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To be disappointed Dolly Parton supported biological men using women's toilets?

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Jane3212 · 21/09/2026 00:44

I really liked her music and she seemed like a nice person: her Imagination Library came to my borough recently. I was very sad to hear she'd died.
But was very disappointed to read this. The statements she made about trans people deserving respect, no issue with those.
But minimising the reasonable concerns women have about being forced to let men in their toilets was wrong.
I'm not saying she should have spoken out for GC issues. It might have been best just not to comment.
Parton had connections with drag queens and I wonder if that's the lens she saw transwomen through : not an excuse but might partially explain.

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WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Today 12:16

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Differentforgirls · Today 12:24

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Still going 🤣

BIossomtoes · Today 12:25

Gone soon.

SpiderInMyShoe · Today 12:27

@AccidentallyWesAnderson

I have no idea what ‘FWR ideology’ entails so I can’t explain it or what it’s meant to be so its news to me that I apparently adhere to it. Is there even one? Or do the posters there just believe sex is real, immutable and important in certain situations? Why don’t you ask on the FWR board?

So does that mean while you have no idea what “FWR ideology” is, you still know sex is real and immutable at the same time?

over50andfab · Today 12:27

Rollingpinofdoom · Today 09:05

Of course. They can totally call themselves trans. It’s like when people call themselves Lord of wherever or that they own a piece of the moon because they bought one of those packs off the internet that gives you a certificate. Doesn’t mean they’re really a Lord or entitled to a bit of the moon. I know. I checked.
As long as people use any spaces and facilities relevant to their sex, and don’t demand other people indulge their “identity”, it’s all good.

Interesting thoughts, showing more clearly how you feel about trans people and gender identity - almost like it shouldn't exist as it's not real.

Keeptoiletssafe · Today 12:30

😁

Edit: 😁to the Father Ted refs. I bore myself. Why do you think I was so excited when FWS verdict made me think I didn’t have to talk about toilets anymore.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Today 12:31

over50andfab · Today 12:27

Interesting thoughts, showing more clearly how you feel about trans people and gender identity - almost like it shouldn't exist as it's not real.

🫠

SpiderInMyShoe · Today 12:32

RIP Dolly. What a wonderful woman who brought such gifts to this world.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Today 12:33

Keeptoiletssafe · Today 12:30

😁

Edit: 😁to the Father Ted refs. I bore myself. Why do you think I was so excited when FWS verdict made me think I didn’t have to talk about toilets anymore.

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They don’t really have much else to offer. Keep on with the stellar work that you do.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Today 12:34

SpiderInMyShoe · Today 12:32

RIP Dolly. What a wonderful woman who brought such gifts to this world.

Absolutely. Best to leave the thread on this note. I’m away to watch Steel Magnolias.

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Today 12:34

Aw what, my Father Ted reference got deleted 😂
Flippin eck.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Today 12:34

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Today 12:34

Aw what, my Father Ted reference got deleted 😂
Flippin eck.

It was about as funny as a paper cut.

Keeptoiletssafe · Today 12:35

Oh I flicked passed and maybe misread it.

Keeptoiletssafe · Today 12:35

Anyway happy to be called boring.

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Today 12:37

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Today 12:34

It was about as funny as a paper cut.

😂
It was in reply to differentforgirls comment, which interestingly is still standing 😕
Maybe the one who reported is only half reading the thread lol

Keeptoiletssafe · Today 12:38

RIP Dolly. Much loved and did a lot of good.
Hopefully we can end on that.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · Today 12:40

Keeptoiletssafe · Today 12:38

RIP Dolly. Much loved and did a lot of good.
Hopefully we can end on that.

And that Graham Linehan is a fine writer 😉.

Differentforgirls · Today 12:40

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Today 12:34

Aw what, my Father Ted reference got deleted 😂
Flippin eck.

Some killjoy reported it.

Differentforgirls · Today 12:40

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Today 12:37

😂
It was in reply to differentforgirls comment, which interestingly is still standing 😕
Maybe the one who reported is only half reading the thread lol

It's obvious who it was...

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Today 12:41

Differentforgirls · Today 12:40

Some killjoy reported it.

Yes, must have been some hurty feelz somewhere.

over50andfab · Today 12:41

TBF keeptoiletsafe has made some good points eg people becoming poorly and access and also accessible loos - though fully admit I has scrolled through several of the overly long explanatory posts. It's clearly a passion to be respected - said sincerely even if we can't be as interested.

However I suspect that going forward, any risk will continue to be men however they dress or identify eg any men with bad intentions will now pretend to be a trans man in order to go into women's toilets, or just go in regardless. The solution where possible will be unisex toilets so we will have our single enclosed spaces but maybe not accessible when needed following keeptoiletsafe points made.

Differentforgirls · Today 12:43

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Today 12:41

Yes, must have been some hurty feelz somewhere.

It's a regular occurance!

over50andfab · Today 12:43

I also just wanted to clarify in the final posts that Dolly NEVER said that men should have access to women's toilets. OP should check facts, not click bait heading before posting in such a disingenuous way.

#TeamDolly

over50andfab · Today 12:44

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