Naked children in courtyard cafés

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bibblybop Sun 18-Jul-21 17:28:57

Today DH and I took DS to a local beauty spot. Like a National Trust but not actually NT if you get me? Beautiful gardens, old mansion, gorgeous.

We were having a bite to eat in the courtyard cafe near a family with several young children running around. Fine. Except the youngest little girl (roughly 3yo) was running around completely naked.

I'm not a prude, and I'm very sympathetic to parents as I know from experience that kids can be unruly/unreasonable and sometimes decorum has to come second to a child's need (i'm thinking public wees in an emergency kind of scenarios here...)

But I feel like allowing your child to run around completely naked in an outdoor café is a bit much? People are there trying to enjoy their lunch while a little girl is romping around everyone's tables with no clothes on... I know it's hot but it's a cafe FGS

I'd love to know people's thoughts on this because I feel like I'm missing something 🙈😂 Surely they can't think that's acceptable? Or is it?!

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Lottapianos Sun 18-Jul-21 17:30:12

No, it's not acceptable. Some people behave as if the entire world is their own front room / back garden

0None0 Sun 18-Jul-21 17:31:11

Not acceptable

Marty13 Sun 18-Jul-21 17:32:03

They should have kept her underclothes or diaper on at least ...

takealettermsjones Sun 18-Jul-21 17:32:15

I wouldn't even question it if it was a beach, but yeah a cafe is a bit much. I wouldn't say anything though - she's not doing any harm really.

HalfTermHalfTerm Sun 18-Jul-21 17:32:39

It’s not very hygienic but it’s also around 30 degrees here today. Aside from anything else I would be worried about the sunburn she might get confused

Bimblybomeyelash Sun 18-Jul-21 17:33:35

I’d have more of a problem with the running around than I would with the nakedness.

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Bagelsandbrie Sun 18-Jul-21 17:33:38

At a cafe is weird. Not okay.

At a beach fair enough.

Faranth Sun 18-Jul-21 17:33:50

No, I don't think that's OK, and I wouldn't do it.

50% not wanting weirdos potentially perving at DD

And 50% worried about sunburn - it's bloody ridiculous sun at the minute!

FreeBritnee Sun 18-Jul-21 17:33:51

Well I wouldn’t outside of my back garden.

Marty13 Sun 18-Jul-21 17:34:02

Is it possible that she soiled her clothes and they decided that naked is better than in soiled clothes ? For all you know one of the parents was rushing home for clean clothes at the time...

Maggiesfarm Sun 18-Jul-21 17:34:04

You're right, it isn't acceptable. They can have just as much fun wearing a little pair of cotton shorts.

PyjamaFan Sun 18-Jul-21 17:34:40

Yeah I would also worry about sunburn. And it's not particularly appropriate in a cafe either.

Hoppinggreen Sun 18-Jul-21 17:35:36

DH is German and the DC inherited his lax attitude to clothes
They have grown out of it now but it was hard to get them to wear swimsuits on the beach/by the pool on holiday and during the summer if at home or in the garden they were generally naked
But no way would I have let them do it in that environment

Newpuppymummy Sun 18-Jul-21 17:35:57

I wouldn’t let my children do it but it wouldn’t massively bother me. To be honest it would bother me more that she was running around the tables than she was naked

MistyFrequencies Sun 18-Jul-21 17:36:50

Yep. Not acceptable.

MapGirlExtraordinaire Sun 18-Jul-21 17:36:53

I'd find it cute tbh. My two have been naked in public many times, they want to and I can't think of a good reason to say no. If it bothers someone else then that's their problem.

Noise and running so close as to cause people aggravation I would put a stop to, but a 3 yr old's little naked bum? Nah, fine in my book.

JaniieJones Sun 18-Jul-21 17:36:59

God no, why can't parents protect their kids privacy. I don't even like dc naked on beaches. Private back gardens fine, anywhere public then swimming costumes or underwear.

DinosaurDiana Sun 18-Jul-21 17:37:13

Not appropriate. Knickers/nappy at least.

Rinoachicken Sun 18-Jul-21 17:39:35

@MapGirlExtraordinaire

You can’t think of single reason to say no? Really?!

Does there need to BE a reason? How about a simple “we wear clothes when we go outside the house”

andbreeeathe Sun 18-Jul-21 17:41:44

MapGirlExtraordinaire

I'd find it cute tbh. My two have been naked in public many times, they want to and I can't think of a good reason to say no. If it bothers someone else then that's their problem.

Noise and running so close as to cause people aggravation I would put a stop to, but a 3 yr old's little naked bum? Nah, fine in my book.

Tbh I'd think 'It bothers someone else' would be 'a good reason to say no' shock

JaniieJones Sun 18-Jul-21 17:42:32

'I'd find it cute tbh. My two have been naked in public many times, they want to and I can't think of a good reason to say no. If it bothers someone else then that's their problem.'

It 'bothers me' because young dc don't know any better so as parents we must protect them. There are weirdos with phones who could film your poor dc.

You wouldn't let an 8 years of run round naked in public would you, they probably wouldn't want to because they have developed body awareness by that age. Little ones haven't so that's why parents should ensure they at least have underwear on when in public.

AnUnoriginalUsername Sun 18-Jul-21 17:43:03

3 is far too old to not understand that you can't be naked in a cafe. I wouldn't feel comfortable at all with a 3 year old running about naked and I'm far from a prude.

LemonRoses Sun 18-Jul-21 17:44:24

I think if it's a place with splash fountains designed for play its perfectly reasonable. Any urine would go down the drains with the water and plenty of children void in pools and the sea. \hardly life threatening.

If it's a case of soaking people whilst running between tables, then probably less acceptable

TheFairyCaravan Sun 18-Jul-21 17:45:03

No. Not appropriate at all.

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