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Recovered alcoholic and heroin addict. Any question?

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Mrsfloss · 27/06/2018 20:50

As title says. I have recovered from 20 year history of chaotic drug and alcohol misuse. I have now been sober and clean for 12 years. Anything anyone would like to ask?

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MoreAndLess · 28/06/2018 00:37

OP, I think you missed my question but no worries if you don't want to answer it. 😊

I was wondering if you have tried to repay your family for the things that they did for you? If not in money in other ways?

Also, did you ever consider trying to pay back things that you stole? If you didn't do you feel guilt over it?

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Mrsfloss · 28/06/2018 07:05

Yes I have a long criminal record for petty stuff now decades ago.

Yes I have and will continually make amends to my family. They accepted the verbal but on a daily basis for now and the last 12 years I have tried to make up for the daughter I wasn’t and try to be the daughter I should be.

I contacted every store I shoplifted in and have offered to pay the money back unsure of quantities. No store accepted it but asked that I refrIn from shoplifting their in future! I shop I. All these stores regularly instead of cheaper options to try to be the best customer I can be

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StewPots · 28/06/2018 07:19

Amazing OP. I have no questions as the ones I had have been answered already, so just to say wishing you continuing health and happiness in your many years ahead.

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proudestmumm · 28/06/2018 07:21

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tectonicplates · 28/06/2018 07:22

Do you think there are more middle class heroin addicts around than people might realise? I think there's a perception that it only happens to people who had chaotic upbringings etc.

I went through similar thoughts about abusive relationships - until I ended up in one and came out the other side and did a lot of reading, I didn't realise they could happen to absolutely anyone at all, even people with comfortable upbringings.

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Mountainsoutofmolehills · 28/06/2018 07:24

sometimes i feel sad that i won't be wild again. I miss the mayhem. I hate the drunk people. But I am lost. I go to parties and have nice time, serious talks, but i feel heavy. 3 Years in and I just feel lonely. It's not the lack of people it's the lack of understanding.... do you feel this?

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Mountainsoutofmolehills · 28/06/2018 07:30

proudestmumm..... WHY would you report this? OMG. So much shit on this site, and you report something actually important and gritty. Do you have any idea what it's like in suburbia being sober with pleasant people? It's hard. They talk about kids school, DIY, curtains and holidays. It makes you want to tare your hair out when you can't drink.

proudestmumm: Do you think people will go and take smack because they've read this.? Or because they are filled with pain?

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proudestmumm · 28/06/2018 07:32

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Fflamingo · 28/06/2018 07:34

It’s strange that the addicted person can just pop up in a family, were there any addicted GPS/ uncles ets?

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Fflamingo · 28/06/2018 07:35

I always thought there was some childhood abuse or something behind the problem.

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Mountainsoutofmolehills · 28/06/2018 07:36

tetonicplates:

'Do you think there are more middle class heroin addicts around than people might realise? I think there's a perception that it only happens to people who had chaotic upbringings etc.'

I am middle class and I had a very chaotic upbringing. Middle class people are allowed to have problems. Yes. I went to private school, my dad was a member of the MCC, my mum was a born again and parents on PTA. I used to lie on the bathroom floor getting high on aerosols. I liked it. But by then I'd already started pouring alcohol all over my icecream when I came home from school. I'd have my first trip at 13, first E at 14 and first line of coke at 16. I did it because I had so much anxiety that it would take me to get to 36 before I would finally be diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety. I wished someone had spoken casually about drugs. They tell you they are awful, but they don't tell you how beautiful they are. They don't tell you after you'll be ok but then waves of boredom will come over you. I am fine when I am alone. I just hate the small talk. There are many great things to being sober, but sometimes I miss something.....

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Mrsfloss · 28/06/2018 07:45

Proud - why would I get the whole thread deleted. I am attempting to help others who may be struggling and family members.

I am happy to share all this hence I wouldn’t do it.

The photo was a step too far. I woke up in a cold sweat thinking the daily mail would publish it! Or school mums would see.

It was a knee jerk response to Adam Barlow toast comments

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Mrsfloss · 28/06/2018 07:47

Proud - what do you mean that’s what addicts can do?

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Mrsfloss · 28/06/2018 07:48

Sorry if I have missed any questions. Message again if missed

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proudestmumm · 28/06/2018 07:50

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Mrsfloss · 28/06/2018 07:54

Proud really? What are you basing that on?

I would have agreed years ago around unwise descions and boundaries but I am feeling some relief doing this.

No one knows at work, kids school. No where that we are recovering addicts. I keep a mask on all this past stuff. I seen the threads from other people doing similar ask me anything.

I want to share that addicts can and do recover

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Caribbeanyesplease · 28/06/2018 07:55

Do you think drugs should be legalised?

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proudestmumm · 28/06/2018 07:58

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JustVent · 28/06/2018 08:04

This is a great thread. Thanks for sharing.

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JustVent · 28/06/2018 08:05

It sounds like Proud was genuinely concerned rather than goady.

It’s all good now though.

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FoodGloriousFud · 28/06/2018 08:06

@proudestmumm Maybe you should just leave this thread if you have nothing positive to add?

The op is very obviously not unstable and has posted to share her experience and help others. Sharing s photo doesn't make her unstable, numerous people have posted photos then asked for them to be removed.

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proudestmumm · 28/06/2018 08:12

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Mrsfloss · 28/06/2018 08:19

I hear you proud and understand where you are coming from.

I am by no means an expert or think I know everything about the issue. I know 12 steps isn’t the only way to recover.

I just felt that it may be interesting to some people

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JustVent · 28/06/2018 08:20

I don’t think you’re an arsehole Proud you sounded pretty genuine to me.

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proudestmumm · 28/06/2018 08:22

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