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“There were times I wanted to quit”: what to do when breastfeeding feels tough and where to go for support

From latch worries to milk-supply questions, breastfeeding can come with some challenges - but it can also be an incredibly special, bonding experience for you and your baby. With the right breastfeeding support, you don’t have to figure it out alone. We’re here to help you navigate those early hurdles and find the support that truly makes a difference.

By Tammy Jacks | Last updated Jan 19, 2026

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Breastfeeding can be a learning curve for both you and your baby. If you’re struggling with latching, breast pain or worries about your milk supply, it’s not a sign you’re failing - it’s a sign you’re learning. These feelings are incredibly common, and with the right breastfeeding support, things really can get easier. 

As one Mumsnetter shares, "The difference with my son was the level of support I had. I went to a local breastfeeding group who really supported me to get the latch right for us. It took a couple of weeks for it to be pain-free and there were times I wanted to quit through that, but he’s now 11 months old and still breastfeeding." 

UK studies show that many women stop breastfeeding earlier than they hoped, often because of challenges or a lack of support. The good news is you don’t have to face those moments alone. The National Breastfeeding Helpline is there for you around the clock (yes, even in the middle of the night), and there’s also help available through local NHS breastfeeding services or trusted guidance on the Best Start in Life breastfeeding hub.

Why is breastfeeding important?

Breastfeeding offers numerous benefits for both you and your baby. Not only does it provide your baby with nutrition, but it also strengthens their immune system - helping to protect them from infections and illnesses in the early months of life. 

What are the most common breastfeeding challenges? 

Breastfeeding can be tough in the early days, particularly if you’ve never breastfed before. However, understanding what’s normal and knowing practical strategies can make a big difference to your overall breastfeeding experience. You might experience:  

  • Latch difficulties

  • Concerns about milk supply

  • Nipple pain or breast discomfort

  • Exhaustion linked to cluster feeding

  • Second-guessing yourself

Once these earlier challenges are overcome, you’ll likely find breastfeeding is the easiest and most satisfying way to feed your baby.

How to get the latch right

One of the first things you might struggle with is how to get your baby to attach properly to your breast - also known as a latch. When the latch isn’t right, it can make your nipples cracked or sore, and make feeding harder for both you and your baby.

To latch correctly, the Best Start in Life advises that your baby’s mouth should cover your nipple and a good part of the areola, with lips turned outwards. Your baby’s chin should touch your breast, and their nose should be clear. 

You should be able to see and hear your baby sucking and swallowing. A midwife, lactation consultant or local breastfeeding support group can help you establish a good latch quickly and confidently. 

Get support for a better latch

The Best Start in Life breastfeeding hub offers a step-by-step guide, complete with pictures, to help you achieve a good latch, reduce discomfort, and make breastfeeding more successful. Visit BestStartinLife.gov.uk for breastfeeding advice and support.

Find out more

 What Mumsnet users say

My third baby is three weeks old, and I had extreme nipple pain for the first couple weeks as she kept shallow latching, but a midwife helped with showing how to hold the breast in C shape which made a big difference.” 3rdbabytime

Is my baby getting enough milk?

It’s normal to worry that your baby isn’t getting enough milk, especially in the first few weeks. Your milk usually “comes in” a few days after birth, and it works on a supply-and-demand basis - the more your baby feeds, the more milk your body produces.

According to Best Start in Life guidance, a typical feed starts with a few quick sucks, followed by longer, rhythmic sucks with occasional pauses. You should be able to see and hear your baby swallowing, and their cheeks should stay rounded rather than hollow. With regular feeding and plenty of skin-to-skin contact, most babies get the milk they need, and your body adjusts naturally to meet your baby’s demand.

Signs your baby is feeding well:

  • Appearing calm and relaxed during feeds

  • Coming off the breast by themselves when full

  • Looking content and satisfied after most feeds

  • Breasts feeling softer after feeds and nipples returning to normal shape

  • At least six wet nappies every 24 hours from day five onwards

  • Passing at least two soft yellow poos after the first few days

  • Steady weight gain after the first two weeks

What Mumsnet users say

“I never felt I had a great milk supply but breastfed five children with varying degrees of success [...] One BIG thing I learned is that you need LOTS of rest/sleep, food and drink, especially initially when you're building up your supply. NameChanges123

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Remember - the more your baby feeds, the more milk you’ll produce

How to manage nipple pain and breast tenderness

It’s normal to experience some early soreness as you start breastfeeding, but ongoing or severe pain in your nipples and/or breasts may indicate a shallow latch, infection, or other issues. For many, nipple pain eases with time, but if it persists or worsens, it’s important to seek support.

The NHS recommends:

  • Check your latch: Make sure your baby’s mouth covers the nipple and a good portion of the areola, with lips turned outward. The baby’s chin should touch the breast, and you should be able to see and hear swallowing.

