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AIBU to be annoyed because I can’t find a “body double “

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Stayinganontoday · 06/08/2026 11:38

for context I’ve always been “heavy” for my dress size, and I’ve always been classified as “overweight” apart from a few months in my adult life.

now, the problem is that consensus says that:

a) people overestimate how “muscular” they are
b) people really only become denser (to account for the higher BMI) with heavy lifting.

either on social media or online communities (like Reddit) I seem to look substantially lighter than people with my height and weight (one person thought I had to be 10kg lighter).

I can’t fathom why can I find someone with my same stats, it’s not like I do anything particularly rare - I mostly do Pilates and running.

i just wish I could find someone that I saw and thought “yeah I look like her”.

For the record, I’m 1.59m, 64kg (which makes me overweight for my ethnicity) and I’m a size UK 8/6 And bizarrely sometimes even smaller (but I’m sure that’s vanity sizing!)

I do look toned (or like I workout) but not gym rat type.

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FookFookFook · 06/08/2026 11:42

I’m not really sure what you are asking? Can you post a picture? Are you asking if you look overweight?

Shoxfordian · 06/08/2026 11:43

Why do you need a body double? Are you a film star or in need of a doppelganger whilst you commit crimes elsewhere?

FourEyesGood · 06/08/2026 11:43

Why would you be devoting time to trying to find a body double? What’s the point?

SoScarletItWas · 06/08/2026 11:44

There’s a website called My Body Gallery where you can search for pictures of your height and weight.

I’ve no idea why you’d want to or why this matters.

DeterminedRat · 06/08/2026 11:46

What is it that you are really looking for? Reassurance that you aren't fat?

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Stayinganontoday · 06/08/2026 11:47

FookFookFook · 06/08/2026 11:42

I’m not really sure what you are asking? Can you post a picture? Are you asking if you look overweight?

I know I don’t look overweight! But I know there’s a massive disconnect to how I look and how a lot of people with my stats look like.

AIBU to be annoyed because I can’t find a “body double “
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DeterminedRat · 06/08/2026 11:49

Stayinganontoday · 06/08/2026 11:47

I know I don’t look overweight! But I know there’s a massive disconnect to how I look and how a lot of people with my stats look like.

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And? Surely that's their issue not yours. Their bodies shouldn't really be your concern.

ColinOfficeTrolley · 06/08/2026 11:50

Seems a bizarre hang up to waste this much headspace on.

Why do you feel the need to have a body double?

Crunchymum · 06/08/2026 11:50

So you weigh 10st and you fit into size 6?

Now I'm intrigued.

I weigh 2st less and am a size 8/10.

Stop worrying about how others with your measurements look! Why does it even matter what other people who weigh the same look like? You come out favourably in your comparisons?

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Stayinganontoday · 06/08/2026 11:51

Well it kind of does because I feel I can create reverse body dysmorphia in the sense that I think I look a lot fitter than I do.

and the biggest problem is my whole family is plagued with weight related issues (diabetes, hypertension ) and my daughter is insulin resistant.

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watchingthishtread · 06/08/2026 11:51

Your stats do seem unusual. I'm slightly taller and 5kg lighter. A size 6-8 pair of jeans wouldn't get as far as my knees! Maybe you have fantastic bone density 🤔. I'm still not sure why you need to find someone the same weight. If it's to follow someone style then the same shape, height and clothing size would be useful but the weight is irrelevant.

MrsShawnHatosy · 06/08/2026 11:52

2 people of the same height and weight can look very depending on body shape, fat distribution, frame size, relative lengths of body and legs etc.

watchingthishtread · 06/08/2026 11:53

Stayinganontoday · 06/08/2026 11:51

Well it kind of does because I feel I can create reverse body dysmorphia in the sense that I think I look a lot fitter than I do.

and the biggest problem is my whole family is plagued with weight related issues (diabetes, hypertension ) and my daughter is insulin resistant.

In that case you really need to ask a GP. Looking for a body double won't help.

FookFookFook · 06/08/2026 11:54

Truthfully - at 159cm I’d believe you to be about 64kg in that picture. But I still don’t quite understand what’s bothering you? You exercise and feel good so what’s the issue?

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Stayinganontoday · 06/08/2026 11:55

watchingthishtread · 06/08/2026 11:53

In that case you really need to ask a GP. Looking for a body double won't help.

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Even at a much heavier weight GPs were very dismissive of it because to them, I seem like a very active person (and my markers are healthy) but I still need to push to get proper blood tests.

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ElectoralControversy · 06/08/2026 11:55

Maybe you just gain muscle easily? Have you ever done a body composition test to see what% fat you are?

I see what you mean about your weight, I'm 13cm taller than you and at 64kg I'm a size 10, nearing a 12 on the bottom despite doing a fair bit of lifting.
You seem to be packing a lot into a small space! Must just be the way youre built, lucky you

DierdreDaphne · 06/08/2026 11:58

Are you sure about your height? Just a thought..

BauhausOfEliott · 06/08/2026 12:00

At one time I was very nearly your body double - not currently, sadly! But I'm the same height as you, and was a size 8 when around 10 stone. I don't think I ever wore a 6, but definitely wore 8s. I was doing a lot of exercise at the time and my build is naturally muscular, always has been.

Even when I've been much heavier (I've been every size from 8 to 18-20) people never think I'm as heavy as I actually am. Including medical professionals. When I told my GP my weight when I was a size 18, she didn't believe me until I actually stood on the scales. I've recently lost three stone and am a 14 now.

Disturbia81 · 06/08/2026 12:02

MrsShawnHatosy · 06/08/2026 11:52

2 people of the same height and weight can look very depending on body shape, fat distribution, frame size, relative lengths of body and legs etc.

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This is all it is, my wide skeleton makes my stats different

NoHotGirlsInHell · 06/08/2026 12:07

How interesting. I’m 5’4 and 8st and a size 6-8. At 10st I’m a large 10/small 12.

PeterRabbitsWhiskers · 06/08/2026 12:08

I am not far off your numbers - 1.58 tall about 4kg lighter though. I definitely look bigger than your photo because I am currently unfit and a little overweight for me, not carrying as much muscle as you. So I wear an 8-10, sometimes even a 12. People massively underestimate the difference that carrying lean weight instead of fat makes to dimensions at the same weight.

This is why BMI is a useless tool on an individual basis. It was never intended to be used that way - it was for populations, predominantly those where there had been famine.

EmpressStorm · 06/08/2026 12:09

Can you show a side on image?

inalso don’t understand why you’re trying to find a body double. It’s a really odd thing to do.

are you insecure and looking for reassurance or validaifon?

IkaBaar · 06/08/2026 12:17

Do you have small or big wrists? Apparently your wrist circumference can give you an idea of your build? Is your waist to height ratio Ok? I’d imagine it is as you look toned from that picture.

I think you can get denser without the gym and lifting heavy weights. My kids do gymnastics and climbing, they definitely have
muscles! You might find competitive gymnasts are a similar build to you.

UnemployedNotRetired · 06/08/2026 12:21

The relative sizes of your legs and torso often make a big difference. Torso is much heavier than legs, and for many women they have long legs. Hard to tell, but from the photo your proportions may be different to many women?

Hankunamatata · 06/08/2026 12:24

Whats your body fat percentage to muscle?