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March 2016- first birthday's coming up!

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marmiteandcheeseplease Mon 06-Feb-17 19:22:48

Thought I'd start a new thread as the old one is getting full!

FirstTimeMummy25 Mon 06-Feb-17 20:06:26

The title of this thread has just got me thinking... what is everyone doing for their little ones 1st birthdays?

Swearwolf Mon 06-Feb-17 20:59:48

Thanks for the new thread marmite! It has got really quiet on here lately...

I have no idea what we're doing for the baby's birthday ftm. Ideally I'd have just family and a few friends over for cake and tea, but our flat is so small and cramped we just can't (we're moving soon and I was hoping it would be before her birthday, but it won't). Any ideas welcome! She's crawling and pulling up like crazy but not walking yet, so our public place options are limited a little.

Me624 Mon 06-Feb-17 21:12:05

Good job on the new thread marmite!

It has gone quiet hasn't it, I am so busy now I'm back at work! Not much time for MNing.

I'm looking forward to DS's birthday! We're having a party for him but just something fairly low key at home. Family, a few friends and some sandwiches and cake etc. His actual birthday is on a Friday and DH and I have both taken the day off, we're going to take DS to the zoo. Do you have anywhere near you like a church hall Swear you could hire? The ones round here are really reasonable to hire, our local one is £10 an hour and you only really need 2 hours for a party.

Work's going well and DS has settled really well into nursery which is just a huge relief, I can concentrate on work knowing he's ok. I'd hate to think of him being unhappy somewhere. I love our little journeys to nursery in the mornings, we go on the bus (he goes to nursery by my work) and he loves it, plenty of other passengers to pull faces at him and make him giggle, the big windows to look out of, he also loves to sit next to me with my handbag and pull everything out and put it back in again. It's a nice bit of extra time we have together in the morning!

sherazade Mon 06-Feb-17 21:53:11

Hi me, swear, first , marmite and all the march mums. No specific first birthday plans yet! Can't believe they're nearly one !
Marmite - ditto with the co sleeping . I knew dd2 did this too and went seamlessly into her own room and bed at some point so am not too worried . Dh slept on a fold up mattress so we had plenty of space and just went with the flow
Me- so glad works going well , ahh yoUr mornings sound lovely - enjoy them!
swear tiny flat here too ! The joys of no space eh
Ds is a handful . Today someone remarked that he was the most curious baby she had ever seen . He is seriously a live wire . He absolutely loves other people and babies and is known to climb on and manhandle the other babies at playgroups out of curiosity / friendliness which means am always having to redirect his energy and it's hard work !
Hope everyone else is well x

FirstTimeMummy25 Mon 06-Feb-17 22:04:02

We have a small house too which we are in the process of moving from... so party here is out of the question thinking of hijacking my mums house. We are also thinking of taking DS to the zoo me as DS birthday is a Friday too and I don't work Fridays and DH has booked the day off. DS isn't crawling or walking yet just rolls everywhere. Had his 9-12 month check with health visitor on Friday and she said if he's not moving in 3 months she will have to refer me to the paediatrics or something?! So I'm rather worried now. She said he's excelling in other areas but just very behind on gross motor skills.
Someone mentioned to me that they took their baby to an aquarium on their 1st baby as they loved all the fish and bright lights etc thought that was quite a good idea too...

DomesticAnarchist Mon 06-Feb-17 22:56:41


Busy here too. (Understatement)

Also no crawling, he still kind of bum-shuffles slowly, and will pull up on anything. But no crawling. I'm glad, in a way: I'm not ready for the chasing, stair gates or baby proofing!

For DS1's birthday we had some cake at the soft play - most places have a baby area which is ideal for the crawlers fenced in, soft landing

DS2 might get a bit of cake and a song. Maybe we'll go to the zoo or something. Aquarium sounds nice, actually.

MrsElls Tue 07-Feb-17 05:40:20

Morning all! It's my first day back to work today ☹ . Need to get 4 of us out of the house by 7.30 so got to be super organised. Set my alarm for 5.45 but C has 'helped' by waking at 5. Think we are in for our next tooth. At least I can feed her before my shower and stand some chance of not smelling of milk!

We are just having close family round for C's birthday. If anyone has an aquarium near them I would recommend it more than a zoo at this age, they can get much closer to the glass and there's more movement for them to follow, sleepy animals hiding in a cage can be a little difficult for little ones to spot. Plus an aquarium is indoors! I think at London aquarium you have to leave buggies somewhere so take a sling if you use one.

DomesticAnarchist Tue 07-Feb-17 06:29:32

Good luck MrsE.

Swearwolf Tue 07-Feb-17 07:04:04

Good luck MrsE! I'm back a week today sad

MrsElls Tue 07-Feb-17 07:19:13

Thanks 😊. The early start has meant that remarkably we have all been ready for ages! I would have rather had the extra sleep though!

Swearwolf Tue 07-Feb-17 09:33:08

Good work! I'm determined to make the most of this week - I've just walked ds to preschool, got home and fed the baby to sleep. I'm sitting on my bed with my free waitrose latte and cuddling my sleeping baby in the peace and quiet (ignoring the horrible mess around me). I'm going to miss this!!!

Me624 Tue 07-Feb-17 09:43:42

Good luck today MrsE! I couldn't imagine how I was going to get us out by 7.30 every day but we've managed just fine! It helps when DS wakes up later and I can get myself ready before going to wake him up, but it doesn't always work out that way and we've had many mornings including this morning where DS sits on my lap while I do my make up, he has a chew on the eyeliner while I do my mascara and then we swap grin grin

I'd love to take DS to an aquarium but I can't think of one near me other than London and I can't be dealing with the train and the tube I don't think. Hopefully DS will see a few animals at the zoo.

