Would you be annoyed by this or am I being unreasonable?

Off the main topic but they are really good. Of course you can just use it without switching it on, so you don’t need a normal one as well if you see what I mean.

The heater dryers are silent and very cheap to run. Much cheaper than a fan heater (though obviously won’t also heat up the whole room, which might be a nice side effect of the fan heater if you’re drying clothes in a room where you’re working or watching tv orc whatever!)

YANBU on the basis of those heated airers are absolute rubbish.

He is an adult and it was only £40. You sound very controlling.

Interesting, I would MUCH rather not have to be involved in researching the best clothes dryer (or wherever), and I’m happy when my husband takes initiative to get stuff done without involving me in the detail. If we both have a bit of autonomy it saves time on boring tasks.

OP hasn’t told us how her DH and she usually approach purchases, which is relevant in case their usual practice is more like yours (ie carefully discuss all purchases).

I’m still inclined to side with OP’s DH on this one: I think I’d feel stifled if I had to run getting a new ironing board, shoe rack (or whatever) past him.

It’s his home as well , why not . ? Unless it’s a hideous piece of furniture

YABU

Tbh I would’ve been more than happy to know he had thought about buying a heated airer! Shows initiative and it was a good price

You are very unreasonable.

if my DH wanted a discussion before such a small purchase I would think he was being extremely controlling.

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He's bought something that'll save money in the long run! I woke up one morning to find a parcel on the doormat marked 'livestock' OP- it was Yorkshire worms (yes, actual worms from Yorkshire) where my DH is originally from....that he insisted were the only ones that would do for the compost bin. Imagine.......

I think you are being ridiculous tbh, and really controlling.

I’d be annoyed but only because they are rubbish, I had one but got rid.

As a single person there are often threads on here that makes me feel somewhat better about that. Most the time these are posts about affairs, nightmare blended family situations, financial control.
This is the 1st time something so minor made me feel glad to be single. The bloke has ordered something he saw to reduce the domestic load, something low cost you say you can afford to make life a little bit smoother. Imagine you saw something you liked that costed £40, how would you feel if he told you no it is a waste of money

You sound quite overbearing unless you’re struggling financially. I’d be delighted that he was being proactive and if I bought something useful for the house and it was this much angst over 40 quid, I’d feel you were financially controlling.

ffs its his house too

i feel sorry for him having to put up with you

I’m afraid op, I would not like to live in a situation where such a purchase is even questioned, let alone get you annoyed. It would be like treading on egg shells all the time wondering what you’re going to get annoyed at next. It isn’t fair to treat adults like this. Heck, I wouldn’t even question what my kids of any age buy with their own money. It’s up to them. But the egg shells aside, it’s a thoroughly boring conversation to discuss. Like a previous poster said, I would rather be single than have to discuss/ask for permission for boring household purchases.

I think you get what you pay for tbh. I have a Lakeland one and it is absolutely fantastic. Very effective and efficient.

They’re not rubbish if you get a proper one with a cover that basically blasts heat around.

Ours was £40 off Amazon and can dry a load of laundry in two hours.

This is not the hill you want to die on. This is not even worth the energy to argue over. Its £40, not £40,000.

Come back in a month. You will be in love with the heated airer and so pleased DH did this.

Heated airers are great. We only have space for one airer and it is a heated one and can dry a load a day easily in winter. Never use the tumble drier.

So it’s a heated clothes aired. I actually purchased one for the house and didn’t consult anyone as I didn’t feel it was a necessary consult. I have also purchased an excercise bike, flights, saucepan sets and cushions without consult. DH has recently purchased a burger press, bedding set, coffee table all without discussion. We also don’t ave joint accounts, so if one of us wants to purchase something out of our left over money then that’s up to the purchase and no consult needed. I do think some of his spending is unecessary and I am sure he thinks the same about mine. When I was on mat leave I purchased paint and paintbrushes and painted the whole living room a completely different colour without asking him. I am not sure if our methods are usual but we are 20 years into the relationship and just kind of let each other be and do things as we please as long as it’s not harmful or actually out of order. If he wants to buy a burger press then really what’s the issue, if I buy a heated airer then that also isn’t any sort of issue.

YABU it's £40.....

I’d be thrilled if my husband purchased something this useful to be honest.

Bloody hell. I would be over the moon if my husband took this kind of initiative!! Especially if he does his fair share of the washing, prices of heating and tumble drying going up etc. And if you have a utility room, pop it in there (we don’t, small house and would still buy one!)