My oh of 22 years came home a few months ago to tell me that he was leaving to be with a very close colleague. This was in a drunken state. Lots of anger and talking led me to believe that we were both trying to fix'us' - although i hadn't got round to telling him what he needed to do I did accept some responsibility for our problems.
Fwd to last weekend, we were out for a drink in our attempt to improve things and I caught him texting her a number times. Turns out they've kissed at work and also had a night away together.
I feel sick, devastated and so, so angry. He's going from sorry, guilty to cross with me for not taking notice of how unhappy my shortcomings were making him.
One week on and he's now bored with trying to reassure me. Thinks saying he loves me & wants to go to relate is enough to stop me hassling him!! Not ended things with her tho as they're both on holiday (teachers) & says on the one hand that there's nothing to end and then that he owes her to tell her in person. Didn't think what he owes me & our son tho. She's also with someone & has a child.
Really don't know what to do. Told him to get out last night to clear my head & after being sad and saying he didn't want to, & me standing my ground, he recovered enough to meet up with a friend which he knew I didn't want him to do. Last time he met with him (also from work) I discovered that she was also there- despite promises that she wasn't going.
Think I need to get sorted but i get strong & then he says he wants to just be with me. It's totally messing my head
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Whatdyknow · 15/07/2018 17:47
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