Poking holes in condoms!

Completely agree. I sincerely hope some of these responses are just "rage bait".

Some PPs don't seem to realise that two things can be true at once. Yes, a man stringing a woman along is morally reprehensible and deceitful, but so is poking holes in a condom. You can't condone and justify one act due to another.

If this is real, I can’t see why he is in shock given condoms are the least effective form of contraception bar crossing your fingers.

At what point does the OP say that he was stringing her along?
A lot of overactive imaginations on here adding stuff about the man involved that isn't in the OP's comment.

Outrageous responses on here just dismissing this behaviour as somehow acceptable. Consent is required, how is that not obvious?

Stringing women along is so cruel and irresponsible that I just don’t care. I know SO many men who have done this. Who now happily have the families they ‘weren’t sure if they wanted’ with a younger woman while his ex is 45 and childless not by choice.

Because for some women, it doesn’t matter what a woman does, the fault just has to lie with a man. No amount of projection, distortion or denial is too much.

Meh.

Do they have kids? What’s the situation?

Don’t blame her if he’s strung her along for years or similar

Me and DH have 1 child together (he has 2 from a previous relationship) and due to him being older than me, he absolutely doesn't want any more. We discussed this before trying for our DS. After becoming a Mum, I would now love another but obviously respect his position and have come to terms with the fact that we will stop at 1.
He is on the waiting list for the snip so that I can eventually come off hormonal contraception.
What absolutely shocks me is that when discussing this with friends (using the term loosely), so far I've had 6 different people say I should just stop my pill and not tell him as time is ticking for me to get pregnant before he gets the snip 😳
Honestly shocked that women think that's ok...I definitely see them in a different light now too.

She wouldn’t because she could have an abortion.

I’ve always wondered how that works in practice. Surely most people just take them out of the wrapper just before use. When would you have time to get a pin out? Think my partner would notice if I stopped everything to get a condom, open it in the bathroom, rummaged around for a pin and then poked holes in it before coming back to the bedroom?

Edited for a typo

Tell men that!

Me and DH have 1 child together (he has 2 from a previous relationship) and due to him being older than me, he absolutely doesn't want any more. We discussed this before trying for our DS. After becoming a Mum, I would now love another but obviously respect his position and have come to terms with the fact that we will stop at 1.
He is on the waiting list for the snip so that I can eventually come off hormonal contraception.
What absolutely shocks me is that when discussing this with friends (using the term loosely), so far I've had 6 different people say I should just stop my pill and not tell him as time is ticking for me to get pregnant before he gets the snip 😳
Honestly shocked that women think that's ok...I definitely see them in a different light now too.

Really not convinced this is a real thread either.

but for those wondering, yes small holes can be an issue - back in the 90s at some point, there was a campaign for condom use in South Africa (I think) to prevent HIV spread and for contraception, except the condoms were stapled to the leaflets advising how to use them (religious area where they would not normally be used), leaving almost invisible holes. People were then told not to use them after all, and the incident led to damaged trust in public health campaigns for a while. I don't think it's known how many additional pregnancies and/or cases of virus transmission occurred, as I don't think it would be easily measured, but it was certainly a concern.

What size do you think sperms are?