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I'm a trans man and local trans activist, AMA

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Sideris · 05/01/2020 07:10

Hi there, folks.

As the title says, I'm here to respond to questions in good nature.

For a bit of background information, I'm 30 years old, a trans activist out of necessity (being the first 'out' trans person in numerous spaces, which didn't have any rules or regulations before, but have since been commended for ease of process by some new trans members or trans members who have been referred by me), have been 'passing' for about three years, now.

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vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 05/01/2020 16:16

OP: I'm interested in what information transmen are given when they have a hysterectomy or testosterone.

If a common or garden woman is under 40 and stops producing oestrogen she is given HRT because to NOT give her HRT puts her at risk of coronary heart disease, osteoporosis and dementia.

There is no way that gender identity protects bones, arteries and brains from the loss of oestrogen.

There's also the affect it has on vaginal atrophy - which is a horrible, itchy, painful condition which nearly killed Buck Angel.

Did you know those things, or consider them when you had the surgery?

Dolorabelle · 05/01/2020 16:28

I fully believe that people with a cervix should be invited to pap smears, not women. The cervix is what's being inspected, after all, so a cervix is the detrimental feature to invite on

this makes me angry - OP you are complicit in erasing women and females (ie. 51% of the population) in order to speak to the 0.01% of the population who are transmen.

I guess you really have taken on social forms of masculinity - you don't seem to care about women.

BeyondFlubeInclusionaryRF · 05/01/2020 16:28

Two things op...

First - as you are a man - I hope you are acknowledging your male privilege as you answer women's questions about women's safety concerns. Cause from where I'm at, it looked at times like you were belittling women's thoughts on the subject.

Second is a trivial curiosity. When you are in drag, do you use female facilities?

BercowsFlyingFlamingo · 05/01/2020 16:34

I think the male privilege is loud and clear from the OP and that makes me think they are exactly what they say they are and have always been with chromosomes to match.

Id report but I think the thread is highly illustrative of the TRA/MRA agenda and should stay even if it wasn't started in good faith. That way the lurkers get to see what's happening.

saraclara · 05/01/2020 16:42

During the stated 5 hours, the op actually answered relatively few of the many pertinent questions asked in the thread, and did so in an increasingly incoherent, contradictory and aggressive manner. Then nothing. I'd call that flouncing.

Given the sheer number of questions, answering every single one of them would be just about impossible. He answered many of them in a fairly organised fashion.
I don't think there was anything incoherent about his responses at all, and given the aggression in some of the posts, I think his responses were exceptionally calm and logical.

My questions have already been answered, so I'm only here to say thank you to the OPP for bravely offering this up on AMA. That takes some guts on this forum. Also thanks to those who asked their questions without anger or malice and kept this thread readable. I've learned a lot thanks to the OP and those posters.

Cwenthryth · 05/01/2020 16:44

What have you learned saraclara?

OP responded to one of my posts, but didn’t actually answer my questions, I think many other posters feel similarly.

Sideris · 05/01/2020 16:46

Sorry, I had to leave for work and didn't want to risk the page refreshing mid-post but it refreshed anyway with the changed internet connection.

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@midgebabe
you still have not explained the positive of being a transman rather than a woman

And I won't be able to. There's no objective 'better' between being a trans man instead of a woman. It's personal experience. For me it was worse to live as a woman because I was living a lie that I no longer live now that others see me as myself.

I believe there is factual evidence that supports the fear that women have of transwomen. There is evidence that transwomen commit offences at the same rate as men. We can consider both data from the uk jail system and a recent study by some Swedish authors as evidence of this. Therefore if a fear of men in certain spaces is justified, a fear of transwomen is similarly justified.

That evidence is garnered by a prejudiced system that also would insist people of colour are significantly more likely to commit crimes.

@SylvanianFrenemies
In response to "Given there's no factual evidence supporting that fear, no", what would you say to the women assaulted by Karen White in prison? Was it wrong for a woman like Karen to be transferred back to the make prison estate?

Karen was a high-risk convict who was placed into women's prison with zero regards for the regulations surrounding high risk convicts. The flaws in her holding were due to the prison wards' negligence, not the responsibility of trans women. I wouldn't have condoned her actions less or worse if the convict doing so was a natal woman.

@DodoPatrol
*The girls at my child’s school are not ‘misdirected’ and have not been sharing for years. There is now a late teenage male student in their year who now identifies as a girl. You say that he should be using the facilities ‘of that gender’.

But nothing has changed about this student except the name, and that was only a few weeks ago. Why should the girls now be comfortable sharing with him, if I’m interpreting your views correctly, and the boys not?

Would you have expected the girls to be happy to have this student share their loos pre- name change and why?*

Why should anything about her change? Would she have to wear dresses, suddenly, so they could argue she's stereotyping women? Would she have to use hormones, suddenly, so they could argue trans children are forced on hormones so soon? Would she have to have surgery, which would cause more outrage? What does her changing her name change about her?

I'm not responsible for someone's comfort or discomfort. They're feelings that don't trump people's rights.

@MoltoAgitato
Also, have you addressed that self id opens the door wide for predatory males and dismantles safeguarding for women?

