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Greenday49 · 28/06/2018 09:10
Well done OP. Glad you managed to turn your life around :) does your work involve helping others directly?
Also how do you manage working for the police, with a criminal record? I thought they checked everything?
To a PP, 'middle class upbringing' does not equal 'good upbringing' . Ideal conditions on the surface don't mean there isn't emotional abuse, neglect or violence. Sometimes kids in 'naive' families can't form as solid relationships as those in families less so, people move around more with careers, move schools to 'better' ones, go to university, parents more likely to work etc. I remember my childhood as mostly boring (often alone) and at times lonely and frustrating. I used to trip off to the next town to hang out with my more interesting, perhaps not quite as well to do friends and get drunk in the park.
tectonicplates · 28/06/2018 10:13
To a PP, 'middle class upbringing' does not equal 'good upbringing' . Ideal conditions on the surface don't mean there isn't emotional abuse, neglect or violence.
I am well aware of this, but every time I've pointed this out in the past I've been told to check my privilege 
Greenday49 · 28/06/2018 10:36
Brilliant, thank you for answering. I have a very good friend who really wants to work for the police but has criminal convictions and thought she wouldn't have a chance. I've been trying to find out the reality of this (I've even rang the police to ask!) And never got anywhere.
Massive well done to you again. I know beggar all about drugs but I work in a sphere where so many do them. I also have an 18 year old very close to me who does things and I never Know if I say the correct things to them. Their attitude is just I've never done it so I don't understand.
MouseholeCat · 28/06/2018 12:47
At the time, when the things you did were hurting your family, did you realise or feel the emotional weight of it?
Was there anyone from your pre-addiction life that couldn't forgive you? If so, how have you approached that?
Well done for getting clean OP.
Notquiteagandt · 28/06/2018 14:47
Watching my grandfather go through the DT's withdrawing from alcohol was the most destressing, soul destroying, horrible thing I have ever witnessed. Was horrendous. I will never forget his screams of pain.
So I think for battling the booze alone you need to be commended but heroin also. You should be so proud of your self can't of been easy.
I am very aware I have a highly addictive personality. As do most of my family. So have always been really concious of it.
Did you notice addictive tendencies as a child?
And do you think addiction is genetic and a personality trait?
Notquiteagandt · 28/06/2018 14:47
Watching my grandfather go through the DT's withdrawing from alcohol was the most destressing, soul destroying, horrible thing I have ever witnessed. Was horrendous. I will never forget his screams of pain.
So I think for battling the booze alone you need to be commended but heroin also. You should be so proud of your self can't of been easy.
I am very aware I have a highly addictive personality. As do most of my family. So have always been really concious of it.
Did you notice addictive tendencies as a child?
And do you think addiction is genetic and a personality trait?
well done!Lovemyhubby · 28/06/2018 17:46
Mrsfloss, you say you didn’t want for anything materially. How was your family emotionally towards you growing up? You got involved in an abusive relationship, so do you think there was something missing in your upbringing, even on a subconcious level, that you weren’t aware of, that lead you down a destructive past?
Mrsfloss · 28/06/2018 18:27
Mouse. I was so intoxicayed by drugs I couldn’t feel anything and definetky not the pain I caused.
Everyone has forgiven me, my siblings and children were the last and that was over years, no quick fix. Years of working on self and proving that I would stay abstinent,
Mrsfloss · 28/06/2018 18:30
Love my hubby - nothing missing from childhood. Very loved, parents were there for me emotionally.
I just fell for the wrong man, I defo had addictive tendencies and I knew this from the wayI carried on drinking cannabis and alcohol, when everyone else went home and to bed!
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