People commenting on my 6 YO DD weight?

I don’t know if this story is relevant to your situation, but my sister’s daughter was an overweight child - very overweight - but my sister just couldn’t see it. We were all really scared about broaching the subject with her - because she takes offence really quickly and is prone to losing her temper - so I only ever mentioned it to her once, very gently. That was when I discovered, to my amazement, that she did not realise that her daughter was overweight at all.

4 stone does sound heavy at 6 tbh, I think my 6yo is just over 3 stone. More to the point, if people are mentioning it, I'd probably take that as a warning sign.

I'm sure a few small changes and a growth spurt and all will be fine.

What were her percentiles as a baby? Is this a sudden weight gain? What is her height? Has you GP measured her height/weight lately?

What clothes size is she? If she’s always needing to size up or choose the bigger fitting school uniform range then it’s an indicator her weight may be too high.
Look at portion size guides. Great she’s eating a variety of food but portions for children can be much smaller than you are giving.
What does she drink you’ve not mentioned it. Drinks can add calories.

Does she look bigger than her peers? Does she wear clothes for her own age group? It might be good to just subtly watch her portions. McDonald's happy meal is enough for an adult.
I wouldn't start mentioning her weight, just give a bit less. And sometimes say no to treats.
I was told I could have my treats on one day a week as a kid, by order of the dentist. So you could phrase it that sweets are bad for her teeth rather than her size.

People should comment on this stuff to parents because parents are somehow either in denial or blind to it and it will create issues for the daughter if nothing is done about it.

It does seem from your own account she is always eating.
So maybe she needs to eat less.

It's a difficult and sensitive subject.

Also ham sandwiches/chicken nuggets etc aren’t the best examples of food, assuming you aren’t making the nuggets yourself.

4 stone is a lot for that age, especially given she’s a girl (assuming she is circa average height for a girl).

It's reception and Year 6.

How was she last year? Assuming she is year 1 now and had the check in reception?

I am massively overweight (illness and medication but also in part down to my poor diet) so I'm not having a dig but my 11yo is 4st 9lb. 4st aged 6 is quite heavy unless your DC is unusually tall

** my 11yo is 10th centile / slim and short and could definitely do with being a bit bigger as he's off to secondary soon.

I think this is very common. Have you ever heard of a parent who when told after the Reception test health checks that their child is overweight agrees and decides to tackle it?

The two friends I know who’ve had that letter were livid and extremely defensive. “Big bones”, “there’s nothing to her”, “what do they know anyway”, “he’s due a growth spurt”, “all kids have bellies” etc etc.

My 10 year old is an average height for their age and weighs less than 4 stone. It's a lot for a 6 year old.

Your child's diet sounds like it's packed with treat foods. It's easier to cut these down now and build healthy habits while they're young. Find an alternative treat that isn't food. It's easy to feel like we are rewarding children with treat foods, but it's not good for them long term.

It does sound quite heavy OP. My DD is 6 and just over average height and weighs 18kg.

but I mean she eats fruit and ham sandwiches and chicken nuggets and mash and veg and the takeout with the whole family om a sat McDonald's etc.

What she’s eating may not seem terrible on the whole (but a weekly McDonald’s is quite often really and mine tend to get it once/twice a month so I’m not against it) but maybe it’s portion sizes that are the issue? Or how often is she snacking? What does a typical days food look like?

Many children are overweight now OP, it makes it harder to notice overweight children. Probably a third of DD’s class are noticeably overweight.

According to the NHS calculator, she's overweight.

https://www.nhs.uk/health-assessment-tools/calculate-your-body-mass-index/calculate-bmi-for-children-teenagers/

She shouldn’t be eating supper?! It sounds like she eats lots of junk. Not a lot of fresh food? Maybe offer a banana or apple at supper time, certainly not pancakes. That’s a lot of food in a day.

That's a LOT of food for a 6 year old. She doesn't need dessert after dinner if she's having dessert at school. And I certainly wouldn't be giving her supper after dinner. 3 square meals a day and a couple of snacks is ample.

It’s very carby and low in veg. I’d try and up her protein eg does she like eggs for breakfast.

If people are commenting on her weight there is an issue!

Firstly most cereal is just sugary and doesn't keep them full. It's hard when you have younger ones to deal with as well and twins must be really difficult but perhaps you could look at something like porridge or weetabix for breakfast. You can add fruit and no fat Greek yoghurt.

Kids do need fats in their diets but not every meal.

Ah OP it's okay she's very young so plenty of time to instil healthier habits if you start now. I would say that diet sounds like it's full of processed foods and carbs. If she eats healthy foods like meat or fish with vegetables etc that would be so much better. Food the rest of the family eat? So maybe examples might be curry and rice, mid chili con carne with jacket or sweet potatoes and vegetables, pesto chicken and vegetables, fajitas... Snack wise less of the carbs and more plain yoghurt and fruit... Less cereal as it's so processed and sugary it's easy to eat tons, more porridge with chopped banana and a very small drizzle of honey, overnight oats, eggs on wholemeal toast, natural peanut butter on wholemeal toast... Plenty of fruit and veg and protein generally I think.

Why does she need fruit and a croissant for school snack? Normally that’s around an hour before dinner so a bit of fruit should be more than enough.

it does sound very sugary overall.

Why is she having pancakes mid-morning and then again before bed?
Where's the vegetables and fruit? Protein?

This is just a lot of food, yes. And a lot of processed food too - which I appreciate is easier when you have your hands full with twins!

breakfast needs to be porridge with fruit or a sugar free cereal like shreddies or weetabix with fruit. Still easy but just more substantial and less sugary.

hard no to waffle yoghurt (not sure what it is but sounds delicious) and hard no to chocolate. Banana/sugar free yoghurt?

also why dinner and tea? Just one meal is needed and if she’s hungry after apples etc. I would stick with simple pasta/rice/chicken breast (not nuggets) and veg. or at weekends just batch cook spaghetti Bol or casseroles etc.