SIL and Nephews Christmas Presents

[quicklybeingdrivenmad]

Every year my SIL sends me a list with ideas of what to get my two nephews, normally spend about £75 on them each, normally the list has one biggish present and few bits on it.

This years came with about 7 items on all ranging between £5-£15, thought nothing off it and my budget bought all the presents on the list, because I like to be organized (which she knows) list got sent end Oct beg Nov.

Fast forward to today, just got a new list because she made a mistake and sent me the one meant for her family (as there are 6 siblings they spend less per child with there being so many) with a note saying sorry her family have bought the gifts so could I just return mine and buy from the amended list, as when she sent it to them it last week realised she had sent me the same one.

AIBU in the fact that

1. mine were bought over a month ago so probably cannot return all of them and get a refund, so she should get her family to do the returns as they should get a refund because only bought recently.

2. Why should I start Christmas shopping again, hunting down presents which may not even arrive for Christmas.

Just to add we do have a decent relationship and my brother is my last close living family, and this year will be hard for me and him as we lost our mum 2020, part of me thinks I should just buy from the new list and return what I can, but part of me is a bit annoyed that she knows me and my brother struggle at Christmas having buried our dad 2016 and this being mums anniversary and she should have just done a new list for her family,

Just say, sorry no it's too late to return mine as it's past the return date, hope your family can return theirs and leave it with her to deal with

@dancemom

Just say, sorry no it's too late to return mine as it's past the return date, hope your family can return theirs and leave it with her to deal with

This

Fuck that. Explain too late to return. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Say sorry but you can’t return yours so she’ll have to think of some other things for them to buy

@dancemom

Just say, sorry no it's too late to return mine as it's past the return date, hope your family can return theirs and leave it with her to deal with

This. It’s her problem not yours.

Just say sorry I really don’t have time but happy to drop them to you with receipts if you want to sort it before Xmas

Just say you can't return them now it's to late. She can make a new list for her family surely? Or they can club together and buy one big gift?

@RoastedParnsip has it. Her relatives club together and buy one gift.

Agree with pp's. And it's cheeky of her to ask you to do the running around on her mistake

Agree with other posters. You’ve bought your gifts from the list given, so it’s the list for the other relatives that requires a rethink.

As above "sorry I've been super organised this year and purchased them ages ago, hopefully the gifts can be returned at your end?

They wont club together, they all buy individually

I'd return what I could, give her the list of what you can't and buy from the new list. Unless you absolutely can't afford the time. It's a bit churlish not to. Is your Brother doing anything to do with Christmas? Perhaps she is overstretched?

Well this one year either your SIL draws up a new list or her relatives need to collaborate.

Ridiculous to have you do all the running around.

Send her the gifts and the receipts. Tell her she is free to exchange but you have finished your shopping..

@Ponoka7 yes I am really busy, the last two weeks of every quarter is my busiest time as we run our own business so have VAT, payroll to finalise and check all the accounts, and my brother is very hands on, just for example he does all the food shopping, can be flexible with his hours for child pick ups, between them they have 2 boys who football train twice a week at different times, match's at different places, swimming at different times and they supervised him last week putting the fairy lights all over the outside of the house, however I do appreciate my SIL works and is always running round after the boys as well but they do it together.
Churlish sounds a bit harsh I was just asking for opinions

Yes you just tell her it's too late to return them as it's more than a month and also, you wouldn't have had the time anyway. Her family can return theirs.

Tell her your presents are already wrapped and are past the returns period. Her mistake to sort out.

Its her cock up not yours.

You bought yours over a month ago.

Why cant you just tell her what you have said to us?

You will feel so much better. i do.

Do you still have the receipts? It's crap but i would try. It sounds like it was a genuine mistake. I know it's a hassle.

Or just send her the gifts with the receipts and she can return them and use the money to buy something else?

Definitely just say sorry, too late to return them now and they're all wrapped.

Sell the gifts you bought to her family? She can do the running around. And get her to buy and wrap your gift if you send her the money? You shouldn’t have to run around due to her being unorganised but it’s gifts for a kid and you should all try your best to avoid a fall out etc.

Just say you can’t return them anymore, completely understandable. Surly she can find other ideas for her family.

@dancemom

Just say, sorry no it's too late to return mine as it's past the return date, hope your family can return theirs and leave it with her to deal with

Agree with this. It's a problem of her own making, and the problem is hers to sort out, not yours.

Tell her it's too late to return them but offer to drop off the gifts now so she can exchange or whatever.
Don't discuss it or potential exchanges any further or you'll end up being the mug running around.
Your part in it is done.