Dp has just announced that his sister who lives in Aus wants to pay for him to come out next year to see her get married. Unfortunately we had to say no as the flights for him , me and 3 dc's were just way to much. I was really gutted and so was dp. However the recent failure of his buisness , which left us in a lot of debt meant we had no option. We are now living to a really tight budget trying to get back on track. Now his sis has asked how he feels about her paying for him to go. Now i would love for him to be able to go and see her get married but his family are going for 3 weeks.
He just told me and my initial reaction was 'that's his hols all gone for next year so no chance of us getting away at all.' He now in a mood as he says i shouldn't be so dismissive , so presume he thought he would be going.
If he does go that's me at home with 3 dc's over easter and ds's birthday . We have bought a tent this year in hope to get cheap hols away but obv i won't be able to go without dp.
Also he will still need spending money for holiday which will be hard to find , probably accomodation etc.
agree with everyone else that just because the rest of the family are going for 3 weeks doesnt mean that he has to. The flight is a killer, and takes ages to get over, but if he wants to see his sister get married then I think going for a week is a big compromise. I havent been to Oz in 8 years, but accomm used to be extremely cheap (we stayed in a 4 star hotel with a pool etc in the centre of Sydney for £32 a night)
I think he should go for the 3 weeks. Once he is there its silly just to turn round and come home again - its a once in a lifetime event and it would be nice for him to share it with his sister and other family. Ok, yes it sucks for you a bit, but if it was the other way around wouldn't you want him to be generous to you and let you go, willingly and without (too much) resentment? I know that's what I'd want from my dh.
Yeah I'd say 10 days max, it's not really necessary to do any longer, despite the killer flight. The first time I went to Oz (pre DS) was only for two weeks so it can be done. I hope he's willing to compromise.
No dd2 will be 2 in Jan so have to pay for all flights and that is a definate impossibility.
Elliott i appreciate it's a once in a lifetime opportunity. But going for 3 weeks would mean he misses ds birthday and the spending money / accomodation means we would have to forgo any hol or extra of any sort for the rest of us. Does that make me sound mean ?
I mentioned the week to him and he didn't really say either way but agreed 3 weeks would be too long.