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AIBU to want an apology after a colleague injured my ankle?

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Scrrt · 13/09/2026 16:59

a few weeks ago I was coming out of the staff room at work and a colleague came flying in, crashed into me, knocked me out of my shoe and I stumbled and landed awkwardly on my ankle. It’s been weak and painful ever since. I had to cancel a charity race and Ive had time off work for appointments and X-rays.

Her response was “well I was hungry”. Everyone who saw it happen finds it hilarious. People who didn’t see it finds the description hilarious. I don’t and I’m pissed off. I want her to acknowledge it and acknowledge that it was her fault and apologise rather than it still being treated like a comedy sketch.

OP posts:
Couldyounot · 13/09/2026 17:38

"I was hungry"

What kind of piss-arse excuse is that for being a blithering, blathering oaf??

Nofeckingway · 13/09/2026 17:38

Gosh, even if I accidentally bump into someone's arm I say sorry . Doesn't take much . I would be annoyed too OP . And it sounds like she is trying to make a joke of it to deflect blame . Not nice and a shame others on the workplace don't realize too.

SueFlay12 · 13/09/2026 17:40

Scrrt · 13/09/2026 17:15

She flung the door open and ran in. No apology, just barged me out of the way to get to the fridge

Send her a solicitors letter

UncannyFanny · 13/09/2026 17:43

I’m trying to picture falling out of my shoes. I’m guessing they can’t be very well fitted?

ThisCraftyAquaHedgehog · 13/09/2026 17:45

What have HR said? Your line manager?
Presumably you have had to complete an 'injured at work' form?

I would fully expect a quick apology at the time, but not a formal thing however long later.

What on earth kind of work shoes can one 'fall out of'?

If you genuinely believe her negligence caused you injury, then HR is your place to go.

TwinklyAmberSloth · 13/09/2026 17:48

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 17:28

Yes, I'm for real.

If OP managed to get herself knocked over by someone rushing through a door, that suggests she was stood in the wrong place. It's common sense 101 not to stand directly behind a closed door.

Like I said, I would have made sure OP was okay.

Basic common sense: when walking through a door to a busy area (e.g. a staff room) then you open it with care.

Regardless of whether the person came through the door too fast or not, she hurt someone and should have apologised.

The fact you think it's OK to hurt someone and not even apologise speaks volumes...

BeSharpHelper · 13/09/2026 17:51

Im sorry you were hurt op and im the sort of person who apologises to furniture that ive walked into , but I’m actually laughing at the mental picture of ‘falling out of shoes’ . What speed was she travelling at? What sort of shoes were you wearing?

DeftGoldHedgehog · 13/09/2026 17:52

ColdAsAWitches · 13/09/2026 17:19

I'm not entirely sure it was her fault though. Two people bumped into each other because neither of you can see through doors. I'm sure it's annoying and painful, but nobody is necessarily at fault.

Bollocks. You should never enter a staff room quickly, flinging the door open, knocking someone over on the way to the fridge. Colleague sounds like a thoughtless, clumsy twat.

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 17:52

TwinklyAmberSloth · 13/09/2026 17:48

Basic common sense: when walking through a door to a busy area (e.g. a staff room) then you open it with care.

Regardless of whether the person came through the door too fast or not, she hurt someone and should have apologised.

The fact you think it's OK to hurt someone and not even apologise speaks volumes...

Yes, as I said upthread - both are at fault and I would have checked OP was okay.

I also never once said I wouldn't apologise - just that I wouldn't take responsibility for her injury. So maybe read what you're responding to before being rude.

Wreckinball · 13/09/2026 18:00

She should have apologised.
This could happen again, raise as H&S issue to get a glass panel in the door, so starving, barging staff can see if they are about to take someone else out. If she thinks it’s funny she’s not about to alter her behaviour.
Get it reported in the accident book.
Take time off if you can’t work properly
I hope you heal ok and can get back to fitness.

EdP00 · 13/09/2026 18:02

Did she not even say sorry when you were lying on the floor?

She should absolutely say sorry and check that you’re ok - it’s basic human decency.

I wouldn’t expect her to still feel bad though and I assume the co-workers are joking about it so she doesn’t feel as bad.

SquidgyPudge · 13/09/2026 18:08

She should have apologised, did she not say even a cursory "oops, sorry"?Seems really weird for someone to be opening a door and then starting to run... Surely she had to slow down to open the door or is it a swing door? How much speed did she manage to pick up in order to knock you out of your shoes? But in any event I'm sure it wasn't a deliberate act and the very definition of an accident.

