Should I report this mum? Is it even reportable?

It's a pity it's not, if it was lots of babies and children would still be alive.

@Moonstars1 if the previous man was violent to her when pregnant surely social services are already aware of her situation with the children? I know that on its own won’t protect the children but it would mean the children have already had some social services involvement.

I would also do what you can to keep in contact with the children. I don’t know how much you interact with them at the moment, but if there is anything going on, having the opportunity for another adult to notice or for the child to disclose could be vital.

Bit of a jump there

Could ye step in and support the kids, maybe take them for a sleepover once a week?

Reporting this isn’t likely to make any difference but you could!

Are you quite ok? Life isn’t the movie minority report. You can’t report people for crimes that may happen in the future or as you’re judgey and don’t agree with someone’s life choices.

like seriously, are you ok?

Social services can't do anything with what you've posted.
The police can if he has a record. You can call the police (101) and ask for a Claire's or Sarah's law. They probably won't give you details but if he has a record they will tell the mum your post is about, if they deem him a serious risk they will report to social services.

I’d alert social services . Those children have no one to advocate for them .

Some of these responses are batshit. You can’t report someone as you feel they didn’t know the father long enough before they had a child or don’t know their boyfriends long enough before they move them in, well you can but they’d think you an utter crank. There is no law on how long you have fi know someone before falling pregnant or how long to know someone before you move them in. There simply isn’t, and it doesn’t meet the definition of neglect or abuse either.

sure it’s shit life choices, and not advisable but social services don’t ger involved in this, nor do the police, it’s batshit to think they do.

Alert them to what?

Not automatically. But it is a legitimate safeguarding concern. A mother repeatedly bringing new, unvetted men into the home, especially when she has a toddler and a baby is recognised by social services as a risk factor. It’s not neglect in itself, but it can lead to neglect or harm, and that’s what matters.
Professionals look at Pattern: multiple men, rapid turnover, Judgement: choosing partners known to be violent or criminal, Environment strangers around very young children and Impact: are the children safe, supervised, emotionally secure?

If the children’s basic needs are still being met, it’s not neglect. But the risk is high enough that a referral would be taken seriously.

I think you could possibly peacify yourself with calling your local social services, they won't be able to do anything as there's no evidence or even enough suspicion that the children are actually being harmed but you will have done something and maybe it's kept on file and if anything else of concern happens it helps build a picture.

Sadly all you can do is keep a close watch and report anything that might hit the threshold of a social worker looking into it. I get your concerns as it does sound like a chaotic life for the children but chaotic doesn't automatically equal physical/s abuse and we can only hope these men have some morals that whilst they will assault an adult they wouldn't touch a child.

I am going to assume that growing a relationship with this young relative yourself in the hope of being able to mentor her and help her make different choices is not really possible?

If you use your emotional intelligence and read between the lines, it doesn’t sound as if the OPs life has been that simple

This ^

I can remember a single/divorced mother living across the road from me on a new-build estate.
Her husband had left and she had two DCs one 5 (I think because she went to school) and a baby.
She used to take the older one to school with baby in the pram and then come back. After lunch she used to push the pram around the area in high heels and a tight skirt, chatting to the workmen on the estate.
After a while she moved a plumber in, than after a few months it was a joiner and then a plasterer, then a tiler.
I used my connections/contacts to alert the Health Visitor who visited a couple of times.
She didn't find any issues and that was the end of it.
Eventually her husband came back.

So I think you're on a hiding to nothing with this OP.

So sad for the children that their mother can't prioritise them over the next bloke who fancies shacking up with her. I guess not much will come of a report until something has actually happened but let's hope it's nothing too serious or something which remains concealed for years. Bit shocked by all the posters defending her choices and saying it's something to do with class etc.

Now thats one way to get your house done up on the cheap

It’s awful isn’t it? Your intuition is telling you that this is a potentially unsafe situation. But sadly unless one of the children are harmed there’s very little you can do. I guess all you can do is keep your eyes and ears open and spend some time with the children on occasion to see what you sense.

That's what we all thought but as they were new builds I don't think they had many problems....

I've heard of women doing this just to get their houses fixed up.

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You may not agree with her values but what are you actually reporting ? You can’t report someone for having a boyfriend around her kids surely

Is the toddler at nursery? Can you send a alert there, so they can be alert for any signs of abuse?

Other's mentioned Sarah's Law. Maybe this if there is an indication of inappropriate behaviour to/around the children:

https://www.met.police.uk/rqo/request/ri/request-information/sarahs-law/information/v1/sarahs-law-child-sex-offender-disclosure-scheme/

Anyone who is worried about someone's behaviour towards a child can apply, not just a child's parents. This includes people like a grandparent, neighbour or friend.
No matter who makes the application, if there is information we decide to share, we will tell whoever can use the information to keep the child safe.
This might not be the person who made the application, it might be someone else (like the child's parents).

The baby probably wouldn't remember anything but the older child will have had at least 4 "uncles" living there in as many months. Must be confusing for her.

Some of these replies are shocking.
The bar for some women is so low.

Definitely report your concerns to SS.

They may not do anything but hopefully her name will be put on some sort of system.

Do you know if her ex’s were charged?

I know of several men who have left prison and moved straight into women’s homes and they all have kids.
These women had never even met these men once.
Many of these men were in prison for DV and one for child abuse offences.
Some of these men simply just need somewhere to live but sometimes these men prey on these vulnerable women.

At the very least, they can check if her new partner is allowed to live with kids.

She is vulnerable and not capable of protecting her children and so I’d think nothing of reporting her.

Is it possible to do a Claire's law/Sophie's law request on someone else behalf? I don't know if that might be the best way of dealing with this, if it were possible?

oh agree I don’t condone this but at the same time it does not meet the definition of any sort of abuse to be reported does it