I'm a trans man and local trans activist, AMA

[Sideris]

Hi there, folks.

As the title says, I'm here to respond to questions in good nature.

For a bit of background information, I'm 30 years old, a trans activist out of necessity (being the first 'out' trans person in numerous spaces, which didn't have any rules or regulations before, but have since been commended for ease of process by some new trans members or trans members who have been referred by me), have been 'passing' for about three years, now.

But you can't change your DNA, if in 100 years your body was dug up and your DNA was taken you would be classed as female.

The end.

Most women are vulnerable, because of men, not specifically trans men. But trans is all you want to focus your negativity on. Seems weird to me.

Most women are vulnerable, because of men,

Indeed. Which is why the trans issue if self ID is a problem. It is allowing men (not transmen) access to our safe spaces.
It is allowing people with oenises to share tents with our daughters in just that make bodied persons say so.
It is allowing rapists to be put into women's prisons where they then assault more women.
It is allowing men access to women's shelters where women are literally fleeing for their lives.

So yes. This is a pressing issue.

Female' and 'male' are not stuck in one description, people fit outside the box constantly, they're simplifications that group together bunches of aspects. Animals, as far as we know, do not have 'male' or 'female', they have organs that respond in certain manners of which one organ grows a child/children, a whole bunch of things. Not the "'female' and 'male' and they go perfectly together for childbirth all the time" situation we insist is there.

If this is the case then why is surgery necessary at all? Why the need for artificial hormones and the dressing differently?

If being born with or without such features does not render you a man or a woman then why the need to have or remove such features to render you the opposite sex?

The only people I know who use gender stereotypes in modern society are trans people.

Can people honestly see that why he might not be answering questions when you see some of the questions from from the very start including on the first page, have included things like Have you ever been raped or sexually assaulted?

Who on epse earth would be asked these sort of questions and be treated with this level of vitriol on mumsnet?

mindproject
Most women are vulnerable because of men
Well duh... That's why if I specify that my daughter must have only female carers (because she is unable to protect herself against predatory males) they do need to be female, not a man who believes or is pretending to believe he is female, especially if his previous history has not been properly checked, due to 'deadnames'.
Hope this clarifies the situation for you.

I don't want to focus negativity on trans per see. In fact I would love to never see trans on the feminsit boards ever again

If any transperson wants to override women's sex based rights then it becomes an issue.

They are overriding women's sex based rights by trying to change the meaning of sex to something indeterminate. Mentally I can cope with accepting that my biology is female but I find it hurtful and absuive to be forced to have an identity of women. The only thing I have in common with all women is my reproductive bi9logy .

They are overriding women's rights and hurting women by forcing women to accept Male bodies in places where they have previously been allowed to be safe from Male bodies, something that helps encourage women's participation in society. So changing rooms, sports competitions.

They are overriding women's rights to sex segregated spaces, making life easy for abusers to abuse the changes. Because men do lie about being trans already. Think Karen white.

I 'was' not a biological woman, I am a trans man. I also don't parody women, unless you feel that a dress is pertinent to being a woman

So how the fuck are you a trans man then? Surely to be a trans man you have to have first been a woman (female) biologically. Jesus Christ, it’s mental we are being told to believe this shit and if we say we don’t we get deleted. If you are a trans man then of course you are a biological woman, that’s how it fucking works!

If you see 'womanhood' exclusively as oppression, I genuinely feel for you, as it shouldn't be. But other than us doing our best, me doing my best, do you expect me to be able to over throw misogyny singlehandedly purely because others seem to think I'm trying to throw women under the bus by wanting safety and respect for all women,

I feel sick. Of course attacks on women for being women is misogynistic. Don’t play dumb.

But you can't change your DNA, if in 100 years your body was dug up and your DNA was taken you would be classed as female.

^ This. There is no such thing as transgender DNA.

Meanwhile, you are only answering the questions that enable you to maintain your self chosen views and ignoring those that point out the biological truth that females are females and males and males and that this is a fact of life which cannot be changed.

and with that, I'm out of here and hiding this thread since you clearly didn't intend it be a genuine AMA.

May as well ask: can anyone be a trans man? No matter what sex/gender/body they were assigned/observed to have/ etc at birth? Can anyone be a trans woman?

