Partner kicked off at birthday gift

It sounds like he has something wrong with him. Seriously. Mental or physical health issues? Because this is not a normal way to behave.

Ridiculous behaviour buying a voucher for his birthday. You have been together for 4 years FFS. You should have known what he would want. No wonder the poor bloke was so upset. Hopefully he finds someone who appreciates him.

Are you her DP?

He's cheating and caused the argument as an excuse to go off to the other property to meet them.

He was 100% looking for an excuse to end things. You haven't done anything wrong from what you've posted. Had things been difficult with having a child together? On the plus side he is maintaining a relationship with his child.

Sounds like game playing behaviour to me.
could be trauma around birthdays for to childhood, could be a manipulation tactic as he wanted to breakup bit didn’t have the guts to be adult about it. She he treated a situation to use as the reason in which he blames you. He sounds very disrespectful and immature. You are better off without this second child manbaby.

You cannot know the reasons and don’t trouble yourself with why. Just move on with your life as best you can. He will reap what he sows.

I hope you find it within yourself to leave this awful man.

Is he freaking out at turning 50?!

What’s he spent/ bought you for birthdays and Christmas etc to give us a comparison?

Because you took off his power to rubbish or ignore your gift. You ruined his power play.

So you spent £100 on him but that’s not enough for him 🙄

Thats honestly insane. Grown man crying about it and also $100 and dinner is not nothing

@whatthehellyy You know how he behaved was massively rude and unnecessary. The big questions are, "Have you had enough of his immature actions and behaviors? Are you going to move on so your child learns how to act like a caring, kind and grateful person? Are you happy with a man like that?"

I truly hope your answers are yes, yes, no.

This is the start of The Script.

Come on. You know you are not in the wrong. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

What sort of spoilt infantile lemon sits crying in their 50s because they didn’t ask for anything for their bday so their partner spent £100 on something they thought would be appreciated?

This. He's a manipulative shit. You have done nothing wrong.

He’s 50 years old
By now he should’ve learnt some manners and grace.

He wouldn’t be given a second chance from me, let him storm off to his empty house , he can look after himself, he really doesn’t deserve a loving family to come home to.

He is trying to break you down, make you tiptoe around his possible anger so you will do everything he wants without question in future for fear of his reaction.

When he comes sniffing back under the pretence of “are you going to show me that you do love me” banner I would give some consideration into saying “After that reaction I have had time to think and going forward separate houses and a co-parenting relationship will be better for all of us, I have no idea why you were so angry and I am not about to start to try and guess how you might react at any given moment so let’s keep things as they are”

If you let him back @whatthehellyy you have years of misery before you can get him to leave again.

You gave him a very generous gift. He is pathetic and manipulative. It’s a shame you have a child with him, you could do without that tether. Ideally you should sack this off completely.

Too hard work. He would be an x. Goodbuy.

I would wonder if he isn't enjoying the arrival of your dc and is looking for a way out.

He was looking for an excuse to leave. Played his part. Left.

So when you buy presents he doesn’t use them or seemingly want them. When you ask he refuses to say and when you give him a voucher he swears at you!!?!!
Yeah I couldn’t be putting up with that. He sounds nasty and selfish.
I would say don’t have him back but it’s easier said than done. If you do accept him back I’d want an agreement for birthdays/xmas going forward.
Dh and I spend (approx ) £100 at each and give each other’s few ideas in the month or so before.

Manipulation would be the reason

He's obviusly got masssive issues around this and he's blaming you.

He's projecting past hurt onto you .

Not excusing this at all but if he ever wants to come back or apologise etc you must make him confront this and find out why it's so sensitive .