Im a minger Help!!!!

https://www.marksandspencer.com/jersey-wide-leg-trousers-with-stretch/p/clp60506499?color=Wine&intid=mobileapppdpshare

I’ve worn similar to that this week, the wine style with the jumper. . I’m still not completely happy with the trousers as a bit too wide for me. But you are taller so should suit you better.

I have them in black. I’ve worn them with a patterned black with blue and green flowers blouse style top (no buttons as big busted so can’t wear buttons) and a khaki green pointelle jumper over. I already had top and jumper as I mix a few new bits with stuff I already own.

I didn’t feel spectacular in the outfit but was smart enough, just had my hair in ponytail no makeup. (Other days I’m in loungers or leggings, tshirt and hoodies).

Similar to the jumper I own, I have it relaxed look so bigger than I need so not tight on my bust. https://www2.hm.com/en_gb/productpage.1301246003.html?srsltid=AYCX9vL1NNYFq9znN_nRoFt8xA_dQtqDLv4_ys2VxOVwyiIcskH4DKkM

You really don’t look like a size 18. Are you sure? If have guessed a 14. Is it worth trying clothes a little smaller / tighter.
I am a lot younger but actually think your shoes are on trend and your trousers are ok too. Axe the baggy jumpers and let your figure show. Highlights, nails done, bit of make up (maybe bit of Botox / filler if you fancy it) will make a whole world of difference. Also getting eyebrows done if gappy have them micro bladed into a good shape.

And I think this is the jumper you are wearing which in reality is an ok jumper, I think it’s how you are standing which has made people think it’s not so nice. If you click on each colour you will see the different style trousers they have dressed thr models in. One of the different styles might suit you better with the jumper you already own. I try to make the most of what I have by buying different things to mix in with my clothes for different looks.

www.seasaltcornwall.com/fruity-striped-merino-jumper?glCountry=GB&glCurrency=GBP&color=47422&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23171850874&gbraid=0AAAAAD_rcomNlc0i7vz4an6HFNpCIsWa-&gclid=CjwKCAjwi-zWBhAdEiwAqlRf-MSKMBVGKXpkitRRJ2uhMNjEdBNjaScdQet4-xPbP0j9F2UusIO7lBoCxCEQAvD_BwE

I have read this so often on MN I did it the other day, only for DH to helpfully point out that my top was half stuck in my waistband. Clearly not pulling off the effortless French tuck chic I was aiming for…

Get yourself down to Dunnes and try for a bit more of a current look. See attached . Some cardigans or crew necks or v necks worn with a white t shirt underneath for a bit of warmth if you need it. How about a coord set for when at home?

What's a 'free P pastor's wife'?

🤣 it makes me look ten times worse, I don’t tuck anything in.

I loved doing this, I would highly recommend. I was on the right track colour wise but there were a few I have now started wearing and some I have binned. It really helped with ny make up/hair colour also.

I also agree with the poster whi suggested putting your photo into chat gpt. That will help with some ideas.

I think your figure looks good, but I do agree with most others, even my 70 yo mum wouldn't wear it.

Skin wise, I used skin and me for a while, it really worked for me, it is expensive so I asked AI for alternatives and I now use various products that do the same. Skin routine twice a day is a must IMO. Skin and me trial is cheap so may be worth doing for a couple of months.

I tend to go for jeans and fitted tops/jumpers, usually v neck. Dressing for your shape is vital, chat gpt can help with that also.

Free Presbyterian. Pastors look wives with traditional wives at home. So conservative.

Ah missed this re colours. Yeah soft summer is very different to the colours you're wearing, it honestly makes such a difference, my friend is an autumn and was very the opposite so has now changed colours and it has made a huge difference.

I use giorgio armani luminous silk foundation and powder, so much better than my previous mac stuff that is a lot thicker, I thought I was hiding more age by using it but using a lighter foundation and luminat8ng powder it looks so much better.

I actually dont mind the jumper but the trousers/shoes would be a no for me.

And you're definitely not a minger!!

Turning into your Grandmother and seemingly wearing your Grandfathers clothes. Come on you’re not a minger you’re fiftyish just get some better clothes.

White trainers, denim shorts and a crop top.

My town is Belfast so it’s got most things.

Try Envoy of Belfast. Fabulous shop.

The only thing that really comes to mind for me is to brighten the colours. But you have to wear what makes you feel good and comfortable.

Hair: always do something with it. Use some product. A spritz of hairspray to keep wispies down.
ballerina bun
chignon
neat pony

Make-up. Minimal is fine. Keep brows groomed. Light dusting of a light bronzer, a few strokes of black mascara. A tinted lip balm in a very natural shade.