TriJo Tue 07-Feb-17 15:06:41

Dom We have a bumshuffler here too, no crawling because he hates being on his tummy. Getting close to walking though!

My parents are over from Ireland the week before so we'll do something with them for his first birthday.

1frenchfoodie Tue 07-Feb-17 20:18:03

Thanks for starting a new thread marmite, feels like I haven't posted for ages. DH is now a SAHD after our move to Paris and it seems to be going well, I often hear him singing to her just before I open the door. Daft stuff about changing her nappy etc but very heartwarmimg. I can't wait to come from work to see them but think the split could work well. Hope your first day back at work went well MrsE

For those still BF do you have a (vague) cut off in mind? DH and DD will be back in the UK for 10-11 days later this month and I was a bit suprised my mum expected me to use the time to stop BF. I currently feed before and after work and at least once in the night. In my mind I thought I'd carry on past a year and she is an end March baby but perhaps after 10 days without it is best to stop? What do you wise ladies think? Weaning is going well, breakfast and lunch best but she is great with finger food and even keen to 'feed herself' from a spoon if I make a thick mash.

I like the aquarium idea for her birthday FTM Tickets here almost £20 but we've nothing else planned as family wont visit til later in the year and we dont know anybody much yet having not moved to a permanent house yet. When we do I work about head cracking, DD is cruising with the occasional step and the floors downstairs are all tiled. Will have to watch her like a hawk.

1frenchfoodie Tue 07-Feb-17 20:18:42

I worry about head cracking - I am not working on it!

Swearwolf Tue 07-Feb-17 20:27:03

I have no great plan to stop feeding french, but I'll definitely keep going until at least a year. No point introducing formula at this stage! I'd say a trip away was the worst possible time to wean as they're often unsettled being away from home and don't sleep as well.

Love the aquarium idea, we're pretty far away from anything here though.

DomesticAnarchist Tue 07-Feb-17 22:28:42

1french, re: BFing - I'm just about still going morning/evening/overnight (he has formula during the day and for a dream feed). I'd fed DS1 till just before he was 2. We were both happy with that.

With DS2 I'm not sure we'll make it a year. He bites, he won't feed for longer than about 3 minutes, so he doesn't get much more than a taste anyway. I'm a bit disappointed.

TriJo Tue 07-Feb-17 22:52:06

Regarding BF'ing - he's down to about 3-4 feeds a day on weekdays and I'm fine with keeping that going for as long as he wants to. My supply took a big hit due to pregnancy hormones even if it was only very short term and it's only really coming back up a little now. I'd say he'll wean completely when we get a sticky bean #2.

sherazade Wed 08-Feb-17 17:43:47

Will probably stop breastfeeding around age 2 . Dd self weaned at that age and we were both happy with that so am ok doing that again , I think!

MrsElls Fri 10-Feb-17 06:40:26

Morning all, work is going ok, very busy already which gives me no chance to think about missing the kids. I'm finding it hard to get them both home, fed, bf for C, bath and ready for bed at a reasonable time though. C normally goes to bed at 7 but on nursery days she is always shattered and would go earlier but i just can't get everything done in time.

I'll probably stop bf fairly soon, she only has it morning and evening and no other milk in between so when she can have cows milk I'll probably switch to that.

Me624 Sat 11-Feb-17 06:49:35

Hats off to you all for even bfing this long! I only have one friend IRL who is still going.

Glad work is going well MrsElls. I only have one and find it hard to get back and do bedtime. The temptation is always to play with DS for a bit when he get home because obviously I haven't seen him all day, but he quickly descends into overtired after a long day at nursery and then bedtime becomes more difficult. We haven't quite refined our routine yet!

DS will be one in just under 3 weeks, we've got half a tin of formula left so I think I'm going to start transitioning him over to cows milk, mixing it with formula to begin with. It will be so nice not having to buy formula anymore and we box up the perfect prep and get some kitchen space back!

Dom is it you whose DS has got asthma? I'm concerned that mine may have it. He's had a cold for three weeks now so at first I thought it was just that but he hardly coughs during the day and then has at least one mega coughing fit every night where despite not really waking up he coughs really hard on and off for 30 mins or so, waking the rest of the house up. I googled persistent nighttime coughs in babies (I know I shouldn't Google, but it's hard not to!) and all the advice was saying get checked for asthma. Just wondered if your DS had had similar symptoms.

DomesticAnarchist Sat 11-Feb-17 13:39:19

Me, he hasn't been diagnosed but sometimes I have my suspicions. The inhaler he was given for the viral wheeze has nearly run out, following more colds & coughing.

Like yours, he hardly coughs in the day time. Worse at night.

I'm asthmatic, and can get the evening cough if it's playing up.

It might be worth a trip to the doc. (For both of us!)

Timetogrowup2016 Sat 11-Feb-17 15:02:44

Dropping back in.
Dd is one next week.
Still a night mare. Some says she takes a 15 minute nap some no naps.
Spends all day whingey and crying.
Can't crawl, bum shuffle, pull up to stand etc. hv has referred to hospital for the gross motor delays as her weight is creeping up to the top of the charts from only being able to sit on her bottom.
Finding life tough .

This is my little lady now

MrsElls Sat 11-Feb-17 18:13:35

Ah Time sorry to hear its still so tough for you. Your hv is probably right to refer for the gross motor skills but I'm a firm believer that children do things in their own time and there is nothing anyone can do to change that. When she does start moving around she might get happier as she is more independent and she might tire herself out enough to sleep in the day, i know you probably feel like you have been waiting for that day forever but it will come at some point (and hopefully for you some point soon).

She really is adorable though.

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