It doesn't. Self ID allows a person to change their birth certificate, which is not needed to update a passport, it's an administrative update. If a man wants to go through that hassle to enter the women's bathroom solely so he can receive the same conviction as without, he's a fool, because no one would check his birth certificate and he's able to do the same at current.

I need to head back to work, so I'll resume responding later. Posting this already so I don't lose it a second time.

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OnlyTheTitOfTheIceberg · 05/01/2020 16:52

You don’t understand how self-ID is being applied, OP. Organisations serving the public are already changing their policies so that anyone who claims to identify as X can use the spaces previously reserved for those who X in actuality. Have a look at the “...has fallen” threads in FWR if you don’t believe me.

There is literally NO EFFORT involved in a man saying “I identify as a woman” and regulatory capture means they will be treated as a woman by the staff in many organisations, including being allowed to change and shower in women’s spaces.

That is ACTUALLY HAPPENING right now and there is plenty of evidence of it. Why are you so determined to deny the lived reality of women and girls?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 05/01/2020 16:53

Your casual and callous dismissal of the feelings of teenage girls who do not want to share single sex toilet facilities with an entirely male bodied person demonstrates that you have firmly grasped some aspects of manhood, @Sideris - namely the ability to put men’s desires above women’s and girls’ safety, comfort and dignity.

SentimentalKiller · 05/01/2020 16:57

So why do your feelings trump people's rights?

KingaRoo · 05/01/2020 16:57

How can you say sex is a construct when it is a biological fact?

What about male and female animals? Do you think that the sex of animals is a social constuct as well?

HerRoyalFattyness · 05/01/2020 16:58

They're feelings that don't trump people's rights.

You felt like a man.
Why should your feelings trump women's rights?

Canadianpancake · 05/01/2020 16:59

I'm not responsible for someone's comfort or discomfort. They're feelings that don't trump people's rights.

Can you really not see the hypocrisy in this statement!

WellErrr · 05/01/2020 17:01

I’m sensing rather a lot of internalised misogyny....

BercowsFestiveFlamingo · 05/01/2020 17:01

I'm not responsible for someone's comfort or discomfort. They're feelings that don't trump people's rights*.

Right back at you, OP. You really don't get the irony do you.

JacquesHammer · 05/01/2020 17:02

I'm not responsible for someone's comfort or discomfort. They're feelings that don't trump people's rights

And yet “feeling like a woman” trumps biological women’s rights?

Can’t you see the hypocrisy in your position? You felt like a man - why does that trump other people’s rights?

SophoclesTheFox · 05/01/2020 17:03

Do you see what you are doing, OP, when answering dodopatrols question about the recently transitioned male and what impact that has on their female classmates?

100% of your concern and focus on that child and what they want and don’t want.
0% focus on the impacted girls’ thoughts, feelings, requirements, preferences, difficulties. And, crucially, their rights- to dignity, privacy, respect, and single sex environments.

Do you see that? It’s like those girls don’t even exist for you.

FFSFFSFFS · 05/01/2020 17:04

Hi - just asking again - do you think that transmen should all be in male prisons and how do you think that would play out?

OldCrone · 05/01/2020 17:04

I'm not responsible for someone's comfort or discomfort. They're feelings that don't trump people's rights.

So do you now agree that the male person should keep using the male facilities for male-bodied people even though it might make him uncomfortable? His feelings do not trump the rights of girls to have a female-only space.

SylvanianFrenemies · 05/01/2020 17:11

Yes, OP, but my mention of Karen White was specifically in relation to you saying there is no evidence that women have anything to fear from natal males who suddenly identify as female. Not about some collective responsibility issue.

So did the women that Karen assaulted with her lady-penis have anything to fear?

midgebabe · 05/01/2020 17:13

You are really hung up on the sex that people see you as. You are not lying if other people make assumptions about you. They are just being ?dumb?

It really did wonders for my mental health once I wrapped my head around that. It seemed so dismissive of other people, but now I see it as me being logical. Assume people are not dumb, unless they prove otherwise. It's just game theory for repeated interactions...start cooperative but if they diss you, you are perfectly correct to dismiss them

loserssaywhat · 05/01/2020 17:13

Feelings don't have a gender! Did I read that correctly?
Then how can anyone say they feel like one gender or another?
Contradictory logic.

BeyondFlubeInclusionaryRF · 05/01/2020 17:17

"Why should anything about her change? Would she have to wear dresses, suddenly, so they could argue she's stereotyping women? Would she have to use hormones, suddenly, so they could argue trans children are forced on hormones so soon? Would she have to have surgery, which would cause more outrage? What does her changing her name change about her?"

That last question of your is a good question to reflect on yourself, op...

RhinoskinhaveI · 05/01/2020 17:19

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Uncompromisingwoman · 05/01/2020 17:22

A man who displays contempt for women's opinions (tick)
Uncaring of women's rights (tick)
Works to remove women's language (tick)
Dismisses women's views and factual information (tick)
Actively campaigns to remove safety for women and girls (tick)

That's a depressing MRA bingo card. Sad