I have to ask though, like others, I'm curious as to what sort of shoes you were wearing that you got knocked out of them? That's not normal. What was the result of the appontments and x-rays, I assume something serious if there have been multiple appointments and xrays? What have work said as I'm assuming you must have recorded it in an accident book since it's so serious you are suffering weeks later?

letmebetheone · 13/09/2026 18:15

EdP00 · 13/09/2026 18:02

Did she not even say sorry when you were lying on the floor?

She should absolutely say sorry and check that you’re ok - it’s basic human decency.

I wouldn’t expect her to still feel bad though and I assume the co-workers are joking about it so she doesn’t feel as bad.

Op didn't say she was knocked to the floor. The fact that everyone who saw it found it funny and laughed implies the OP wasn't seriously hurt. Presumably that's not a reaction everyone would have had if the OP had been badly hurt.
What have HR said about it? presumably you raised the issue with them.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 13/09/2026 18:17

YANBU

She sounds appalling.

I'd be raising this with HR, they should at least be putting out a work etiquette email, no running in the workplace, treat others as you'd wish to be treated etc.

Hope you get better soon.

Marieb19 · 13/09/2026 18:17

Did she not apologise at all? If not, you could contact the personnel depth, especially as you have had to take time off work. I can't see your boss thinking it's funny if you are taking time off.

WhereYouLeftIt · 13/09/2026 18:27

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 17:28

Yes, I'm for real.

If OP managed to get herself knocked over by someone rushing through a door, that suggests she was stood in the wrong place. It's common sense 101 not to stand directly behind a closed door.

Like I said, I would have made sure OP was okay.

She wasn't "stood" at all.

OP "was coming out of the staff room at work and a colleague came flying in". OP was in the process of going through the doorway when someone came through in the opposite direction.

ginasevern · 13/09/2026 18:33

She flung the door open and barged you out of the way to get to the fridge, citing "I'm hungry". She sounds like a rampaging pig.

Zaza2020 · 13/09/2026 18:36

How rude. Poor you, id be annoyed too.

CakesForAll · 13/09/2026 18:36

For all those asking "How can one be knocked out of shoes?" Have a bit of imagination. Example, OP might have been wearing 2 inch heel backless loafers. Easy to be knocked out of those when some thoughtless oaf barges into you at speed. It's not funny. OP was injured.

Backedoffhackedoff · 13/09/2026 18:37

if she wouldn’t apologise at the time she won’t weeks later and what’s the point in forcing her? She won’t mean it.

Boreded · 13/09/2026 18:38

So are you saying that the moment of impact, she didn’t say oops sorry…I doubt that very much.

why do you need an apology after the fact.

Itsdarkateight · 13/09/2026 18:40

Offherrockingchair · 13/09/2026 17:16

Take a bit of time off work and say it was due to being injured in the workplace. Presumably there’ll be a form to complete and they may start taking it seriously then? She’s very rude not to apologize!

Yes I’d do this. It needs to be documented that you were injured at work regardless

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 18:43

WhereYouLeftIt · 13/09/2026 18:27

She wasn't "stood" at all.

OP "was coming out of the staff room at work and a colleague came flying in". OP was in the process of going through the doorway when someone came through in the opposite direction.

Then OP was just as much at fault as the other person if they were both coming through the door at the same time.

EdP00 · 13/09/2026 18:46

letmebetheone · 13/09/2026 18:15

Op didn't say she was knocked to the floor. The fact that everyone who saw it found it funny and laughed implies the OP wasn't seriously hurt. Presumably that's not a reaction everyone would have had if the OP had been badly hurt.
What have HR said about it? presumably you raised the issue with them.

Yes fair enough, I imagined her falling to the floor.

If she fell out of her shoe it must have been very obvious and so I think it was obvious that she was injured and therefore the other person should have apologised.

(As opposed to, her knocking OPs ankle gently and not realising how much it hurt, which is why she didn’t apologise).

EdP00 · 13/09/2026 18:47

beaglescurleduplikebagels · 13/09/2026 18:43

Then OP was just as much at fault as the other person if they were both coming through the door at the same time.

Not if the other person came flying in and OP was walking sensibly out.

We know not to fling doors open or shut because someone could be coming the other way.