I'm a trans man and local trans activist, AMA

[Sideris]

Hi there, folks.

As the title says, I'm here to respond to questions in good nature.

For a bit of background information, I'm 30 years old, a trans activist out of necessity (being the first 'out' trans person in numerous spaces, which didn't have any rules or regulations before, but have since been commended for ease of process by some new trans members or trans members who have been referred by me), have been 'passing' for about three years, now.

Why is it that threads like this always start out with a cheery “Hi there folks”, as if we’rw exchanging muffin recipes, and end up with the completely dismissive

Stick with your 3rd grade biology definitions by all means?

Not quite the “in good nature” you asked for in your OP is it?

Yes the insistence that the differences between men and women are meaningless, refusal to identify what it is that makes someone a man or a woman, whilst at the same time insisting that you know you are not a member of the gender into which you were born
If there is a strategy here it's called 'bulshit baffles brains'
Playing fast and loose like it was going out of fashion...

Sex is a construct . No it absolutely isn’t and you are wrong.

Perhaps your argument is 'I am whatever I say I am'?
In which case I'm a billionaire ....now give me my fucking money

It’s all just meaningless word salad and the world is getting very bored of this shit.

Ah, I see you’ve changed your stance on biological sex between pages 1 and 3 so I will ask a supplementary no 12):

If sex is a spectrum/non-binary, however you want to describe it (although not a construct - that’s gender) - then which is the third (and any subsequent) gamete and where does it/they occur? Where is the evidence of reproduction using the third (fourth, fifth etc) gametes?

Thanks for answering my question.

My understanding of biology is postgraduate level, not "third grade". And my P4 child actually knows biology is svience, not identity. You can leave intersex out of this. No-one XY gives birth, no-one XX produces sperm. If you think otherwise, reveal your sources.

I don't feel comfortable discussing with a likely mostly white crowd

How offensive and frankly stereotypical.

Surely you "transitioned" (I put that like that as you have indicated you have no desire to have a penis) to break out of stereotypes?

You are quite frankly contradicting yourself in every post you write.

As for rape being used as a weapon?
Not one woman I know has ever used their rape as a weapon. How demeaning and insulting of you.
Women just want to feel safe and if someone comes into a women's space waving their penis around, we don't feel safe. Especially if we have a history of rape and abuse. Can't you see that?

Also... I ask this.

If you believe that you are a male, can a white person identify as black?
If not why not? Surely if they feel they connect more strongly to black culture, that makes them black?

We should be thankful we weren’t accused of being white middle aged women. The worst insult on the internet seemingly 🤦‍♀️

If sex is self-identity is that why I (XX, with a womb, ovaries, cervix, vagina) have been pregnant 5 times, and my husband (with penis, testicles etc) has been pregnant 0 times? Because I identify as female? If I identified as male and he identified as female, might be get pregnant?

It’s still early, Dee

I thought of another question!

I feel more of a connection to thin people than overweight people. Being overweight physically repulses me, so can I identify as thin? Will that help me feel less disgusted by my body?

@Sideris if you yourself feel safer in a specifically gendered place I.e. men’s locker room/toilet etc. Can you not understand why women would feel threatened sharing their space with men?

a likely mostly white crowd

I’m white but this very moment am self identifying as a black woman so your assumption is totally wrong about who is on this thread. If sex is a construct then race and colour can be constructs also.

I might identify as a Sumatran tiger because I believe species to be a construct too and there’s something about being a tiger that encapsulates how I feel and how I see myself.

Is this ok?

Hi Op,

Thank for putting yourself out there. I've got a few questions.

Do you think have more of an affinity with women compared to your average man? By affinity I mean empathy, respect and warmth.

Have you ever been made to feel intimidated or uncomfortable by a trans gender man?

Do you stand by all trans activists of have there been times when the actions of some trans activists have made you cringe.

If I rock up to a Nissan dealer will they let me buy a GTR on the basis that I identify with millionaires? Surely the fact that my bank balance in no way backs up my identity feelings shouldn't be a blocker? I identify, therefore I am, right?

@Sideris - there are reports coming out now of schoolgirls missing school when they have their periods, because all the toilets in their schools have become gender neutral, and they do not want to have to deal with towels/tampons with boys in the next cubicle. They are not drinking enough during school hours, to try to minimise the need to use the toilet alongside boys - so already girls are being harmed by this policy - they are missing out on schooling, and are running the risk of urinary tract infections (which can, if severe, cause kidney infections and damaged to the kidneys).

I think you have misunderstood @WellErrr's point about sex segregated spaces too. The concern is not about the danger that a trans woman might pose (apart from ones like Jessica Yaniv who post openly about wanting to help young girls - girls to whom Yanniv is a stranger - insert their first tampon) - *but the very real danger posed by predatory men who WILL use self-ID as a free pass to enter women's sex segregated spaces to place cameras, to make women uncomfortable and inevitably to attack them too.

Thank you for answering part of my post, OP.

So, to be clear, you do not think my daughter’s friend has any right to a single sex loo despite her attack.

You think that her concern about it is ‘weaponising rape’.

You think that a student who attended school under their male birth name up to a few weeks ago was never ‘a male student’ and thus could never be upsetting to her in a female facility.

What if they hadn’t changed name or mentioned their trans status? Would they still be equally acceptable in the girls’ toilets?

Why?

I should also say thankyou for responding to my first questions, although you didn’t actually answer them, about whether cervical cancer advocacy groups were consulted on the change you instigated or any equality impact assessments carried out & what the outcomes were.

OP I know you've got a billion questions to answer if you return, but for the record, I am not white.

ladyflump, I think what you'd have to do is insist that the manager of the Nissan garage reduces the price of the vehicle to something that you can afford since you are a millionaire are without millions.

You identify as a millionaire therefore you are a millionaire, the fact that you don't have the money that one would expect of a millionaire should not be used against, so you should be able to purchase that millionaires vehicle for a few hundred quid.
After all now that you identify as a millionaire the sun shines more brightly on you and you feel like your true real self, the world ought to recognise that you are a millionaire and treat you as such!!

Correction:
one reported case of a XY woman with a unique DSD who gave birth unassisted.

This individual had mosaicism which is an extremely (and I mean extremely) rare genetic disorder that happens in the first stages of an embryo such that some cells in the body contain a Y chromosome (male) and some do not (female). She was hence a genetic chimera between male and female, had lived as a female from birth and was capable of getting pregnant due to functioning ovotestes and having a womb. This is very, very unusual. If I remember correctly she had only 20/30% XY tissue. Transwomen dont have wombs. Transwomen dont have extremely unlikely genetic disorders. The (one) exception doesnt disprove the rule (7.8 billion).