People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?

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And yes, as per pp, no need for anything other than fruit for a morning snack at school.

One more thing I forgot to add is while it's important to change her diet please don't talk about weight in front of her as it can be so damaging. If she asks why the change you can talk about the dangers of processed foods and how the whole family is making an effort to be healthier.

Would she eat porridge with berries for breakfast. Raw carrot and cucumber for school dinners.
After school snack plain popcorn. Dinner a higher proportion of the plate veg (if she's not keen on veg as a side look for dishes that incorporate veg like vegetable curries, veg based pasta bake etc) you don't need pudding after evening meal if she's had one at lunch. Instead of supper could she have a glass of milk?

Sorry if stating the obvious there!

Her diet is mainly processed junk food
There is very little nutrition in what she is eating. Just a load of sugary carbs in the cereal , crossaint, waffles, pancakes. Then a school dinner which won't be high quality. It might look good on paper but the reality is rarely anything like what parents think it is. Her dinner at home is more processed crap followed by more sugary carbs. There's no veg and very little fruit.

I think if proper are mentioning it, they are probably doing so out of concern.
I have a 7yo and I'd be telling her it's only an hour to dinner so snack is fruit or nothing.

That is a LOT of food. Too much.

DD is about to turn 5 and has:

Breakfast - wholewheat toast with peanut butter (1 slice), I also offer a banana but she usually refuses, 1 cup of milk

Snack - apple or satsuma

School dinner

When she gets home a biscuit

Dinner - her portion fits on a side plate. Usually something like lentil curry, fish fingers and home made sweet potato wedges with green veg, bolognese. Followed by yoghurt and strawberries/blueberries

I also agree with this, sorry.

You have a lot on your plate (no pun intended…!) and it’s good that you can hopefully address things whilst she is still young.

My suggestions is you’re interested as also have a similar aged DC:

Breakfast - is a choice of porridge, scrambled eggs, Weetabix or Shredded wheat.

School morning snack is fruit (but doesn’t always eat it).

Lunch - e.g cheese sandwich, fruit, veg sticks, babybel sort of thing.

Dinner - home cooked meal (spaghetti bol, roast, curry etc) fruit or yoghurt if she wants.

No more food /supper.

9 month old twins is hard hard work, don't beat yourself up, this is fixable.

I would start by reducing the carbs or changing for wholemeal/higher fiber content whilst halfing the portion.
Maybe offer a decent low sugar yogurt and fresh fruit she can add to it over the double pancakes.

Half the carbs at dinner and up on protein, try adding grilled or baked chicken breast along side a smaller portion of nuggets if she makes a fuss and extra veg to keep her full.

I would keep pudding but again a smaller portion, no supper, she doesn't need that or change for a warm glass of milk 30 mins before toothbrushing time.

Maybe make a box of mixed Veggie sticks and cheese dip/salsa to keep in the fridge for after school snack that you can eat alongside her for encouragement, the girls will see it as well and hopefully follow suit when they wean.

However I think it’s extremely rude of anyone to be commenting on your daughters weight

I don't agree with that. It's out of concern for the child's health. This is not about looks/ vanity. I think she's a lucky child there's people caring for her enough to say anything. It's easy for a parent who sees the child everyday to not realise they've put on a bit of weight.
I'd be very surprised if the comments were made out of spite.

I would be careful not to make too many changes at once though, one at a time is much less likely to cause issues than suddenly changing everything.

I think if you have a word with the dentist they would go along with mentioning reducing sugar intake.
You can show her how to read the labels on food packaging especially the traffick light system.

Dentist will probably mention this anyway. DS has very good oral hygiene and a pretty good diet but even we were told yoghurts and juice are weekend only! They would very quickly say “no chocolate during week”
etc.

Please don't let her get fat OP. I was the chubby kid and my parents insisted it was puppy fat. I have spent my life battling it, mostly settling around size 16. My sister was twice as big and I begged my parents to do something but they told I was jealous or mean. She is morbidly obese now, she never overcame it and it makes me bloody angry. I totally understand, I had a 6 Yr old with 9 month old twins too! He was lucky to be fed at all, it's survival mode.

The babies will also be eating more family food soon so that’s an easy way to introduce changes eg you have probably got into rut of making nuggets for her while juggling bottles for babies. If you can make something they can all eat in slow cooker like bolognese or a fish pie then it will make life easier if you are all having same.
Does she drink lots of water. I wonder if she’s asking for snacks as she’s thirsty.

Well done for asking the question and for taking on board the replies - it’s certainly not easy with twins at this age and no one is their best parent when tired (and you must be shattered). You’ve got this 👍🏻💪🏻

Parents are generally not great at realizing that there children are developing weight problems. I had an aunt who's daughter was extremely overweight a young age. My aunt swore it was just baby fat. My cousin is now over 300 pounds at age 20 and has terrible eating habits that are unlikely to change any time soon. I worry that she won't make it to thirty.

Sounds like you have been given some good advice so far, but I'd echo a previous poster, don't make too many changes too quickly, she is much more likely to resist if it feels like a massive change/punishment.

Things I would consider:

1. Get her cooking/preparing snacks with you.

1. Make healthier versions of the food she already likes, homemade protein pancakes are more filling than shop ones, but can be batch made & frozen, so still quick day to day.

1. Don't beat yourself up too much, take a gradual approach, don't aim to put her on a diet, just aim for healthy changes so that every time she has a growth spurt, she gets closer to being in the healthy range.

Honestly @mumspiration1997 you are doing so well to just keep everyone alive at this point, all hats off to you for managing twins and your 6yr old.