AIBU to find one-issue personalities rather tedious to be around?

My dd is gay. The fact she has a girlfriend is no more her personality than if she had a boyfriend. It rarely comes up other than the normal ways a relationship would be mentioned.

I talk with my children a lot about the skill of ‘reading the room’. Ie have a look at whether the person you are speaking to looks ready/interested to listen to whatever you have to say. Kids (or my kids anyway) just don’t seem to give a fuck about that and it always amazes me how oblivious they are. Some adults have the same issue and it is tedious.

Indeed. And silly as well.

We just watched a Nintendo documentary last night as dd is a fellow Nintendo enthusiast. I found it fascinating. To start from manufacturing playing cards then toys, pasta, and even Love Hotels to a billion dollar video game company is quite impressive.

Yeah I met a young gay man recently who was very determined that we should know all about his sexuality (and his sexual preferences) and it was basically how he introduced himself to us. And he seemed to find it relevant to every conversation. It was dull but also a bit offensive, as though he assumed that because we are over 50 we were probably ignorant and homophobic.

And he probably decided his presumption was correct because we found him so dull and self absorbed that we didn't exactly seek out his company 😬

@whatwouldlilacerullodo I said exactly that on another thread and I got the impression I didn’t support other women sufficiently. I find it tedious too and life is too short to listen to this stuff that no one talked about 25 years ago to people they don’t really know. I just try and exit the group!

There was a thread on here the other week about a mum pulling her hair out as her son had come out as a gay and made it his whole personality and she was utterly overwhelmed with it, he did nothing but refer to it all the time and any attempt to shut it down and just remind it just normal and nothing out of the ordinary was met with accusations of not being supportive.

My initial comment was meant to be more tongue in cheek than it sounded, both my husband and son monologue about their specialist subjects. The funniest is when my husband is losing his mind on the Nintendo monologue then he starts showing me his ideal coffee brewing set up or the bloody sourdough obsession from a few years ago. I love being monologued at in a way if it's someone I love because I love how happy it makes them However I absolutely tire of it like everyone does.

But yeah the Nintendo thing was fascinating at the start, I'm a few months into it now so I know way too much. Still at least he ran out of pokemon facts to learn so there's that ....

I have an ex friend like this. She’s a conspiracy theorist. It took over her life during Covid. No pics of her kids back to school or anything on Facebook. Just her sharing YouTube videos etc… The only people who engage are fellow CT, urging us plebs to “wake up”. She has no friends IRL. Just Internet buddies. She was actually a cool person once upon a time…

That’s a reach

This was meant more tongue in cheek than it came across. However it really is a strong autistic trait and one of the things that generally annoys neurotypical people about autistic people who are otherwise high functioning, it's one of those traits where people would say 'she is so annoying' and if someone says oh she's autistic response would be 'shes not autistic she's just annoying' anyway I'm tired and explaining badoy

In what way is it a reach? Autistic women especially tend to struggle socially not through lack of wanting social interaction but through others thinking they are weird or disliking them and its traits like this that are cited.

I have someone on my team that always talks about how young they are. We were at a team building event and he said how sad he was that he never shared the earth with Steve Irwin... Okay?? Being the youngest doesn't last long so better find something else soon!

This is a ridiculous statement.

Is this who you met?

For me it's the women in perimenopause who have suddenly got a whole personality based on being in perimenopause.

"I'm perimenopausal and I need a new outfit." "My husband is an annoying lazy twat, must be my perimenopause." "Oh I'm just a sweaty angry perimenopausal mess, hahaha."

Just about any popular post about anything on social media these days will have a woman announcing that she's in perimenopause even if it's not remotely relevant.

Glad you had fun. But my idea of hell.

Perimenopause is the new hormone variation, 'i am acting totally unreasonable but I will blame hormones and see if I can get away with it'

Anyone male or female going on about the same thing gets tiring but I find women try and justify it more

Genuine lol .. Steve Irwin! Such a tenuous way for that man (employed foetus? 😅) to shoehorn his Extreme Youth into the conversation. My eyes would have rolled right to Australia 😅

Are you anywhere near London by any chance as you could take him to the Science Museum. They have a whole gaming floor with consoles to play dating back to the 70s / 80s. The full range of Nintendo’s will be there. It’s a great afternoon out.

I don't think we're talking about children here
Nobody minds if children are doing it that much