for context I’ve always been “heavy” for my dress size, and I’ve always been classified as “overweight” apart from a few months in my adult life.
now, the problem is that consensus says that:
a) people overestimate how “muscular” they are
b) people really only become denser (to account for the higher BMI) with heavy lifting.
either on social media or online communities (like Reddit) I seem to look substantially lighter than people with my height and weight (one person thought I had to be 10kg lighter).
I can’t fathom why can I find someone with my same stats, it’s not like I do anything particularly rare - I mostly do Pilates and running.
i just wish I could find someone that I saw and thought “yeah I look like her”.
For the record, I’m 1.59m, 64kg (which makes me overweight for my ethnicity) and I’m a size UK 8/6 And bizarrely sometimes even smaller (but I’m sure that’s vanity sizing!)
I do look toned (or like I workout) but not gym rat type.