Is there anything else involved other than claiming i am a trans woman? I've seen a few people insist an "afab" woman cannot be a trans woman.

@mindproject - allowing people to identify as whichever gender they choose, and then use the facilities for that gender is going to make it much easier for predatory men to enter previously women only sex segregated spaces.

For example, if a place of employment changes their policy so that anyone can use the toilet facilities of the gender with which they identify, then the Ladies looks won’t just be used by women and trans women - predatory men could use them too, for voyeuristic purposes, or to place hidden cameras, or to assault women - and they will be able to be in there with impunity because no woman will be able to challenge their presence there. I walk into the Ladies and find a 6 foot bearded, male presenting, clearly male bodied individual in there - if I challenge him, all he has to say is ‘I identify as female’ and then he can claim I am discriminating against him.

School girls whose schools have made the Girls’ loos (or all loos) gender neutral are already restricting their intake of food and fluids during the school day, to try to reduce their need to use the loo with their male schoolmates in the next cubicle. And they are avoiding school when they are on their periods, so they don’t have to try to change a towel or tampon in a mixed sex loo, alongside boys.

Prominent trans activist Jessica Yanniv has posted pictures of themselves, with underage girls in the background, in the Ladies loos, and has speculated about whether, if they overheard a young girl about to use a tampon for the first time, they could offer to help them insert it!.

The op has dealt with her trauma by transition
Other people here deal with the trauma by reliance on things like safe spaces.

If the assumption is that I transitioned because I was raped, you're wrong. I was raped after I started using testosterone, and the fanfiction some of you are writing surrounding my rape (such as insisting I was raped as a child, which is something I never stated and suddenly insisted as fact because it fits some of your narratives about how I'm trying to shy away from sexual assault) is what's making me significantly more snippy.

What about the second part of the phrase you just quoted, @Sideris? The bit about the survivors of rape or sexual abuse who rely on single sex spaces for their sense of safety - don’t they deserve to feel safe?

I might have missed it, but how was the surgeon surprised about you having a cervix?

”I might have missed it, but how was the surgeon surprised about you having a cervix?”

I’m guessing the OP’s medical records had been changed to indicate biologically male.

Didn't notice you challenge the timings of transition and sexual violence earlier but the point still stands,

many women rely on safe sex spaces to help them cope with the shitty parts of being female and you are trying to remove that right for them which is unnecessarily cruel.

I might have missed it, but how was the surgeon surprised about you having a cervix?

The surprise was whether or not I had any indication of cervical cancer, as I've been barred access.

It’s all just one confused mass of nothing, and I’d happily dismiss it as such and never give it another thought if policies weren’t being changed to accommodate the gender feels.

Thank you OP for demonstrating so conclusively that there is absolutely no logic, no consistency, nothing based on fact and definitely no empathy for women in this ideological belief system. You’ve probably done more to make women go “what the fuck???” than any number of threads in FWR. Good work.

I won't claim to be a transman because I feel it's hurtful to people with severe mental health issues related to their sex, I have respect for those I met IRL and many of those who have revealed their identity online.

I need to keep reminding myself that mental health issues often underpin many transpeople situations

Well, what a load of utter bollock, no pun intended. What you have written so far OP does not to my mind really answer any of the excellent questions posed here, including mine. Also, I must say that if you had your surgery on the NHS, or any other country's public healthcare system, the I strongly object to the fact that you think - or 'feel' that having healthy body parts removed is a priority for hard pressed health services. There are people dying while having to wait for actual necessary treatment.

Prominent trans activist Jessica Yanniv

JY is not a 'prominent trans activist'. She's a troll touted around by alt right and elevated fictionally. Trans people, activist or not around her had no idea who she was. She's a racist predator excusing her bullshit under a thin veil that only the alt right buy into being real.

”I've been barred access.”

What have you been barred access to?

What have you been barred access to?

To cervical screenings. As well as asking simple questions to a gynecologist, let alone easy redirection.

Why can't you op,and other trans people just be honest.

Humans fall into two catagorise, male and female. Some people feel they should have the body of the oppersite sex and so imatate the gender norms of that sex and go through hormon treatment and surgery to make themselves feel better.

Why can't you just admit that. Why all the suspension of reality saying sex isn't real or isn't binary or your sex is a feeling. What are you hoping to achieve?