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Is the trans kids trend over? Aibu to wonder what happened to the kids caught up in it in the 2010s?

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Hippodrome · Yesterday 07:28

As we know the period from the mid 10s to early 20s has been described as “woke 1” and is apparently “over”.
When I was at secondary school in the 2010s, there were four trans kids in my year group (3 FTMs and one mtf) the one mtf was autistic and in foster care. I was always nice to them and kept my views to myself but I’m wondering what’s going on with them now, they’ve completely dropped off the radar. None of them have social media accounts and no one else I went to school with had heard from them.

My daughter has just entered year 5 and doesn’t know any trans kids or even what one is, my neighbours teenage children don’t know any either and they’re the age I was when four classmates transitioned.

I know there’s a lot of teachers on mumsnet would this be your experience too?

Ive tried googling this but everyone seems to have moved on from it I think there may be a forgotten generation who’s lives have been ruined

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Helleofabore · Yesterday 17:33

NowSober · Yesterday 17:22

We have had at least one male person with a transgender identity confirm on MN FWR that they received puberty blockers as an under 18 year old.

We have had at least one male person with a transgender identity claim on MN FWR that they received puberty blockers as an under 18 year old. There were many inconsistencies with his story. I didn't believe his claim about PBs.

Fair enough.

He has built a life being 'a trans elder' though based on that back history from GIDS. It is very concerning that this man has put himself in a position where he counsels 'young people' on transition.

What was just as alarming or more alarming, is what he would tell teenagers or 'young people' about not disclosing their sex category to potential sex partners. I do believe he was in those roles and clearly had no fucking idea about safeguarding children or vulnerable people.

localnotail · Yesterday 17:44

Re trans kids - before this was even a "thing", my DC had a boy in his reception class who adored wearing dresses. His parents and teachers were completely fine with it (mostly ignoring it tbh), he was an ordinary looking boy but as soon as he arrived at school he would head for a dressing up corner, put on a princess dress and wear it all day. All kids just took it as a completely normal thing (as kids do). Then, at home time, would take it off and go home. His family moved away but I wonder what he is doing now. Was he trans? He never said he was a girl, he just loved dresses.

ArabellaScott · Yesterday 17:56

Merkins · Yesterday 14:38

Under 18s have never been allowed to medically transition. Please don’t opine on something you know nothing about.

<a class="break-all" href="https://web.archive.org/web/20240530001446/www.thetimes.com/uk/scotland/article/scottish-doctors-approved-breast-removal-for-51-trans-teenagers-qvkmz8r2c" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://web.archive.org/web/20240530001446/www.thetimes.com/uk/scotland/article/scottish-doctors-approved-breast-removal-for-51-trans-teenagers-qvkmz8r2c

'More than fifty transgender boys under the age of 18 have been approved for double mastectomies'.

This included girls as young as 15. They were sent to England to have the procedure.

Scottish doctors approved breast removal for 51 trans teenagers

More than 50 transgender boys under the age of 18 have been approved for double mastectomies in Scotland, it has been revealed.The figures, released under freed

https://web.archive.org/web/20240530001446/https://www.thetimes.com/uk/scotland/article/scottish-doctors-approved-breast-removal-for-51-trans-teenagers-qvkmz8r2c

Shedmistress · Yesterday 17:57

WearyAuldWumman · Yesterday 17:21

I've just had to Google. I admit to not having heard of it, but I think you're referring to the Southern Poverty Law Center in the U.S., based on the Wikipedia article that came up?

Yes, they were funding the white supremacists with money they had been given to fight racism. They also persuaded white supremacists who wanted to leave, to stay.

FedUpCelery · Yesterday 19:32

localnotail · Yesterday 17:44

Re trans kids - before this was even a "thing", my DC had a boy in his reception class who adored wearing dresses. His parents and teachers were completely fine with it (mostly ignoring it tbh), he was an ordinary looking boy but as soon as he arrived at school he would head for a dressing up corner, put on a princess dress and wear it all day. All kids just took it as a completely normal thing (as kids do). Then, at home time, would take it off and go home. His family moved away but I wonder what he is doing now. Was he trans? He never said he was a girl, he just loved dresses.

Reception kids are tiny. One of my sons loved dress up at that age - Bob the builder, buzz lightyear, captain America, tutus, witches, princesses. All out meant was a was a small child who enjoyed imaginative play.
It was when let toys be toys and let clothes be clothes were both a thing.

sunshine244 · Yesterday 19:37

I have no issue with genuine trans people- the two older adults i have met were just normal everyday people. No unusual clothes, it wasn't a big deal, they seemed pretty content and just wanted to be included without a fuss.

