People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?

OP you might have never struggled with your weight and don't know how it is to put weight on easily. I'm the opposite. My kids are both underweight. I've always been stocky. People comment on their weight and height all the time, drives me mad! You can't win

Yes I know what you mean. As someone who grew up with a sibling with an eating disorder I am a bit sensitive to hearing people comment about such things, but agree it sounds like they did do it kindly.

Oh ffs is this for real?

I have just panicked and checked as my 5 year old is almost 4 stone but he is 129cm tall so in the 42nd centile. He is great at self control of foods and choosing fruit etc I can see his ribs so I guess he is okay. I forget he is taller than many of his classmates but compared to the children on here he does seem heavy.

So do you think it would be better if OP just continued to feed her child a diet of processed crap and blindly allowed her to become even more obese? Can you explain your reasoning for such a bizarre though process?

did you mean to say 42nd centile?

As someone who's mum was like this, please listen to the people who are trying to tell you. I ended up being a fat kid it was hell.
I'm still fat. I have an awful understanding of food and wasn't taught well. I battle so much with eating well. Be a mother to her please and make sure to do the best by her x

Just move all treats to weekend for a start - including waffle yogs, pancakes etc. it’s an easy rule to follow

Is she definitely 4 stone? Sounds a lot for a six year old. My daughter (5) is 50th centile for height so average and weighs 2st 8lbs

My DD5 has recently had the reception letter telling us she is overweight. This is something we knew and have been trying to do something about. It’s very hard when you have a child who really loves their food and is constantly hungry, plus at school they are given stickers for finishing their plate and DD loves a sticker and praise 😩.

For us, we have significantly upped her exercise (much easier in the spring / summer) and made very small changes to her diet. We don’t have crisps in the house anymore for example, so a snack is fruit or a pack of mini breadsticks (half the calories of a pack of Doritos). I’ve also reduced portion size so if her 8 year old incredibly active skinny sister has a whole wrap, DD5 has 3/4 of a wrap, but folded in such a way that it looks the same.

You don’t have to overeat by much at all each day to put on weight e.g. an overeat of 100 kcal a day would lead to a weight gain of almost 1lb per month, so think about how you can make small changes your DD won’t notice and hopefully she will grow into her weight.

For context, my DS is 10, is of average (50th centile) height and weight, and weights just over 4 and a half stone.
So I would imagine 4 stone on a 6 year old of 'average height' looks slightly overweight

Yes my thought process is its better than her daughter growing up to have severe body issues. Op can observe as a parent nobody needs to comment.

I’ve had to decline the weight checks for all my daughters (I have 3) because up until age 5 they are all classed as obese. They suddenly then have a massive growth spurt and are tall and slim , it’s just how the girls are in my family. Currently battling the HV about youngest (3) and I’ve had to show her family photos to prove my point this is how we are!

DS is just turned six and isn't even 3 stone, so yes it does sound a lot. But good to know so you can keep an eye on it. It's easy to lose sight of healthy weights in today's society.

Well seeing as OP admits that she didn't have a clue the child was overweight until it was mentioned I doubt your parent can observe theory would work.

But Op didn’t observe. Lots of parents don’t.

so better for a child to grow up obese and have body issues associated with that, than a couple of people commenting and them growing up a healthy weight?! The mind boggles

Honestly look up the tik tok trend I was on about. Ops let her daughter down by not observing but it's still nobody's place to comment regardless.

The comments were made to mum not the child and sound like they were diplomatic eg ‘filled out’
Obviously not ok to be saying to child you are fat but that’s not what has happened from what Op says.
Mum in this case hadn’t realised as she was busy with 3 children inc twins, lots in class sound like they are similar to her dd, lots of parents don’t see it.
With a few small changes child could be a healthy weight soon and be none the wiser. Much more likely to have body issues if nothing is said and she’s overweight at 11 and can’t shop where her friends do/mean comments/can’t play sports.

We wouldn’t be in this obesity crisis if people were a bit more vocal and a bit less offended by the truth. As a nation we could use a bit of a thicker skin.

Sounds a bit on the heavy side to me. I have a 6 year old boy that is 45 lbs, 4 stone is 56 lbs for comparison

I’m sure you’re aware but sometimes children grow taller earlier if they are overweight. I think a lot of people think “oh but he’s tall” and actually they are tall because they are overweight.

Glad you are doing something about it OP, best to get a handle on it now whilst you still have full control of her diet.

People do not really understand what ‘very active’ for a child is. My DD 12 plays sport and trains hard 15 hours a week - she plays netball and hockey for the county. Sweat is dripping off her after matches and training. Her friend swims in regionals. She swims non-stop fast lengths for 14+ hours a week. Both eat well, not too much junk but they aren’t skinny. About 60th percentile. Even with their level of training they can’t overdo it food wise. I’d bet that your DD does nowhere near that amount of exercise so probably needs to cut down on the food.

Omg people like you just want to stick the knife in on anyone and say there's an obesity crisis. Please. The poor little girl isn't responsible for that, some absolute cow saying she's filled out to her mum will do more harm than good.

A round tummy isn't necessarily a sign of being overweight. Many children don't 'hold in' their lower abdomens. It's natural and healthy for them not to.

But we adults do, mostly, hold in our lower abdomens, muscles never relaxed, ever conscious that we don't want our tummy sticking out.