To feel jealous of the dog

He has to leave the house at 8.15 anyway. She opened the curtains 20cm.

She needs to be able too see to get ready.

It’s not a race ro rhe bottom, she didn’t ask people to rank who is worse.

Firstly she never said she also was leaving and I’m assuming they have more than one room, so she can grab her stuff and get ready in the loo. There is no law says it’s to be the bedroom.

Funny how your posts have zero criticism of the H though.

She does everything but it’s still not enough in your eyes.

I’m glad you didn’t open my curtains at 7:30AM on a Sunday!
Why would you do that?
I’m an early riser myself. I was up at 5:45AM this morning and was back home from a long walk with the dogs, hang the washing out to dry, had an at-home diy facial and started making breakfast for the family by 9AM, when everyone else was still asleep.
Throughout my morning activities I did not make unnecessary noise because everyone else was asleep. Why would I cause them to wake up if they were not ready? It’s Sunday, lovely morning, I’m busy myself, they’re all old enough to sort themselves out of a morning.
I suspect your DH asked you in the past, several times, not to wake him up like this.
When the children were younger, I would have hated DH waking me up if he was already awake to sort out the kids and start the Sunday on his own.

She needs to get dressed, maybe comb her hair, put on moisturiser.

Weird how he gets away with showing zero consideration for her but she must tip toe around him in case the King wakes up a few minutes early.

Well I’m somewhat skeptical about people who can also be difficult to live with / have a relationship with but they deflect that by focusing on how much they do for the family. For me, the passive aggressive act of opening the curtain and leaving a mess and comparing that to a dog is telling. Not saying the husband isn’t a dick either, just that I don’t think OP is that easy either. They’re not suited to each other.

Ah yes, the woman must vacate the bedroom no doubt on tiptoe in the darkness to go and get ready in the toilet because the poor little man is sleeping and shouldn't be disturbed.

@TwinklyAmberSloth your relationship with your husband appears to have degenerated into one where nobody takes responsibility for themselves, and nobody communicates, so you just end up sniping at each other. Once the rot like that sets in, it generally only gets worse.

Why is it your responsibility to get them all up? Let them sleep in and miss out. They'll soon learn.

Why not let the children make mess when they make their food as your husband didn't feed them? If he moans about the mess, that is the moment to point out that he could have made lunch to a satisfactory cleanliness level.

You appear to be making a rod for your own back. The only thing you can control is what you do.

I get that some of these things are shared problems, but you appear to be trying to find solutions for things that are unwelcome and / or unhelpful.

I do agree with some of the PP's that it doesn't sound like you are very compatible, but would add that if you want someone to spend time with you, you need to make it a pleasant experience. Neither of you appear to do that. One of you needs to take the first step or your relationship is likely to degenerate further.

He is a horrible person and you sound like you are in total denial. The stories your children will be telling when they are adults!

That's dog people for you. The many who claim to prefer their dog to other human beings are not joking I'm afraid.

That’s not a man/woman thing sexist. My husband would tip toe around me too, as I would him. It’s just basic consideration for the other person.

OP you say he’s not a horrible person but if you don’t wake your child up there’s aggression and swearing and cursing. This doesn’t sound like a good person. Might you had said this to justify the opening the curtain thing? Or is he genuinely like this? If so, you and your family are tip toeing on eggshells around the man and it needs to be addressed, or your kids therapist will when they’re older.
The opening of curtains was out of order. If your son is late for football eventually they’ll figure it out between the two of them.
The dog thing is a side note. It’s not really about the dog is it. I reckon a good dose of marriage counselling may be in order.

I know this is massively beside the point (i.e., point being you are two very incompatible people somehow in a marriage that makes zero sense), but.....

There are other, much more gentle ways to wake someone?!?!

DH and I are often knackered by the end of the week, so we make sure we each get lie-ins at the weekend. Every so often, one of us might oversleep when we have plans lined up. If that happens, I just go in, rub his shoulders and speak quietly to softly wake him up. He would do the same for me.

Opening the curtains would be a sure-fire way to piss either of us off!

You sound like a fun sponge tbh.
I feel sorry for the dog you didn’t want.
Sounds like you have grown apart, and lead separate lives.

I'm sorry, but the more you post, the more unpleasant and controlling your husband sounds.

Are you aware of how beaten down and miserable you sound?

Yes.....thats exactly what you should do. A teenager is more than capable of setting an alarm and DH is a grown adult. Your marriage sounds utterly shit. I would be annoyed if you opened the curtains too!

And whats with emphasis on showers when they are going to football? Why can't they have showers when they get back?

And I agree with this as well.

Let them get up in their own time and if they're late, they're late - why make it your problem?

Don’t get your DS up for football. Leave it for your DH. Stop doing so much @TwinklyAmberSloth

And also, consider whether you want to remain in this marriage; it sounds awful for both of you. Not taking sides, but I’m sure you would be far happier on your own.

Does he purposely wake you up when he goes to bed later? There is literally no need for you to open the curtains when you wake up early if he's still sleeping - other than to annoy him. And let's be honest - you know that. You don't sound like you like or respect him very much so it's no surprise he would rather walk the dog than spend time with you. If my DP decided the dog had to sleep in the utility room - he'd be gone.

but hey OP opened the curtains so his terrible behaviour towards her and the children fades into insignificance.

Ironic you should post this hyperbole after quoting my post about exaggeration to bolster opinion lol.

Have you tried being less of a martyr? Because you are not coming across well at all.

Oh dear.

op, don’t start threads if you don’t want honest answers. Or write them and say can you just tell me my husband is a right cunt. Or paint yourself as the best wife ever.

I was going to ask OP, why are you doing this? Why aren't you insisting he does his fair share?