Im a minger Help!!!!

Tret is an absolute game changer isn’t it!

I wasn't going to post again because, if it were me, I'd find all this advice overwhelming but op, why on earth are you thinking of getting rid of clothes you love? That brings back memories of Trinny and Susannah at their worst.

What do you do for yourself for pleasure and fun? That certainly helps with feeling good in yourself and about yourself. Book a department store personal shopper person to help with a style you like, comfort clothes in softer colours. I use a plain aloe Vera gel on skin at night and a simple moisturiser on morn, ive just started self care Sundays where I do collegen mask hair mask paint my nails ect. Hrt too I'd die without it both normal and vaginal estrogen have made me feel a lot more perky in myself as does creatine lionsmane biotin, get your brows shapped tinted and eyelashes for more definition on face without having to do make up. Wear matching undies for yourself. Read erotic fiction...if you feel a bit more sexy you look it. I'm single but these things have started to make me feel less like my nan

@OhYeahOhYeah

how do you get tret?

I think your issue is one of just not being very fashionable - and that’s fine if it’s not your goal!

to ease you in, I’d recommend googling ‘Next The Set’ which will bring up mix and match coordinated basics such a fine knits, hoodies, t shirts etc

it’s a good starting point

Hi, based on your most recent post about being conscious of your stomach area, I think dresses would be great for you. I wear with boots and tights in autumn winter. To make you feel more feminine (if that’s what you want?) I would go for softer shapes and textures. A v neck or round neck. How about something like this? You could wear a thin polo under it when it’s cooler. Dresses are quite practical too. I’m a teacher and I live in them!

https://www.johnlewis.com/white-stuff-kate-cord-midi-dress-dark-navy/p115818616

Also adding in, as someone who also lives in a rainy climate (I see you’re NI) wide trousers and jeans are so impractical. I struggle a bit with jeans shape but have settled on Levi’s 501 cropped with slim ankle boots/ballet pumps or slim trainers. I’m 53 and can’t be bothered wearing anything that annoys me 🤣

Look at Skin and Me as a starting point. Its great stuff.

If it's the colour of mud or moss, give it a toss.
Have a look online for a colour analysis - this will tell you which colours suit your features best.
Then discover your body shape. This will tell you which cut of cloth will suit you best.
Then go shopping, find stuff in the cut and colour best for you and choose the ones you'll be most confident and comfortable in.
As for makeup, take it easy. Buy yourself a quality tinted SPF, and tinted lip balm for every day wear. For fuller face makeup pop into John Lewis or Boots and ask the women at the makeup counters for advice and help, it's much easier in person than online.

The other thing that will make a massive difference to your look and confidence is hair. Keep your hair pretty and you'll always look a little more polished.

Have you ever been checked for an ovarian cyst?

A lot of their clothes are, but not all of them. They currently have some lovely knitwear in that isn't bland or frumpy.

There is a lot of Seasalt hatred on MN with some outdated and preconceived ideas, although I agree that some of their clothes should go into room 101.

hey are shapeless and lose their shape even more in the wash

@Sussexserpents That has not been my experience with the few pieces I have owned.

Whatever you do, please go to a DENTIST not a salon or social media adverts for the teeth whitening. A dentist is only about £300 and will provide safe products.

Oh dear. I found her to be dreadful.

If you want to explore the idea of makeup book a John Lewis full makeup consultation (not all the stores do them) which costs £46, which is refunded from any purchases. I went because I didn't feel my makeup made me look how I wanted it too. The changes were: much lighter dewy foundation, repositioning of blusher, much more eye makeup with darker colours near my eyes, lip pencil and lip oil instead of lipstick. I'm a fair bit older than you and can't begin to explain how much better it made me look, people actually said they had never noticed what lovely green eyes I have before! This year I have lost 3.5 stone, remodelled my body at the gym and bought loads of new clothes, but the new makeup was possibly the best bit of the journey.

How and why is it on Facebook?

You look in great shape to be honest. I just think you could do with a better shaped jumper.

Do you sew OP? It looks like you have a bit of a sewing set-up behind you.

I get a dermatologist prescription face cream from Dermatica, which has tretinoin in the formula.

It is super and has really made such an improvement to my skin for fine lines, radiance and plumpness.

It isn’t the cheapest but is so much more concentrated than any retinols you can get over the counter, and tret isn’t something you can get on the high street, so to me it is well worth the £29.99 each time xx

It's not. I thought the same but I went to the shop to buy something for my mother and found lots of nice clothes there.

They are wearable, decent quality,practical clothes that actually fit real women with real lives.

I wouldn't pick the brand for a 'glow-up' but the clothes aren't hideous by any means.

If you're going to try make-up, I advise that you go softly softly. Try a lipstick close to you own lip colour but a bit brighter. Get advice for that (i recommend bobbi brown), and get use to putting it on and seeing yourself with it. Small changes, bit by bit.

I don’t get the hate for Seasalt either, although I avoid their printed jersey dresses and anything called a tunic. Generally their clothes are well made and wearable, and they have some good designers who make interesting shapes. They never descend into cheap like M&S or cutesy like Whitestuff, except in their socks, but I quite like a bit of whimsy inside my boots. I hate Roman, Very, Sosander, Joe Browns and Live Unlimited though, so, each to their own.

I'd never heard of Seasalt so have just had a look on their website 😱 no wonder i haven't heard of it, its the sort of stuff I would have bought my 90 yo nan!

I definitely think OP can find much better stuff for her age. The odd jumper from there is fine for bumming around indoors but for a put together outfit to do more than go to the supermarket or walk the dog I don't think its right for someone in their mid 50s.

I love this woman’s style OP - some looks are OTT but I get inspiration from many of her outfits:

www.shopltk.com/explore/fabfatand40plus

@BitterHarvest I get what you mean about the stomach . No matter what you do having 5 kids is going to show ! I too want to hide it with longer tops . Telling me to tuck in leaves a big stick out thing and then short legs . So I don't like trousers and tops . I do tend to wear a lot of dresses but not always practical I know .

agree 100%!

Shall I bin my excellent raincoat, t-shirts and pyjamas?
They probably are aimed at a 'middle-aged and older' demographic, but they are good for staples.

What do you recommend for someone in their mid-50s?