im a traveller AMA

[TakeABreak2]

irish traveller ama

I have worked with a great deal of traveller women. Never met one I didn’t like. Absolutely lovely and spotless. I also never met one who tutored their children so I’m glad that’s what you plan to do !

Fellow traveller here

I’ve been thinking of doing an AMA on this but you beat me to it.

Who pays for the private tutor, parents or local authority?

Thanks for posting this OP it’s really insightful.

There’s a camp near my PILs house and they have had a lot of stuff stolen (land rovers, transit vans and work machinery) by travellers and have been threatened in the local pub. So our experience hasn’t been good, how do you feel about things like this happening with regards to non travellers views on travellers? It must be frustrating for all of you that are stay on the right side of the law.

thanks for answering.
I was brought up to do the same, switch over if there's a kissing or sex scene but a lot of times youd end up missing half the movie .

Do you not think the girls dressing a lot older and showing a lot of skin means they'd get more attention from the opposite sex when out?

youmeandacuppa who are u?

brendatheblender its unbelievably tormenting but im just used of it now

chickedychicked i agree with tr clothes thing but our boys know obviously what they can/cant do and also anywhere theres a travelling girl theres a boy close by

Thanks for replying.

It would drive me insane if I was in your position but there are good eggs and bad eggs in all walks of life.

Sorry if this has been answered up thread (I’ve been skimming over during bath time) how old were you when you had your DCs? Also, what’s the age gap? I also have and 2 and 3 year old, it’s hard work!

Hi Takeabreak

I taught two amazing traveller girls in secondary - their mum made sure they got an education - and they were highly able students but they only stayed about 6 months before the family moved on. They were both really sad that they couldn’t settle for the duration of term time in one place until they finished school although they loved being travellers and were proud of their community. The moving on was costing them so much in terms of their schooling even though they were put in schools wherever they went.

I did feel sorry for them about the education bit. Do you think the culture will change with regards to that as time goes on? These girls always behaved modestly in that they kept their conversation with boys to friends only. And spoke beautifully, would never swear. So they weren’t breaking any home rules.

Very interesting. I have never met a traveller so am pretty ignorant in this area. What would happen to someone who came out as gay or lesbian in the travelling community?

i was 17 with dd and 19 with ds theres 18mo between them

urbanbeetler i dont know only time will tell bu our traditions are fizzling out fast

kikisparks it has happened years ago everyone would disown them a few months ago 2 men did and they got congratulated

also to everyone with the negative impact imagine this - meeting a traveller without even knowing it imagine them putting on an accent to where they live and not even telling you in there first words that they are a traveller i know i have done this hundreds of times and nearly everyone i know

What are your aspirations for your own children OP?

Oh that’s good to know that views have moved on. As I say I’m ignorant and imagined violence/ being cast out/ being repressed.

i hope they always do what they truly want and do what makes them happy dont take shit of no one especially a man and hope to learn them to say no and stick to it

just the way it is

Do you ever reflect on the culture in which you live and in which you are bringing up your children or do you simply unquestioningly accept everything?

I know that I looked at my upbringing and thought about what I wanted to pass on to my child, what I wanted to do the same, what I wanted to change. DH and I have decided what values we hope to instil in him, but we also recognise that as an adult he will be an autonomous individual who can make his own decisions without reference to us.

Is it similar for you?

Do you ever park up in farmers fields?

theonlylivingboy
i will be bringing my children up in travellers ways if when they are adults i can only hope they choose to follow i dont know what id do if they never i doubt they wont but if they never that would down to them

dragongirl
never famers fields they go pellet guns lol
no jokes a side i accept some still go in carparks but majority use the transit camps its less hastle you dont get moved on

Do you ever feel guilty about the cost of resources to move you on repeatedly? The court order, the police, the clean up?

Travellers have just been evicted from our local park 2 weeks ago in the South East, the gate was broken, the kids playground damaged, the trampoline taken, then a 24 hour clean up to remove litter etc.

Do you ever consider this?

Perhaps the travelling community need to stop and think about the image they portray!?

Orlando Do you also blame all Muslims for 9/11?

Takeabreak Hi.
Are interracial relationships/marriages accepted within the travelling community (specifically with a black or Asian partner).
Also, are there many people who choose to remain single and childfree within your community?