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People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?

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mumspiration1997 · 29/05/2024 20:09

I've had 3 different family members commenting on my daughters weight this week. "She's really filled out" "you should watch what she's eating" etc etc . Possibly from a place of concern as they wouldn't be people to be obviously nasty. For context she's 4 stone and average height. Is this a problem? She's a great appetite and an active girl who definitely loves a wee treat but big deal. I'm 9 stone and very active myself so it's not like I'm purposely just laying around setting bad examples. Perhaps maybe I should be making her eat healthier but I mean she eats fruit and ham sandwiches and chicken nuggets and mash and veg and the takeout with the whole family om a sat McDonald's etc. Big deal??!!! She's 6 I was just grateful she has a good appetite. Aibu???? Or r they???

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Youcannotbeseriousreally · 29/05/2024 20:11

Aged 6 and 4 stone seems a lot to me but mine have always gained weight and filled out and then immediately grown about 5 inches and then repeat! My 14 year old only weighs 6 and a bit stone now .

focus on a healthy and balanced diet and ignore the rest.

TeenLifeMum · 29/05/2024 20:12

Look at the nhs bmi chart - it’s not perfect but it’s a starting point.

Can you see her ribs?

JaneAustenshandbag · 29/05/2024 20:12

Have you checked her bmi on the child weight scales? It depends what her height is.

Sirzy · 29/05/2024 20:13

I think it’s worth using it as a chance to take a step back and maybe make a few little changes now. Much easier to make smaller changes now than it become a bigger issue as she gets older.

Roundroundthegarden · 29/05/2024 20:13

What is her bmi though? Being happy she has a good appetite doesn't mean she is eating within reason.

Sunnysummer24 · 29/05/2024 20:14

TeenLifeMum · 29/05/2024 20:12

Look at the nhs bmi chart - it’s not perfect but it’s a starting point.

Can you see her ribs?

I agree. Can you clearly see her ribs?

Also look up her weight and height centile on the WHO charts. What weight centile was she born on?

Sirzy · 29/05/2024 20:16

https://www.rcpch.ac.uk/sites/default/files/Girls_2-18_years_growth_chart.pdf

that’s the centile charts used by the NHS for children which may help give you an idea

https://www.rcpch.ac.uk/sites/default/files/Girls_2-18_years_growth_chart.pdf

Newsenmum · 29/05/2024 20:16

No harm in making some healthy habits now and a good relationship with food, as it’ll set her up well for the teen years.

Mchill79 · 29/05/2024 20:17

like others have said check her BMI as her height will have a lot to do with it.
my 7 year old weighs 5 stone but is extremely tall for his age. I can see his ribs and he is on the 65th centile according to the BMI calc for kids.

titchy · 29/05/2024 20:18

Assuming g she's 115 cm tall (average for a six yr old) then yes she is overweight, almost into the obese category. 3 stone 3 would be bang on average BMI for her height.

Tiredbarbie · 29/05/2024 20:19

4 stone does sound quite a lot for a 6 year old if she is average height. Perhaps you can make some small changes such as cutting out the takeaways and McDonald’s? However I think it’s extremely rude of anyone to be commenting on your daughters weight and I hope they’re not doing it in front of her!

OldSow · 29/05/2024 20:20

4 stone at 6 does sound rather overweight.

I agree with others, can you see her ribs? You should be able to at 6.

Investinmyself · 29/05/2024 20:20

Check her bmi it’s a different one for children. If it’s in healthy range then if they mention it again you can just say she’s fine.
If she’s overweight then better to tackle now.
Two people separately commenting would suggest there may be an issue you can’t see as you are so close to her so best to check.

Bumblebeeinatree · 29/05/2024 20:20

Cut down her potion sizes a little bit to bring her weight down gradually or stay the same as she grows taller.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 29/05/2024 20:20

If she’s an average height (around 115cm) then she is overweight OP - according to the BMI checker

People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?
TomatoSandwiches · 29/05/2024 20:20

Not sure tbh but if good people are commenting then I'd keep an eye on it.

How tall is she?

tennesseewhiskey1 · 29/05/2024 20:20

Sorry - she’s 6 and 4 stone? My 7 soon to be eight year old is about 4stone, slightly less. Have you checked her BMI Op?

Peaceandquiet9276 · 29/05/2024 20:22

For reference - The average 6 year old girl in England on the 50th centile weighs just over 3 stone (20.5kg). 4 stone would put her on the 91st plus centile for weight. 4 stone is the ‘average’ (50th centile) of a 7.5 year old girl.

TomatoSandwiches · 29/05/2024 20:22

Don't they do checks at school around this age? Has the school nurse said anything?

BlueMum16 · 29/05/2024 20:24

How active is she?
Mine were swimming x 1 hour, gymnastics x 90 mins, karate x 90 mins (twice a week) plus walking to/from school every day and brownies .

Heathy appetites are good if it's the right thing.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 29/05/2024 20:26

BlueMum16 · 29/05/2024 20:24

How active is she?
Mine were swimming x 1 hour, gymnastics x 90 mins, karate x 90 mins (twice a week) plus walking to/from school every day and brownies .

Heathy appetites are good if it's the right thing.

Exercise has very little impact on weight. Diet is the key factor. ‘Running around all day’ won’t work if they’re eating too much or the wrong food.

Greengrapeofhome · 29/05/2024 20:27

Depends on her height op

fieldsofbutterflies · 29/05/2024 20:28

It depends on her height, but that sounds a lot to me.

User214263 · 29/05/2024 20:28

She does sound on the heavy side tbh - my DD6 has always been well above average height (she's taller than all but one boy in her class) and she's 3 stone 9.

Didimum · 29/05/2024 20:31

My two 6yr olds are 2st 8, also average height.