Teeth. Lots of people neglect teeth as they age. Stay on top of this. Get a professional bleach kit from the dentist. I know a few people who bleached in their 50's and 60's and it was amazing.

www.pinterest.com/ideas/cute-stay-at-home-mom-outfits/960365128972/

Its fucking October! So I am assuming you are taking the piss because the only alternative is that you are as thick as a whale sandwich.

I'm guessing by the user name it is spring in their part of the world. 🙃

Well for your information I’m in the top seven cleverest people that I know. Capital of America bang New York. Didn’t even have to google it.

Another one here!

And a google it’s a massive number more than a billion. Capital of France bang Paris.

John Lewis do a personal shopper service, maybe now you are in a different era you could get someone to give you a bit of TLC and find some pieces that reflect how you want to feel.

Also a blonde highlight always helps me haha. But it is expensive and difficult to maintain.

I always feel better just doing eyebrows and mascara, you could always get your brows tinted and shaped by someone if you don't feel confident doing it.

Sounds like you need a bit of a pamper rather than there's anything wrong with how you look, like you've realised you're not prioritising self care or how you make yourself feel about yourself.

It's nice to remeet yourself when you realise you've moved to a new era.

You don’t look an 18. Looks like you may be wearing clothes that are too baggy. The horizontal stripe and colours don’t help.

I’m late 50s. It’s really difficult to advise without knowing your personality and what you feel comfortable in. You have to find your own style. I never/rarely wear patterned clothes: too busy. Always go for 100% cotton, bamboo and other natural fabrics (wool, cashmere, linen, silk). Polyester and nylon are never a great look and less comfortable. I buy most things second-hand or cheap shops (e.g H&M, Primark, TK Maxx)

I advise the following:

• Very good underwear to give you shape. Have a bra fitting in a department store. I mostly wear black underwear as I wear a lot of black. But nude is best if you wear a range of colours. Just two good bras and shape wear pants (if you have a tummy).

• Layering is key. A plain vest with stretch that covers the tummy so you can layer shorter tops on top. Thick straps that cover a bra strap. Gives an extra layer for warmth and so the next layer doesn’t cling to your body.

• Jeans or tracksuit bottoms. I always wear black jeans as I think they look smarter than blue denim and work with anything. The cut has to be what suits your shape. Suggest a straight cut. A wide or barrel shape is on trend right now but can make you look bigger. I go for Adidas tracksuit bottoms (stripes help elongate) in a wider leg.

• Good quality plain white cotton t-shirts. Can be from somewhere cheap: Primark H&M. No need to spend a fortune. A white collar brightens the face. I also wear bright, jewel-coloured tees, e.g. bright pink, bright green etc. I think pastels are aging.

• Plain round-neck, light-weight cardigans. Much more versatile than a jumper. Can be worn fully buttoned, fully undone as a layer, buttoned at just the top or in the middle. Make sure they’re well-fitted (rather than baggy) and sit on your waist, rather than covering hips. Cotton, light wool or cashmere. My cotton ones from H&M have lasted years.

• When you go out, scarfs and long pendants to add interest and more layering. They elongate your shape.

• Trainers. I tend to wear plain black platform Vans, as versatile/I can wear for work.

• Make up: tinted moisturiser; light, reflective concealer for eye bags; cream blush applied with a good brush; eyeliner on top lash; mascara, and (always) a pop of colour on the lips.

Good luck! 💐

Give yourself the gift of strength training - Caroline Girvan is free on YouTube. Your clothes will fit and hang better and you will feel better about yourself. The rest will follow.

OP so much advice but find your vibe. The idea of daytime and evening looks and blow outs and scarfs might be your thing or might make you know it’s not your thing!

At the same age I have long messy hair designed to need a blob of wax and nothing else. It’s not fashionable but my grey curls are fun. I like big boots and barrel leg jeans. I wear oversized chunky knits and skirts with shape and fold. I am not fashionable but my look works for me and people generally like it. Am a hippyish natural fibre chunky boots person and there is nothing I can’t do in my clothes from walking the dogs to presenting on camera. Also I do yoga, lift weights and walk twice as far as I used to. These things are the ones that keep you feeling amazing too.

I buy my stuff on Vinted and generally get old Cos or Baukjen ir Bam or Me and Em or Kin or Gudrensojen (or whatever it’s called)! Rarely spend more than £15-20 and never buy anything without pockets.

Maybe that’s your look or maybe you’re a tweedy or a jacket person or a dress person - whatever - just be comfy and love your clothes.

I like some MAC lip stain/gloss, a neutral ish blusher and mascara and you probably won’t want much else either.