Whereas the trans young people I know are all AuDHD, all have severe mental health issues, all wear really way out clothes that draw as much attention as possible and all have a range of non specific medical concerns/disabilities. They are also all high social media users and seem to have identities formed only about their trans and disability needs, getting a huge amount of positive feedback from total strangers online. Sharing how unwell they are. How the world is against them etc. It is really sad as there doesn't seem to be any parenting attempt to balance these views.

MorganKitten · Yesterday 19:41

FedUpCelery · Yesterday 15:24

What was this in response to?

Did you not read the original post? OP clearly states they don’t have social media.

Sooose · Yesterday 19:43

Hippodrome · Yesterday 15:21

Aside from the mtf I knew in foster care all of the FTMs I knew came from families that were originally well off before their parents divorced halfway through their childhood causing their parents financial situation to crash and burn.

In my experience people who spent the first half of their childhood well off before divorce or job loss led to the second half not being well off at all seem to have more issues than someone who was just not well off their whole childhood.

Moving to a new neighbourhood and a new school (places that may have been spoken about disparagingly by your parents in the past that you’d overheard) and then struggling to fit in maybe they had to latch onto another identity.

That's an extraordinary generalisation!!

All the trans kids I know have their two parents at home, normal families, brothers, sisters, grandparents etc. There is however a high incidence of neurodiversity in this cohort.

FedUpCelery · Yesterday 19:57

MorganKitten · Yesterday 19:41

Did you not read the original post? OP clearly states they don’t have social media.

Thankyou for clarifying

Hippodrome · Yesterday 20:05

Sooose · Yesterday 19:43

That's an extraordinary generalisation!!

All the trans kids I know have their two parents at home, normal families, brothers, sisters, grandparents etc. There is however a high incidence of neurodiversity in this cohort.

I said it was my experience among the ones I knew. Apart from the one who was in foster care (my sister who is two years younger than me also knew another mtf kid who was in foster care).

Couple people said in there experience it’s only rich white kids and I’m just saying the ones I knew spent the first half of their childhood well off and then parental divorce led to them no longer being well off and usually having to move to a cheaper neighbourhood. (In one case this kid was TERRIFIED of moving because pre divorce his parents had spoken about what a dump the place was) I actually lived there and it really wasn’t that bad lol but it’s the big adjustment right when you’re about to start high school. These kids must of all been in a very vulnerable state of mind.

I do agree with you that neurodivergence seems to be a theme too

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ButlerianJihadNow · Yesterday 20:05

Even if numbers are declining, that's not necessarily evidence that it was a fad. Trans activists would see it as evidence of young people choosing to stay closeted in an increasingly hostile environment.

maddynorth · Yesterday 20:12

sunshine244 · Yesterday 19:37

I have no issue with genuine trans people- the two older adults i have met were just normal everyday people. No unusual clothes, it wasn't a big deal, they seemed pretty content and just wanted to be included without a fuss.

Whereas the trans young people I know are all AuDHD, all have severe mental health issues, all wear really way out clothes that draw as much attention as possible and all have a range of non specific medical concerns/disabilities. They are also all high social media users and seem to have identities formed only about their trans and disability needs, getting a huge amount of positive feedback from total strangers online. Sharing how unwell they are. How the world is against them etc. It is really sad as there doesn't seem to be any parenting attempt to balance these views.

I’m guessing you have no direct experience of parenting a young person with AuDHD and severe mental health issues and “trying to balance these views”?

MrsOvertonsWindow · Yesterday 20:16

Sooose · Yesterday 19:43

That's an extraordinary generalisation!!

All the trans kids I know have their two parents at home, normal families, brothers, sisters, grandparents etc. There is however a high incidence of neurodiversity in this cohort.

Children in care of the state were amongst the first cohort of children to be cynically targeted by transactivists back in the day, along with social care staff, in children's homes and foster carers.

Children alienated from their families for all sorts of reasons were of course hugely vulnerable to notion that they could reinvent themselves as the opposite sex with social workers & others who work with them unthinkingly supporting the idea.
Julie Bindel wrote about how this played out in Blackpool which has a significant population of children in care

https://juliebindel.substack.com/p/why-do-so-many-girls-in-blackpool

Why do so many girls in Blackpool want to become boys?

