Notwithittoday · 06/04/2022 20:37

What happens with a baby that is ‘colicky’ or has reflux and doesn’t sleep much? Do the parents just leave you with the baby crying?

VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 20:44

@Notwithittoday

99.9% of the time, yes!

I mean that’s probably why I am hired honestly. Not for a colicky baby per se but so that parents don’t have to deal with sleep deprivation or baby crying. It’s very rare that parents keep the baby with them if he/she is crying. Usually it’s the moment I am being called back from my break or handed back the child! Grin

I don’t blame them, I too would love to pass him/her over when they cry my ear out but yes, all of the tough days and nights are usually for me.

Bush ally the houses are big enough that they don’t hear the baby cry though at night, so they wouldn’t really know what’s up unless I tell them the next morning or they breastfeed and are there to witness it.

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VIPNanny · 06/04/2022 20:45

Bush ally = but usually!

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Hertsgirl10 · 06/04/2022 20:48

How do you go about getting this job …

Notwithittoday · 06/04/2022 20:55

So do you sleep in the same room as the baby every night and they sleep elsewhere? Sneaky follow up question. I can’t really imagine wanting to sleep away from my baby even if I could afford it

Theredjellybean · 06/04/2022 21:10

I've always wondered if celeb children stay in one house in one country with the nanny when the celeb parents are off on holidays, travelling etc.
When you see people in newspapers or magazines on holiday here or threre and it's middle of school term I wonder what happens to the children?