  • Try different positions: Changing breastfeeding positions can reduce pressure on sore areas.

  • Take care of your nipples: Let nipples air-dry after feeding and avoid harsh soaps.

Get help for nipple pain and tender breasts

If pain or discomfort continues, the Best Start in Life breastfeeding hub offers practical tips and strategies for soothing sore nipples. If the pain persists, it’s a good idea to speak to your midwife, health visitor, or a local breastfeeding specialist as soon as possible to prevent further issues.

Is cluster feeding normal?  

Yes. Cluster feeding is when your baby wants to feed frequently, often in short bursts, usually in the late afternoon or evening. It can feel exhausting, but it’s completely normal. Your baby is not only getting milk but also comfort and reassurance.

Feeding on demand, where you let your baby guide when they’re hungry, is key in these early weeks. Cluster feeding actually helps stimulate your milk supply and supports your baby’s growth. Frequent night feeds are normal too, so try to go with your baby’s cues rather than a strict schedule.

When you’re in the throes of cluster feeding or growth spurts, remember to:

  • Keep yourself comfortable and well-hydrated

  • Take breaks when you can

  • Know that this phase is temporary - over time, your baby will gradually develop a routine

What Mumsnet users say

"Don’t think that your baby isn’t getting enough milk if she wants to cluster feed all the time [...] Check for regular wet nappies and weight gain to monitor if she’s getting enough - those are the signs to look for." Fridgetapas

“It's tough! I remember being glued to the sofa in those early weeks with both of [my children]. You have to do what is best for you [...]
Remember being close to you and suckling is incredibly comforting for a newborn, so it's not just the milk she is seeking.
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Am I breastfeeding correctly?

Sleepless nights and the constant demands of feeding can leave you exhausted. When you’re tired, it’s easy for worries to creep in. Feeling stressed or anxious is understandable - your body and mind are adjusting to the intensity of those first few weeks with a new baby.

Talking to other mums - whether online through breastfeeding forums, in local support groups, or with trained peer supporters can help you feel reassured.

Get breastfeeding help whenever you need it 

No need to feel alone at night or during those early morning feeds - call the National Breastfeeding Helpline on 0300 100 0212 for 24/7 free and confidential advice. 

How can I make breastfeeding easier? 

Remember, feeling unsure or overwhelmed is completely normal during the early days of breastfeeding. You're not alone - many parents feel this way. Reaching out for support, whether it's from a professional, a peer, or your local breastfeeding group, can make all the difference in helping you feel more confident and supported.

1. Feed responsively, not on the clock

Feeding when your baby shows early hunger cues (rooting, stirring, putting hand to mouth) helps them latch more calmly and feed more effectively. Frequent feeding in the early weeks is normal and helps to establish supply, even though it can feel relentless.

Find more information at the Best Start In Life breastfeeding hub on how to breastfeed your baby.

2. Limit alcohol and caffeine while breastfeeding

What you eat and drink can affect both you and your baby, so it’s important to be mindful while breastfeeding

  • Caffeine: Small amounts pass into breastmilk, so moderation is best. Try to keep total daily caffeine to no more than 300mg - about two mugs of coffee or four of tea. Spread it through the day rather than all at once.

  • Alcohol: Alcohol also passes into breastmilk. While it's safer not to drink alcohol, an occasional drink (1 or 2 units, once or twice a week) is unlikely to harm your baby. Wait two to three hours after drinking before breastfeeding, or use expressed milk instead. Avoid bed sharing or sofa sharing if you’ve been drinking.

3. Feel confident to breastfeed in public 

  • You have the right to breastfeed anywhere in the UK.

  • Use a supportive breastfeeding pillow or nursing cover if it makes you more comfortable.

  • Choose a quiet corner or familiar spot if possible - it can make feeding easier.

4. You can still breastfeed when returning to work 

  • Pumping before work or during breaks allows you to provide expressed milk.

  • Store milk safely in a fridge or cooler bag.

  •  Work with your employer to create a schedule that suits you and your baby.

  • Combining breastfeeding with expressed milk is common and normal.

Working mother using double electric breast pump at office desk while typing on laptop to express milk during workday break

Investing in a breast pump can help with mixed feeding

Where to go for breastfeeding support 

You don’t have to navigate your breastfeeding journey alone - there are people and services ready to help whenever you need it:

About Best Start in Life

The new Best Start in Life website offers practical advice on common breastfeeding concerns including latching, expressing, feeding in public, and returning to work.

It also brings together trusted advice, support and guidance for every stage of your child's early years and beyond. From pregnancy and feeding to childcare and early years education, right through to starting school, get advice and support at BestStartinLife.gov.uk.