DD (aged 7) is supposed to go to ExH EOW for 1 night (court ordered). We split due his violence and control.
Last night he text me to say he wouldn’t be at the pickup point today, no reason given.
I usually go swimming EOW after dropping DD with her dad, and had already paid for the session when he cancelled so I asked a relative to have my DD while I swimmed. Relative posted a photo on Facebook of DD grinning and eating an icecream captioned “We’re not missing you mum” with me tagged.
ExH doesn’t have me as friend on FB but we have quite a few mutual friends as he used to live in this town (his parents and sibling still do) so someones shown it to him.
He’s text me telling me I’m disgusting leaving my daughter with a stranger (not a stranger, it’s my aunt for context who helps me with childcare in the week – DD adores my aunt) and that if I don’t want her he’s happy to have her all the time.
For context I do 100% of all the parenting, apart from EOW for 24 hours everything is my responsibility. I love being a mum and everything to do with my life revolves around my DD and her routine and needs – even my working day. When she’s with me for the weekend I literally never let her out of my sight but my swimming is my me time to chill out.
I think he wanted me to beg him to have DD and regain some control of me and my life.
So AIBU to ask for a good comeback to the text? And AIBU to have still gone swimming?
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To think he can’t cancel then dictate my childcare?
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HereHeGoes · 18/09/2021 14:42
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