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AIBU to think not every school issue should be labelled SEN?

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Emily3325 · 14/09/2026 16:38

I feel like lately absolutely everything that happens in schools is being viewed through the lens of SEN. For context I’ve worked in education for over a decade across settings and provisions.

A child is naughty in class - SEN.
A child cries at playtime - SEN.

A child struggles with something, immediately we’re looking at what additional provision they might need.
And don’t get me wrong, I completely understand that some children genuinely have additional needs and absolutely need support and reasonable adjustments. That’s not what I’m arguing against.
What I’m finding frustrating is that it feels like we’re getting to the point where normal childhood behaviour is being treated as evidence that something must be wrong.
The recent DfE announcement about changes to school food standards is a good example. Almost immediately, the discussion seems to become “but what about SEN children who won’t eat those foods?”
Obviously there are children with genuine sensory or medical needs who will need individual arrangements. But surely we can have healthier expectations for children generally while making appropriate exceptions for those who genuinely need them?
And I think it’s actually becoming a problem for everyone.
My partner teaches a class of 30. There is one child who is constantly extremely disruptive — we’re talking about repeatedly slamming doors hard enough to crack the glass in the door.
The parents believe he has ADHD, but he doesn’t have a diagnosis. The school has tried to work with them and has discussed whether the child could access the school’s resource hub, but the parents feel that doing so would be discriminatory. They also don’t want to pursue a diagnosis or come into school to work with the school on a plan.
I’m not saying the child doesn’t have additional needs. He might. I don’t know.
But while everyone is arguing about whether he has SEN, 29 other children are having their lessons repeatedly disrupted.
And that’s not fair on them either.
It’s not fair on the teacher.
And actually, it’s not fair on the child himself, because he’s clearly struggling and isn’t getting an effective solution either.
That’s what I find so frustrating. Everyone loses.
The children who don’t have SEN lose learning time.
Children who genuinely do have SEN can struggle to get the specialist support they need because resources are stretched.
Teachers are expected to somehow manage increasingly complex needs in mainstream classrooms.
And children who are struggling can end up stuck without appropriate support because nobody seems willing to make a decision until there’s a diagnosis.
I also think we’ve got to be careful about lowering expectations in the name of inclusion.
Sometimes a child is genuinely unable to do something because of a disability and absolutely needs an adjustment.
But sometimes a child is just upset.
Sometimes they’re being naughty.
Sometimes they don’t like the school dinner.
Sometimes they have to learn that they can’t always get their own way.
Not every difficult moment needs an SEN explanation.
And I honestly think we’ve reached a point where we’re doing all children a disservice by treating everything this way.
AIBU?

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Emily3325 · 17/09/2026 09:30

PensionPTake · 16/09/2026 11:58

Assessed by the nhs is very vague. Half my child's Sen difficulties aren't even covered by the nhs.

There was more to the assessments however I’m not going to discuss a child’s medical details in depth

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JLou08 · 17/09/2026 10:17

Emily3325 · 16/09/2026 07:55

The child was assessed by the NHS and nothing was diagnosed.

So he had no diagnosed disability or health condition. That doesn't mean no special educational needs. Are you really a teacher? I find it surprising that a teacher doesn't understand the SEN isn't a health condition that's diagnosed by the NHS. It's simply a term for children who have special educational needs, it doesn't require a health professional to assess or diagnose.

Emily3325 · 17/09/2026 10:26

JLou08 · 17/09/2026 10:17

So he had no diagnosed disability or health condition. That doesn't mean no special educational needs. Are you really a teacher? I find it surprising that a teacher doesn't understand the SEN isn't a health condition that's diagnosed by the NHS. It's simply a term for children who have special educational needs, it doesn't require a health professional to assess or diagnose.

As I said in my last comment, I’m not going into this child’s full history. They had been on several services radar across their school life and up until they left primary there hadn’t been anything formalised

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JLou08 · 17/09/2026 10:39

Emily3325 · 17/09/2026 10:26

As I said in my last comment, I’m not going into this child’s full history. They had been on several services radar across their school life and up until they left primary there hadn’t been anything formalised

You've already shared a lot, I'm not sure what else you could add. You don't think someone is SEN unless they have a diagnosed health condition or disability, even if they have mild dyscalculia.
I do hope this is just rage bait. It's quite worrying if you really work in education when you're so ill informed.

roaringdragon · 17/09/2026 14:05

There doesn’t need to be anything formalised for a child to have SEN.

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