Partner kicked off at birthday gift

I have never had anyone complain I did not spend enough- he's 50 not 5, for God's sake, a partner who judges a gift purely by the amount of money you spent is not a partner worth keeping in my view.

Nah, he is already dipping his wick in someone elses candle vat. He will be back, but only when he gets dumped by her.

Well that is a perfectly good present you got him there, so i agree there is more to this. But what a nasty immature person he sounds. I could not forget this or trust him. You have your son to think of in this, and i would not want him growing up remembering this type of thing. Let him be gone!

For my birthday, my partner got me a card off the kids. That was all. I didn't storm out and move out. Are you sure he didn't turn 4?

@whatthehellyy

Sorry, OP, sadly I think this. He’s ripe for midlife crisis too.

Obviously, if this was really out of character, maybe check that he’s not got something going on health/mental wise, but if not, he’s a prick, and future you may be glad you got out now.

Still hard though….

What the actual fuck ? Im thinking like others he planned his reaction to beable to leave..
Who behaves this way and especially a 50 plus yr old .
I don't know what advice to give because this would absolutely put me off a man forever.

You don't need this manchild in your life get the voucher back and make him pay child support for his child and he can go and live in his empty arse house..the absolute prick.

50! He's 50? I don't even think any of my most hormonal teens would have behaved this way, even if grossly disappointed.

But then, they all knew that, had they called me a bitch of any description, my reaction would have been ballistic.

I agree with others that he was setting you up for a fall. Maybe the tears were because he knew he was leaving his son.

What a pathetic arse. Don’t let him back. Make sure he pays child support.

He’s tragic, unhinged and pathetic. Or he’s looking for a reason to split up. Honestly crying over a perfectly good birthday gift would give me the ick so bad. Forget him.

Is he neurodivergent?

This is sott if thing my 15yr old might do and shes autistic with pda...

Just a thought x

Sounds like he's having a mid life crisis because that reaction is mental.

He was already planning to leave and has contrived an excuse to make it your fault.

Do you have a partner @shuggles ? Children?

He needs to stay in his empty house.

You don’t need this sort of shit around your child

No to both, but an unusual question given the topic of the thread.

I think it's unreasonable for anyone over the age of 16 to actually care about what they receive for a birthday

so probably a blessing you don’t have a partner or any teens

I did not receive birthday presents in my later teens. Most teens don't. It comes across as rather infantile for a grown person to be receiving birthday presents from mummy and daddy.

There are young children in my family and I buy presents for them.

My point was it was probably a blessing that you don’t have a partner and kids

because if they care about their birthdays - then they’d be sorely disappointed.

It seems you have no capacity to separate your own experience from other people's and you simply assume that everything that happens to you is 'normal for everyone'. News flash - it's not!

He sounds like an overgrown baby. You asked him what he wanted and instead of saying what he wanted he said nothing but then called you tight because you gave him a £100 voucher. You were perfectly reasonable.

Well don't let him back in the door for f**k sake. He sounds crazy.

You bred with this cretin? Trash took itself out.

I would like to think that a hypothetical wife and hypothetical adult children would be more grown up than that.

That is a good point.

Because @shuggles wasn’t “spoilt” on his birthday and made a bit of a fuss from 16/17 on wards - then no one else should be. Or at least if they want to be - then they’re childish.