To think it's ridiculous to fall out over a Facebook post ?

Don't put pictures of your kid on the internet

You both sound pathetic

You say your FB post was fine but also have admitted you weren't talking to your mother when you wrote it so sounds like you did kinda know it would only address your DH and baby? You call your mother controlling but tried to control her by threatening to not let her see her grandchild unless she did as you wanted. The fact you admit that you didn't mean it and only said it to get a reaction actually makes it kinda worse? Honestly you both need some self reflection here! Your relationship sounds absolutely exhausting. As your baby gets older, is this what you want her to see? Is this what you want to teach her about parent-child relationships?

I feel sorry for your partner. Imagine having to live with this shite drama.

Imagine, in years ti come, this is you and your daughter. She threatens you with not being a part of your grandchild life, then shares a fb post about her and her family going away. Despite you being there.

Seems like she already cut you out.

Now can you see why it may come across as hostile to your mum?

You need to sort your shit out, or this will be you and your child one day.

Growing up with a mother modelling behaviour like your mother, it isn't surprising that you have grown up not being able to contact conflict well. You have learnt from her and you are reacting in similar ways. But you can do better and you are capable to reflecting over what happened and making different choices. Spend this time away from your mother thinking over who you want to be, how you want to respond, so that when you meet again and she says something that triggers conflict, you can handle it in a more mature and balanced way.

Reading your other post, your mum does seem very immature and needy. She was basically criticising your in-laws in front of your DH which is really rude and unfair. He must have been really embarrassed.

She obviously feels like she is in a competition with your in-laws where your baby is concerned which is probably why she is so cross that there is no mention of her being on holiday with you and your baby.

The previous thread gives a lot more detail about the mum's behaviour. And while I agree that 'my little family' was poking the bear, the not seeing the baby was the result of a lot of appalling behaviour from the mum, not the FB post.

Nonsense.
You posted the exact same thread, near enough.

Forced apologies aren’t real anyway are they.

I think “say sorry” should be reserved for children learning manners. If you’re sorry as an adult, you say it of your own accord, when it feels right.

OP, you’ve had loads of good advice (and a lot of sympathy) on the thread from yesterday which it would probably help you to reflect on. I understand that you’re angry and upset but I don’t think a thread about the same thing the very next day is going to help you (especially as this one comes across as more antagonistic).

It sounds like you knew exactly what you were doing when you chose those pictures and that title. Provoking a reaction…..and you got one. I honestly don’t know how anyone can be bothered with this type of drama as an adult.

You clearly won't take responsibility for your part in this.
It all sounds terribly petty.

And yes, your post on FB about "my little family" was PA, meant to be hurtful, and yes, was poking the bear.

You're getting the responses you are, @Doggomom91 because you've missed the back story about your Mother and her previous behaviour.

With that back story, no I don't think you were particularly unreasonable, however knowing that she would see your FB post, I think you probably did know that not mentioning their presence and 'my little family' probably would provoke a response from her... You've known her a long time, you know exactly what will rattle her cage after all.

Given the back story... I would distance myself from her. Don't set yourself up to be anywhere with her that you cannot just leave with zero fuss/aggro.

Set yourself some clear boundaries on what behaviour you'll tolerate and what you won't and end the interaction any time and every time she steps foot over that boundary.

When you do this, give the same vague, pleasant, not angry or shouty, response - 'Oh dear Mom, I have to go now, see you another time' ... and hang up/leave.

Eventually she is going to realise what behaviour of hers it is that triggers this, and hopefully she'll stop it.

You both sound exhausting to be honest. Just leave her alone for now and hopefully you'll both have gained a bit more perspective in a few weeks!

Your mum sounds like a pain but you don't sound innocent yourself. The apology for your part in the argument was a bit hollow because it was conditional on her also apologising and taking the blame.

Then the "my little family" post was intended to goad her, wasn't it? It certainly implies you, partner and baby only. You would have known she'd see it as a dig. It sounds like you were annoyed she hadn't apologised so you thought you'd needle her a bit more.

Honestly I've no idea why you go on holiday together year after year when you know that you lock horns like this.

I think the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Team mum.

'but she was giving me the silent treatment and acting like a kid so I said whatever I could to get a reaction. She had been goading me all afternoon.'

You contracted yourself there by saying she had given you the silent treatment but then to say she had been goading you.

Awful childish nonsense.

I think some posters are not appreciating that the mother is needy and emotionally controlling. Likely emotionally abusive. The OP won’t be able to clearly see through this or possibly even articulate it as she’s glossed over it slightly in her OP. I’d say this is the latest in a long line of abusive and manipulative interactions with the mother, which is why the OP is feeling ‘done’ with the relationship.

Are all the ‘team mum’ posters too dense to understand the above from the OP? 😬