AIBU to find one-issue personalities rather tedious to be around?

No, but why does it bother people? I find ‘the change’ rather twee, like ‘women’s problems’ or ‘down below’. Greek terms are used all the time in science so it seems appropriate to use one when referring to a biological process.

The oversharing is also irritating (to me, anyway, but I acknowledge I am easily irritated).

I don't think for one second that women should suck up their medical issues - they should be able to talk freely to their doctor, partner, family and friends, and seek out the advice and support of like-minded women. All for that.

It's when they feel the need to drop it (their peri status in general, or the fact their fanny has dried up or whatever) into absolutely ANY topic for all the random strangers on the internet who really don't care.

@Waitingfordoggo It just used to be called “the change”. Talking about it doesn’t change it.

‘Peri’ comes from Greek and it means ‘around’ (perimeter, pericardium…)

At some point in the past decade or so, someone started using it with menopause, which does make sense really because menopause, strictly speaking, means the moment your periods stop. Many women obviously experience health changes for quite some time before they have their final period, so that’s what perimenopause is referring to.

In the 90s, my Mum and her friends talked about ‘going through the menopause’ when they were discussing their health issues and mood changes. Obviously they weren’t all referring specifically to how they felt when they had their final period; they were referring to a much longer period of time leading up to it, and probably just after it too. So it’s just a change in the terminology over the years. I’ve noticed it irritates some people but I’m not sure why really. I think what people really find irritating is hearing about it too much, or someone making it their personality.

I know a pole fitness woman. It’s her entire personality.

@Slugtamer Well it wouldn’t would it. ND is code for self absorbed I find.

Vegans are the worst for this!!!

Maybe we should all take a leaf out of Inbetweeners Jay's book and beep beep beep anyone who's a broken record.

https://youtube.com/shorts/r6l-QTjjReo?is=-lPebjrEOwjFiY_i

I'll admit in the Eras era I could not go one day without mentioning Taylor Swift but I definitely wasn't the only one 😂 thankfully my enthusiasm has waned since.

Ds got a job,years ago at costa

Didn't we know it?

We couldn't go anywhere else for a coffee (no branch matched up to his standards) his personal best was 9 costas in one day (ive never stepped foot in one since) and if I heard about his job one more time,I would have strangled him

Then he changed jobs and joined the NHS (as a security guard in a large hospital)

I told him straight that i was proud of him,I was dead chuffed he'd got his dream job and couldn't be happier for him but if he came out with the words 'I work for the NHS' just once,I would cut him out of my will

He didn't and loves his job (he did jokingly mention it about 500 times during covid just to wind me up and hes still in my will)

(I know his wife had a word at about the same time which probably had a stronger effect than I ever would)

Teenage DS, cyber security. He has Aspergers and is highly intelligent, excellent at soaking up information.
His Great Grandma, when faced with this jargon-filled chuntering simply looks blank.
She likens it to being spoken to in Russian.

Yes, I worked with someone who in every single meeting or conversation or lecture would mention she had ADHD… it was her entire personality and it never seemed to occur to her she might not be the only neurodivergent person in the room…

Oh dogs are fine! Keep talking about your dog!

I'm 46 and I'm.not even sure what peri is supposed to mean? Surely you're either going through the menopause or you aren't?

I once worked with a Professional Yorkshireman.

I also have a friend who is a passionate Remainer and turns any subject to how terrible Brexit is. I was annoyed by the result of the Brexit referendum at the time too, but somehow over the intervening 10 years I've managed to move on.

Is it CrossFit?

Yes, am "I'm Tall!" person leapt immediately to mind when I saw this thread.

He has grown a beard and he is tall. These two things seem to completely define him. He mentions Being Tall and Having a Long Beard all the bloody time. As if we haven't noticed it.

On his social media stuff, I've lost count of the tall/beard references. Who cares!? I don't look anymore, it irritates me

My mother - illness, medical procedures, death of people i don't know ..it's extremely trying!

My son’s best friend mum is like this, she drops into how her children were breastfed into every single conversation, the last time she breastfed her child was 5 years ago. I also breastfed my children but it’s not something I feel the need to drown into every conversation.

can’t wait for the time when they can socialise independently

Dp worked with someone like this

'Josh,josh josh,josh,josh,josh'

He steered me away from her at the Christmas party

I used to go out with someone who was tall (maybe 6ft 4). He would shoehorn how tall he was into conversations where it didn’t belong.

Have you ever been around them when they've had a few drinks ? Commonly known as pub bores and everyone avoids them .
Topics within my family include

Trump
American politics in general
Liverpool football
Conspiracy theories regarding migrants

We are not American or Scouse or live anywhere affected by migrants . Bore off who cares.

I once told my boss (and a load of other men) that they had to be able to talk about something other than football.

I think this is the thing. I have let a couple of friendships drift because they would talk AT me and look quite perturbed when I leapt in to say something (anything!) about myself. I realised that, if they were to be interviewed about me (although that is very unlikely) they wouldn’t know what to say. Maybe they would just make it up.

One person made the conflict in Israel / Palestine the only thing she would talk about. I would change the subject and say vague things like “Oh, I’ve never visited Israel” and she would just carry on.

I've got a horse, I've had her for years and years but I don't go on about it - there's a woman at work who also has a horse and every single time I see her I have to listen to her tell me about their latest dressage competition, or the new saddle she's bought, or the new lorry she's bought - I seriously Could. Not. Give. A. Fuck, leave me alone.

I'm also a parent although mine are somewhat grown up now, but I hate it when some of the women talk non stop incessant drivel about their babies/young children - I get, they're wonderful, I was there once, but can we talk about ANYTHING else please!!!

I should have clarified they were former homeless as in 10 years ago