AIBU to find one-issue personalities rather tedious to be around?

Yes adults who drone on about the thing and make it their entire personality and yeah they will say it no less than five times when meeting someone. I think since I'm so old I've heard it change up over the decades depending on what was trending

Let's see, fixations I've heard lately

Witchy things
Bisexual
Neurospicey( I am and and can't stand that twee term)
An ally for anything
Politics
Going nc with people
Influencer

Past fixations I've heard
Race
Gender
Country
Self harm
OCD
Depression
Anxiety
Digitalnomad
Being homeless
Gifted and talented both themselves and or children

My DD started University (not UK) this week and her class have been meeting up to get to know each other. She said one girl was introducing herself as Hi I'm Alice I have ADHD. In their first class, she did the same thing and the Lecturer said 'No, don't lead with that, don't make it your personality'. Apparently she left the class crying.

I work with an academic who is an expert on canals and somehow manages to make every single conversation about canals. I saw her at a conference and told another academic about it, I said she’s going to come speak to us and I guarantee it will take her less than 5 mins to mention canals. I think it took her 2. I find it kind of funny and also impressive.

I got told off by DH because my current theme is “whats wrong with men generally”.

I’ve switched to whats wrong with the UK just to give him a break.

It’s probably peri-menopause

23-year old colleague. Gym. With a very loud high pitched voice. Try talk about anything else and you get a blank stare. Then back to gym talk. Avoiding going on breaks now.

My friend's husband has A Hobby. He is very boring. It's not so much that he always talks about The Hobby, it's that he can't talk about anything else. It's either The Hobby or silence.

I know someone with ADHD who makes everything about his ADHD and turns the most unrelated conversation topic into something to do with it. Very tedious.
I have ADHD myself but rarely talk about it.

Dp has a mate (lovely chap) who's whole personality is fish

No matter the topic,he will turn it back to fish/fishing/wild camping fishing/fishing rods/fishing kit/last fish caught/the biggest fish he's ever caught

I've told his long suffering partner that I have a patio (she laughed) but i seriously don't know how she puts up with it

He once came round while I was home alone and was put out when he started banging on and I said I knew fuck all about fish

Heis face lit up and he offered to teach me

I fell into that one...

I’m dying laughing at this thread! I know the type - cycling (men), menopause (women), HYROX/CrossFit (either).

I find it worse in late-diagnosed adults. The ones who are normally in established relationships, have kids, have a job and are superficially at least functioning in life. They shoehorn anything to do with ADHD into conversation, constantly talking about overwhelm, being dysregulated, RSD and worst of all inserting ‘dopamine’ into every other sentence. In a way they never used to.

This.

Though my father, in his 80s now and almost certainly autistic, though undiagnosed, is capable of delivering lengthy monologues on pet topics. I once literally had to drag him out of a car park after a good fifteen minutes explaining his recent dental work to two total strangers he had somehow discovered he shared a dentist with.

I certainly don’t know anyone else who does it.

It's tricky if it's something a person can't help. You can try to be kind but it's still impossible not to get annoyed at the behaviour and prefer people who don't do it.

All the vegans I know don't conform to your stetotypical view of them. They are well rounded people who don't talk about their dietary preferences.

Some horsey people bore me to tears. Horse riding is a hobby as far as I'm concerned, but I know some horsey people who talk about nothing else.

I know someone who constantly talks about anti vaxx... all vaxxes are wrong, everyone gets sick because of vaxxes (not just covid) and "it's the thin edge of the wedge".... anti government "you will own nothing and be happy"..brigade. Gosh it's difficult as almost all convos get redirected back to these topics. Exhausting.

Wow did you hurt yourself with that reach? 🙄

I know exactly the type of people the OP is talking about and yes they are dull and tedious.

I was on a bus last academic year and two male undergraduates got on who knew the two female undergraduates sitting in front of me by sight. One of the boys in particular was incredibly good-looking, and there was a bit of flirtation. After an exchange of names, one of the girls said, flirtatiously, to the good-looking guy ‘So, are you, like ADHD? I’m getting a bit of a vibe’, and the guy, also in full-on flirtation mode, said ‘Yeah, I get that a lot. Not diagnosed, though’, and the girl, clearly delighted, was all ‘Yeah, me too!’

There are umpteen threads on mumsnet that start with "I'm peri". It's getting tedious.

This is the best one yet. You and your colleagues could hold a little competition to try and find a topic she can't bring round to canals.

Dating etiquette?
AI?
The poetry of Emily Dickinson?

You sound unkind.

Well, one day you’ll all be perimenopausal, if you’re female. Let’s see you not mention it then 😊

PS: you don’t need to read those threads it’s not compulsory.

Been there and out the other side. Some women seem to make it their entire personality though, and it gets boring.

The worst was the woman in Nando's, who went on about being "peri-peri"...

Queensland state and local government agricultural water allocation mismanagement allegations. The man is obsessed.

Been there and done that thanks, and didn't need to tell everyone at every opportunity.

Likewise when I was a teen I didn't start every sentence with 'I'm adolescent so...". It's kind of a given if you're a certain age, surely.

I actually used to be like this when I was into feminist groups, the ones that are not in favour of men saying they are women.

It got to the point it was all I could talk about and friends would say 'can we talk about something else?'. Cringe looking back. I did get a bit obsessed. I've moved on from that particular interest now.