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Dating Thread 129 - Time to put a new spring in your step

999 replies

RunsforCake14 · 21/02/2018 20:14

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread
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flowergirl5 · 22/02/2018 18:39

Bloody how many times has he let you down now? are they actually valid reasons? Sometimes things do come up but I know I'm always think it's an excuse lol xx

ignoringthechoc · 22/02/2018 18:48

Pretty much that Bloody, is what they are saying they are looking for really what they are looking for? Of course it's impossible to tell really and we are all just learning from our mistakes so not all that helpful- sorry.
Kin if you would like another critique then I am (extremely) nosey :) Sounds like you have it covered now thanks to the thread.
I have to admit I log into this thread before I check for messages on pof....that's the wrong way round isn't it!

Lollysticks12 · 22/02/2018 18:54

Thanks bant, he wanted to meet tonight at 10pm?? for a drink as we are both busy til half 9, is that weird? Lol
I have a good time when we are together it's just the doubts starts creeping in the day after, suppose I'll try one more date

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 22/02/2018 19:01

Thanks everyone - now I understand . We have just had one date which went very well I thought and no sex ! He arranged another and then asked to change 24 hours before due to family . We have another arranged but I get the feeling that it's not going to materialise . Why bother asking for another though ? Just bail if not interested ??

flowergirl5 · 22/02/2018 19:10

Bloody it could be genuine if it's just a one off. Is it his kids he needs to be with? It's a hard one to judge but I know it would annoy me xx

VixenSixen · 22/02/2018 19:36

Well today I went to deactivate Match because it was pissing me off...... and been speaking to 4 guys today. Like bloody buses, wait for ages and 4 come along at once.....

I've got a date tomorrow night (woohoo). We've been chatting for what feels like forever and had to cancel once but I'm really looking forward to getting together.

I've got a date next weekend for lunch & drinks in Birmingham.Can't believe it......

It is helping keep MrBytheSea out of my head who is still gnawing away at me, he has a lot on with move & work so leaving well alone for the time being. Lol

esk1mo · 22/02/2018 19:43

woo, go you! vixen

so we have our 3rd date on saturday, walking/hiking. should take around 2 hours. should i go to pret and get some snacks for
us incase we want to stop and sit at the top?

as you can tell im a worrier and a planner, i need to have every detail planned Sad

BeenThereDating · 22/02/2018 20:08

Pog your V card takes the absolute biscuit. What a horrible thing to do. Between that and no-shows for dates there are some warped minds around.

On the upside that's exactly how you need to feel to get the most out of an FB. He needs to be hot, you need to enjoy the sex and like him enough to fuck him BUT you need to dislike just enough about him to avoid bonding...

Kin I'm sorry that Miss I didn't work out but I do think you've done the right thing. Good luck!!

Pogmella · 22/02/2018 20:15

Thanks Been! Had coffee with a friend and then works drinks this afternoon so have had quite the giggle about it. The cheek of him! I intend on not responding at all- he'll doubt it ever arrived Grin

CoverMeLads · 22/02/2018 20:36

Vixen the exact same thing happened on POF: was about to jack it in then 2 irons arrived, as if by magic.

Remind me how old you are again? As we might well be fishing in the same pond if you’re in the Midlands.....Shock

ignoringthechoc · 22/02/2018 20:45

Well, I think that makes me the third person to have been stood up on this thread! It was only arranged yesterday, can't possibly have forgotten already :)
I sent a message with my number so no excuse for not letting me know, and I waited 20 minutes because I'm polite but then felt like an idiot so came home. Where have the manners gone? Really does put you off the whole thing, glad I have a night out with friends planned this weekend I want to get tipsy! :)

MissCatt · 22/02/2018 20:46

Cover I'm Mids too... party time Grin

MissCatt · 22/02/2018 20:47

Oh Ignoring that totally sucks. So sorry you had that happen. What a douche. Yes, look forward to a night with your friends. Nothing better! Forget the idiot... hard though as I know it bruises for a while. It's not you, it's him.

esk1mo · 22/02/2018 20:48

ignoring thats horrible, what a twat. what had you arranged to do with him? has he blocked you on the dating site?

ignoringthechoc · 22/02/2018 20:54

Thanks Catt I'm not going to worry too much, as it was only a last minute quick drink so not chatted too much at all and it was 5 minutes down the road so not wasted a whole evening :)
Esk don't think I am blocked but he doesn't appear to be responding to messages even though he was online earlier :) It's just the rudeness that I don't get, if I changed my mind I would cancel. Ah well what was it Vet KOKO?

Bloodyuselessatthinkingofaname · 22/02/2018 20:58

Honestly ignoring what is wrong with people . What an arse !

pudding21 · 22/02/2018 21:08

After 2 hours of feeling sorry for myself, I went to the gym, re-downloaded tinder again and feel like being a bit naughty. A totally inappropriate guy flashed up (hes very local) but very hot, has mutual friends (not Mr A, in fact he is total opposite of shirt and jumper boy. Only joking hes still gorgeous). He looks a lot of fun, checked out his instagram and gonna message him. Looks like a younger hotter version of ex FWB, and he feels more "safe" than someone who doesn't have any links at all. Kind of an inbetweener.

ignoring ahhhhhh why do people do it? Its just cruel and rude. Remember a reflection on them not you. Hope you are ok.

Also going out to an African Baille night( they are always awesome) on Saturday with a couple of girlie friends. Mr A will probably be there, so I am going to look as hot as possible. And wear red. :)

ignoringthechoc · 22/02/2018 21:08

Cheers Bloody yes complete arse, nothing an early easter egg can't fix though :)

Kinunir · 22/02/2018 21:11

Feeling sorry for ignoring - so many guys on OLD are total pricks, excited for pudding and grateful to all - 3 messages on POF before I’ve even sent one myself. Your advice rocks!! Smile

Pogmella · 22/02/2018 21:13

Hmmm so FWB has had a bit of a personal tragedy unforts. I went through similar last yr... I think he's making some pretty standard mistakes (That I did) basically "Yeah I'll be fine for work tomo".... So do I like tell him this? That seems v.not FWB but also it's a fellow human hurting Sad

ignoringthechoc · 22/02/2018 21:14

Woo hoo go Kin and Pudding your news has cheered me up :) New FWB Pudding sounds like a plan, enjoy.

MissCatt · 22/02/2018 21:16

Ignoring Even so, he should have had the decency to let you know. But at least you didn't have to drive miles. His complete loss. Enjoy the choc!

Yay Kin! Hope they're lovely ladies!

Pud Go girl... yeah, you make Mr A regret his indifference. Bet you'll look hot as hell. Work it!

Kinunir · 22/02/2018 21:18

Pog you’ve had the WB so nowt wrong with doing some of the F bit in my opinion.

SpringtimeSun · 22/02/2018 21:18

Kinunir you're new and tweaked profile looks and sounds great. Hope it brings you lots of fish (old ones if that's your preference Grin)

Pogmella · 22/02/2018 21:21

Kin he's demonstrating pretty textbook shock/denial. I've no doubt the WB will cease for sometime. Yeah I think I'll throw in my two penneth. He can tell me to get out if his personal life if he wants but I guess if he told me he'd had a meltdown at work is feel super guilty thinking 'I thought you would'