In this run-down, working class seaside resort, rife with child abuse and poverty, referrals to gender clinics are almost four times higher than the national average. Why?

https://juliebindel.substack.com/p/why-do-so-many-girls-in-blackpool

SylvanMoon · Yesterday 20:19

I would hope that the fad is indeed over, but I worry because the puberty blocker trial is still going ahead. I would also hope that as a society we ensure that those young people get the medical and psychological help that they need once they've decided to detransition. We can't just pretend nothing happened or no one was harmed.

HereComesTheNight · Yesterday 20:21

Within that article was a link to another on the subject of de-diagnosing ADHD.
https://archive.ph/By6fu

People who were diagnosed as children and found it closed doors, limited careers. I've often thought it must put employers off but here it's clear that certain careers wouldn't accept anyone with such a "diagnosis". Perfectly normal as adults having a revision of the original diagnosis and it removed from their medical records. Seems similar to de-trans.

A cautionary read for those who are pursuing a label as adults.

sunshine244 · Yesterday 20:24

maddynorth · Yesterday 20:12

I’m guessing you have no direct experience of parenting a young person with AuDHD and severe mental health issues and “trying to balance these views”?

Haha... I have two of them! They are not allowed social media nor do they have constant interactions with total strangers online trying to push agendas on them.

Autistic children are far more likely to be dragged into extremist views of various types so need far more monitoring and support.

user91817161 · Yesterday 20:25

ButlerianJihadNow · Yesterday 20:05

Even if numbers are declining, that's not necessarily evidence that it was a fad. Trans activists would see it as evidence of young people choosing to stay closeted in an increasingly hostile environment.

I get your point but the huge and rapid rise was in young girls identifying as boys - seeing as there is no evidence of any (?) mature women in their 50’s and 60’s deciding to identify as men ( as compared to the numbers of mature men, who have often been married with children , deciding they are women) , I think we can draw our conclusions about social contagion as opposed to re- closeting!

Jane3212 · Yesterday 20:26

ChapmanFarm · Yesterday 16:21

I always wonders if (in addition to autism) some of the FtM was driven by the very girly/non natural aesthetic. The big lashes, fake tan etc.

I see far more girls embracing more of a 90s look at the moment and it's much less full on. Perhaps easier to fit with if you are not a girly girl without thinking you have to be something else.

Definitely think this is part of it.

LouiseK93 · Yesterday 20:27

Ive been saying all along 9/10 its an autism/neurodiverse thing. Take Carrie and David Grants kids, three of their children are 'trans' and you guessed it all three have autism.

AlecTrevelyan006 · Yesterday 20:31

"Now this is not the end. It is not even the beginning of the end. But it is, perhaps, the end of the beginning."

Jane3212 · Yesterday 20:31

Shedmistress · Yesterday 17:57

Yes, they were funding the white supremacists with money they had been given to fight racism. They also persuaded white supremacists who wanted to leave, to stay.

What???

localnotail · Yesterday 20:42

FedUpCelery · Yesterday 19:32

Reception kids are tiny. One of my sons loved dress up at that age - Bob the builder, buzz lightyear, captain America, tutus, witches, princesses. All out meant was a was a small child who enjoyed imaginative play.
It was when let toys be toys and let clothes be clothes were both a thing.

But it was always a dress, and he did not pretend he was a princess! He just wore dresses.

RedToothBrush · Yesterday 21:02

MaturingCheeseball · Yesterday 14:07

Yes, dh said to me viewing some of the Pride, “Why are they all disabled?” What I don’t know is do they throw the stick in the cupboard when they get home, or do they genuinely believe there is something wrong with them?

The pots thing is a bit of a racket. If anyone has seen the documentary “Crash”, the accused (or her lawyers) settled on (handily diagnosed) pots as being the reason for the fatal car crash. It’s one of those conditions that you can’t test for.

This video was really interesting viewing

https://x.com/StandingforXX/status/2081280475855823006

It's a total eye opener.

Just WHY are the number of disabled people in trans population over represented here?

Let Women Speak Official (@StandingforXX) on X

Can we address the elephant in the room? #TransPrideLondon

https://x.com/StandingforXX/status/2081280475855823006

FedUpCelery · Yesterday 21:32

localnotail · Yesterday 20:42

But it was always a dress, and he did not pretend he was a princess! He just wore dresses.

And he was reception age.

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