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Recovered alcoholic and heroin addict. Any question?
Mrsfloss · 27/06/2018 20:50
As title says. I have recovered from 20 year history of chaotic drug and alcohol misuse. I have now been sober and clean for 12 years. Anything anyone would like to ask?
Skydiving · 27/06/2018 20:53
Well done that’s a big achievement. What things helped you get clean?
SandunesAndRainclouds · 27/06/2018 20:54
If you still have urges, how do you manage it and avoid re-using?
JackietheBackie · 27/06/2018 20:55
Did you hit a rock bottom or was it something else that motivated you to stop?
Reaa · 27/06/2018 20:56
What gave you the push to finally quit?
And well done for your amazing achievement 
madein1995 · 27/06/2018 20:57
Were you able to stop by yourself or did you need support?
GreenBudgie · 27/06/2018 20:58
Congratulations on your 12 clean years :-). May I ask how did you fund the substance abuse please? Did you manage to stay in employment?
Dandybelle · 27/06/2018 20:59
Did you know that it had become a problem, or did you have to be told? Were there any periods of absolute denial?
MoreAndLess · 27/06/2018 21:00
Did you wrong any of your friends or family when you were a user and, if so, have you made any attempts to right those wrongs.
By ‘wrongs’ I guess I mean things like stealing or taking advantage of people?
IStillMissBlockbuster · 27/06/2018 21:01
Why do you think you misused drugs and alcohol and how did you change that in order to quit?
Mrsfloss · 27/06/2018 21:01
A domestic violence worker signposted me to my local drug and alcohol service from there I done a month long detox and 6 month funded rehab, I was very lucky to get this. Rehab was very hard, detox fine. I struggled when leaving rehab and making transition back to “life” I started doing 22 step meetings, NA and AA. Done 90 meeting in 90 days after rehab, made connections in local area. Made strong relationships with women who were clean and sober, got a sponsor and started working on the steps.
I still do one or two meetings a week to keep connected. Keep connected with other people who are sober and clean, I do step work with women new to recovery,
I do a gratitude list every morning, do a step 10 every night. (Review my day, where was I selfish, off key etc, and just keep connected) mad really. B one in my jual life knows!
Crunchymum · 27/06/2018 21:01
Amazing!!! I'm in awe of your achievement.
- What did you find harder to quit?
- did you manage to successfully stop on your first attempt?
- did you have outside help?
Crunchymum · 27/06/2018 21:02
Sorry I see we cross posted and you answered some of my questions.
Mrsfloss · 27/06/2018 21:03
Not urge to use heroin but occasional urge to drink. When sat in nice pub with family and friends. I think ah that would be nice.
Mrsfloss · 27/06/2018 21:04
Sand dunes see previous answer. Lots of 12 step meeting and step work.
SealSong · 27/06/2018 21:05
What do you think was more damaging to be addicted to - alcohol or heroin, and why?
And WELL DONE, massive achievement. Never been addicted myself but I know that unless you have gone through recovery, you can't know how HARD it is!
Mrsfloss · 27/06/2018 21:08
Dragons. I was In a very chaotic, violent and toxic relationship. My partner gave me some to smoke he told me it was cannabis, bam the feeling was like no other, felt amazingly relaxed, happy. All was well in the world. After around two days,cravings urge to use it again was all consuming, I would have done anything to experience that feeling again.
Fflamingo · 27/06/2018 21:10
Why do you think you succumbed to addictive substances? We’re you escaping something?
x2boys · 27/06/2018 21:11
how old are you now ,and how old where you when your addictions started, i have both professional and personal experience of adfictions, and also a huge well done 
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