Partner kicked off at birthday gift

Let this be the wake up call you need. Dump him and do not let him come back

My DP is also in the ‘there is nothing I want/need’ brigade so I usually buy a token gift and treat him to a day/weekend out and he’s always over the moon with it! He’d be chuffed with £100 voucher and a meal, unless you’re going to reveal you’re one of the mega earners on MN I’d say he was a major dickhead and waiting for any excuse to bail

What an abusive bastard.
what do you mean he “fetches” your son ?
you can’t let your baby go to stay in an empty unfurnished house with a mentally unstable man who weeps because his birthday presents weren’t what he thought they should be ?!

Absolutely pathetic. Good riddance to him, what a knob.

He sounds like he has lots of issues.
Its ok not to like presents etc. but this is odd. Like he is saying one thing but expecting you to do it anyway to show him love. This inner conflict could be something like borderline personality disorder.

Have you noticed any signs of weird behaviour?

What a silly twat!

A man who calls you a bitch isn’t a man you want in your life. Especially not at 50 - I’m that age and there was still some vestige of gentlemanliness in our upbringing at that time.

by the way he’s a grown 50 year old

He’s a twat but was it his 50th?

You deserve better than him!

How ungrateful and 100 pounds is a lot of money!!! ❤️

He’s a twat. What a horrid man.

Was it his 50th? Maybe he was all oh no presents but really wanted a huge party/surprise 🤷‍♀️
Totally unacceptable behaviour though, whatever the reason!

It does sound awquard

Oh....so it was his 50th and he did the old "Oh I dont want a fuss" and when you didnt make one he kicked off?

He might be 50 but he isnt a grown up at all.

I just don’t believe half the post on mumsnet anymore. They don’t ring true and after a couple of messages from the OP to get it started the OP disappears. They’re either AI written or it’s someone’s job but yeah I’m out, call me a flouncer, it’s just dull

I wanted to be made a fuss of on my 50th, so I organised my own birthday! I didnt expect my DP (at the time) to do it for me. Because I dont need other people to "prove" they care about me!

The trash took itself out as they say

This plus he's a cowardly prick for not telling you the real reason he left!

did he expect princess treatment? 👸🏼

@whatthehellyy
Some women would not bother to buy their partner anything ever, especially if they're so vehement about it
Probably knowing you still would though
I think this was his excuse to show displeasure and then leave you.

Oh wow. What a great model for your DC.

That is bizarre behaviour and I wonder if he’s one of these men that can’t bear the attention shifting from them when kids come along. At 50 he really should have grown up by now.

Does he have a crazy ex that won’t let him see his other children? Or a couple of them?

There are red flags waving all around but it’s hard to understand without more of a sense of what he’s like. But this would give me the ‘ick’ as they say.

What have I just read… who acts like that?? Whenever I think my DH is being an arsehole so just read something like this and think… well I must have one of the good ones then as this is completely unhinged behaviour. Crying, storming out and just being generally a complete and utter prick. Sorry OP, in better news now you can leave him and go live a happy life because this surely is the nail in the coffin.

Put in a claim for child maintenance asap

I'm awkward but it doesn't give me the right to be nasty to people. He's a turd.

What ridiculous behaviour! I'd get him another present - a nice new set of locks for the doors and no key. Let him stay and stew in his spare house and good riddance. You don't need this, you've already got one child to deal with. There's obviously something else going on and he's been looking for an excuse to throw his paddy and flounce off into the sunset. Oh, and I'd get the voucher back and spend it on your child instead. What a petulant man-brat!

Sorry you had to experience this BS @whatthehellyy

You just paid £100 bullsh1t tax - it may not seem like it but he has done you a favour... He sounds manipulative and also expects you to be a mindreader. He is a grown ass man in his 50s and can't use his words or express a preference? Throw him back as mumsnetters say...

I hope you see that it really isn't about you. That guy has issues but I hope you and your kiddo are doing OK without him x