AIBU to find one-issue personalities rather tedious to be around?

BIL. Boats. He’ll talk to anybody about them!

My 8 yr old, talks incessantly about the history of Nintendo games consoles. He's autistic. Having a n intense special interest, little interest in general conversation and difficulty telling when others are bored of your special interest are strong autistic traits.

I think you maybe just don't like autistic people.

I find the kind of people OP describes incredibly tedious and I am autistic - this is nothing to do with autism or special interests; it’s people making one aspect of their life their entire personality.

History of Nintendo consoles I could put up with.

God not unreasonable at all I fucking hate this. May be being biased but seems to more often than not be men that do this. Embarrassed to say I recently had a crush on someone like this, until I realised this one thing hes into is his entire personality and I now wish that I could un-know him. They never wanna talk about anyone else or their interests, either. If you dare to bring up something about yourself they look like theyre about the die of boredom before relating back to their one singular interest 💀

My dd talks constantly about pigeons, my other dd talks constantly about the history of the eurovision song contest, both are autistic.

However these aren't the type of people op is talking about at all. People can speak about things that annoy them without disliking disabled people.

Its the type of people who insert their political views/views on gender/spouses job/famous relative etc into every single conversation that op is talking about, and ops right, they are annoying.

It feels very American (US) to me. The "menopausal" brigade, or the "I'm ADHD" people. Or the "PTSD in healing" types. I just roll my eyes and zone out.

The number of women I know who in perimenopause have suddenly got a whole personality based on 'lifting heavy' has really put me off weights.

Which is annoying as I probably should be doing it (strong family history of osteoporosis).

@JustAMiddleAgedDirtBagBaby unfortunately you absolutely should be! It really will benefit you later in life.

A family member of mine makes her car her personality, they buy the same car every few years and talk about it like it’s a person. ‘I took Fiat car out today’. Weird. So weird. And I don’t care.

Any exercise bore. And I say this as someone who goes to the gym quite a lot.

The pideogn thing struck a cord. Sun city south Africa there's a famous pideogn race. We camped near by the same weekend. The guy behind us I swear delivered an 8 hour monologue about pigeons...I don't even know what sex the person he was talking to was as they couldn't speak.

Obsessive football fans. Yawn

Why are you friends with someone you find extremely tedious?
I don't know anyone who makes their whole personality about one thing. Maybe you need new friends. Or maybe you are the one who can't see past one aspect of a person.

A woman I work with makes being a lesbian her entire personality. It comes up in every single conversation we ever have.

When meeting anyone new, an ex friend used to drop into conversation that she’s got 4 toilets like it’s a wonderful brag to let everyone know she has a big house. It was so weird. She thinks we’re not friends because I’m jealous of her house - her house is lovely… I’m not really a jealous person and love my own house with “only” 3 toilets to clean.

YABU to conflate talking a lot about a hobby with talking a lot about gender or sexual identity, or being a parent, IMO. I’m not a parent but for someone who is parenting a young child and/or one with special needs it’s not hard to understand why that’s what they’re spending a lot of their time on and why that’s probably what they have the most to say about at that particular point in their lives. For people with a non-normative sexual or gender identity, if you’ve experienced it you’ll know that it tends to impact a lot of your life whether you want it to or not. If other people don’t want you to talk about it then maybe they shouldn’t be so weird about it in the first place, and there wouldn’t be an issue.

I had a friend 20 years ago who was reasonably interesting and would talk about a wide range of things. We lost contact when I moved away and since then he has 'become' a woman. We are still Facebook friends and he posts a few times a week. These days, the only things he talks about are things related to being trans. It's like his entire personality has been swallowed up by this all consuming identity. I don't know why he can't be trans and still have other interests.

I get you OP. The "It's gin o'clock somewhere" brigade who are basically functioning alcoholics in floral dresses and white trainers get to me most, closely followed by vegans, I've never met a vegan who isn't vocal about it.

But what do the functioning alcoholics talk about? Alcohol?

I've just had 4 hours of the history of Nintendo consoles. It's not that fun.

How do you know you’ve never met a vegan who wasn’t vocal about it, if they weren’t being vocal about it? You’ve probably met people who are vegan without you knowing.
(PS I’m not vegan, but my bugbear is hyperbole 😄)

But it's only the vocal ones that you know are vegan. You probably actually have come across plenty who aren't vocal, you just don't know they are vegan because they haven't told you.